when a girl says "yeah just text me"

[RazorRambo24]

No, still ask and find out. Is better to fail and have an answer then dwell in regret. Just hit her up

Nah man when a chick or a dude tells you "just text me then" shes already too busy to decide anything, she told him she's free Sunday, why would he keep hitting her up and asking her. she still wont know if shes gonna be down on Sunday until Sunday comes around most likely.. (by the sounds of how often she goes out and plans may change for her). dude is already anxious and eager as one can get.. which is already not a good sign lol

Its college. He should save the menial sht for last minute or impromptu.. not plan it out a week ahead and then keep asking her if she will be free or if they're still down. I mean afterall, they're jus going to a dessert shop or something for a smoothie. If I were him, i'd go hang with the group more often, and try to build some rapport, -- first time i go out with them, im mostly gonna ignore her and interact with everyone else so she can see my personality/charisma and also build some desire to want to interact with me.. next time i might giv eher slightly more attentioni but not that much , unless she brings it to me.. 3rd time, im giving her decent attention and then making a move, making plans.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

You must be able to think for yourself bro...different members will have different opinions. You collect them all and than form your own.

Otherwise you should introduce this girl to @Stanley , so he can do all the texting, ahum ,"on your behalf".


Could you PLEASE text her now and get it over with? I hope you are not as anxious around this girl bro...i understand you dont wanna mess it up, but understand me that this fear to say or do something wrong is extremely unattractive.

Who the F cares if she doesn't respond how you'd like her to? Its just a freaking woman. There are ar least 4 billion of them. That's 4,000,000,000,000. You decide to chase a girl you go to class with, so now you want a foolproof waterproof method to feck her, while you know there's always a "risk " you'll get rejected.

If anything I advice you to leave her alone and focus on what need to be done in class. Teach yourself to be a professional who isnt controlled by his D. Get women from other places.

I was going to text her tomorrow (Saturday) like was recommended instead of today

 

[PlatoPacks23]

What does "in theory" means did you make a date for a time and place with her already for Sunday?

no I just asked her schedule, she said she didn't have much going on Sunday, I brought up plans and she said "yeah text me". nothing official or solidified at all

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Nah man when a chick or a dude tells you "just text me then" shes already too busy to decide anything, she told him she's free Sunday, why would he keep hitting her up and asking her. she still wont know if shes gonna be down on Sunday until Sunday comes around most likely.. (by the sounds of how often she goes out and plans may change for her). dude is already anxious and eager as one can get.. which is already not a good sign lol

Its college. He should save the menial sht for last minute or impromptu.. not plan it out a week ahead and then keep asking her if she will be free or if they're still down. I mean afterall, they're jus going to a dessert shop or something for a smoothie. If I were him, i'd go hang with the group more often, and try to build some rapport, -- first time i go out with them, im mostly gonna ignore her and interact with everyone else so she can see my personality/charisma and also build some desire to want to interact with me.. next time i might giv eher slightly more attentioni but not that much , unless she brings it to me.. 3rd time, im giving her decent attention and then making a move, making plans.

that's good advice but I already asked her and she had said, "yeah text me" so think it looks bad/not assertive if I don't at least see.

if she says no, I like your plan though of hang w group 2-3 times and then see if things escalate or not (but not ever asking her for plans unless massive interest). if not then that's it and I move on

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Playful banter OP. Escalate before the meet.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Playful banter OP. Escalate before the meet.

I am not doing that on text dude no that's going backwards

 

[RazorRambo24]

that's good advice but I already asked her and she had said, "yeah text me" so think it looks bad/not assertive if I don't at least see.

if she says no, I like your plan though of hang w group 2-3 times and then see if things escalate or not (but not ever asking her for plans unless massive interest). if not then that's it and I move on

well in my mind you framed this as a casual hangout but are treating it like a full on date. casual hangouts are always just impromptu, like hey what u doing, u wanna go grab something, cool lets go. i mean she told u what day she was free, id hit her up on Sunday. It makes more sense when u know her schedule can change any second like u mentioned. its almost like ur trying to reserve her.. instead of jus find out if shes free on the day she said she would be. she might not know that ahead of time as when ur in college, things pop up all the time.

you're just being super eager is all I feel. your eagerness actually scares me.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

well in my mind you framed this as a casual hangout but are treating it like a full on date. casual hangouts are always just impromptu, like hey what u doing, u wanna go grab something, cool lets go. i mean she told u what day she was free, id hit her up on Sunday. It makes more sense when u know her schedule can change any second like u mentioned. its almost like ur trying to reserve her.. instead of jus find out if shes free on the day she said she would be. she might not know that ahead of time as when ur in college, things pop up all the time.

you're just being super eager is all I feel. your eagerness actually scares me.

it's not college but a class thing, and in a way I sorta am trying to lock something in since I know the group sometimes do activities on Sundays..

and yeah im eager, but its just cause this is an advice board. idk what else you want me to do lol if I have questions

but yeah all "dates" I have initially are pretty casual hangouts usually nothing elaborate at all

 

[Gamisch]

well in my mind you framed this as a casual hangout but are treating it like a full on date. casual hangouts are always just impromptu, like hey what u doing, u wanna go grab something, cool lets go. i mean she told u what day she was free, id hit her up on Sunday. It makes more sense when u know her schedule can change any second like u mentioned. its almost like ur trying to reserve her.. instead of jus find out if shes free on the day she said she would be. she might not know that ahead of time as when ur in college, things pop up all the time.

you're just being super eager is all I feel. your eagerness actually scares me.

Holy shyte that last sentence made me laugh like crazy.

Spot on. If strange dudes on a small niche forum already feel this needy energy I can only imagine how she must feel at times...that goes from conversations to stares ect.

I was going to text her tomorrow (Saturday) like was recommended instead of today

You got a lot to learn and that's no shame my friend. We all landed here because we needed to learn more about women.

But i am looking beyond Sunday, and I even imagine she does become your gf. Will be a wild ride for you. Only date women on college that are ALL over YOU. There will be countless jealous and insecure moments if you act this anxious all the time . Breath, relax and stop looking into this too much..remember :how you start is how you finish!

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Holy shyte that last sentence made me laugh like crazy.

Spot on. If strange dudes on a small niche forum already feel this needy energy I can only imagine how she must feel at times...that goes from conversations to stares ect.


You got a lot to learn and that's no shame my friend. We all landed here because we needed to learn more about women.

But i am looking beyond Sunday, and I even imagine she does become your gf. Will be a wild ride for you. Only date women on college that are ALL over YOU. There will be countless jealous and insecure moments if you act this anxious all the time . Breath, relax and stop looking intoil this too much..remember :how you start is how you finish!

BOBS AND VAGINE BABY!!!

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Holy shyte that last sentence made me laugh like crazy.

Spot on. If strange dudes on a small niche forum already feel this needy energy I can only imagine how she must feel at times...that goes from conversations to stares ect.


You got a lot to learn and that's no shame my friend. We all landed here because we needed to learn more about women.

But i am looking beyond Sunday, and I even imagine she does become your gf. Will be a wild ride for you. Only date women on college that are ALL over YOU. There will be countless jealous and insecure moments if you act this anxious all the time . Breath, relax and stop looking intoil this too much..remember :how you start is how you finish!

I think I just come across "serious" and not as loose as I could be sometimes w her, esp. with around other guys. the neediness idk about, she's still super friendly to me all time

how does me saying im going to text tomorrow mean I have a lot to learn? lol

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

Men tend to overestimate women's interest in them.

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797619900315

The study involved 1,226 participants, and aimed to investigate whether sociosexual orientation and projection played a role in sex differences in misperceptions of sexual interest. The participants engaged in a speed-dating task where they rated their own and their partner's sexual interest. Results showed that men tended to overestimate sexual interest, while women tended to underestimate it.

 

[forcerecon01]

I would wait until Tuesday and ask her if she's free on Friday to go for drinks, Sunday's doesn't sound good to have a date when everyone should be getting ready to start the week, but that's my opinion.

Sundays are a day of. rest.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I would wait until Tuesday and ask her if she's free on Friday to go for drinks, Sunday's doesn't sound good to have a date when everyone should be getting ready to start the week, but that's my opinion.

Sunday is Church Day. It's arguably the least sexual day of the week (for singles).

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Lolz check out the existentialist here


Sunday is Church Day. It's arguably the least sexual day of the week (for singles).

so why would she say she's free on Sunday then? just stop man with your Sunday BS I've done plenty of Sunday dates

 

[Stanley]

Nah man when a chick or a dude tells you "just text me then" shes already too busy to decide anything, she told him she's free Sunday, why would he keep hitting her up and asking her. she still wont know if shes gonna be down on Sunday until Sunday comes around most likely.. (by the sounds of how often she goes out and plans may change for her). dude is already anxious and eager as one can get.. which is already not a good sign lol

You did not read my posts accurately at all and it is extremely apparent given your response

I am advocating for op to make a move and keep it casual, this isn't a date, this is just a meetup.

I If I were him, i'd go hang with the group more often, and try to build some rapport, -- first time i go out with them, im mostly gonna ignore her and interact with everyone else so she can see my personality/charisma and also build some desire to want to interact with me.. next time i might giv eher slightly more attentioni but not that much , unless she brings it to me.. 3rd time, im giving her decent attention and then making a move, making plans.

I do not waste my time getting in social groups with the intention of later getting *****, that is a waste of my time and for men with no options. I haven't a clue where you got the idea I am telling op to plan things out. That is the polar opposite of what I am saying and have said from the get go to simply hit her up the day of (or before) and see what happens and let go of the outcome. I never once told op to hit her up multiple times, I said the exact opposite multiple times. The last time a girl said "just text me" she became my friends with benefits for 6 months until I dropped her when she caught feelings.

I don't know how you could possible extrapolate the conclusion you made in your response given my several posts advising op to keep it casual, remove pressure, not get in his own head and remove outcome dependence and ditch anxiety.

 

[RazorRambo24]

You did not read my posts accurately at all and it is extremely apparent given your response

I am advocating for op to make a move and keep it casual, this isn't a date, this is just a meetup.



I do not waste my time getting in social groups with the intention of later getting *****, that is a waste of my time and for men with no options. I haven't a clue where you got the idea I am telling op to plan things out. That is the polar opposite of what I am saying and have said from the get go to simply hit her up the day of (or before) and see what happens and let go of the outcome. I never once told op to hit her up multiple times, I said the exact opposite multiple times. The last time a girl said "just text me" she became my friends with benefits for 6 months until I dropped her when she caught feelings.

I don't know how you could possible extrapolate the conclusion you made in your response given my several posts advising op to keep it casual, remove pressure, not get in his own head and remove outcome dependence and ditch anxiety.

You really didn't need to bold that line.. I responded to a single line quote of yours, how would I not read it accurately? I read your other posts. All I'm saying is don't encourage his eager dwelling mind to hit her up, before the day she's free even comes.. If she doesn't kno if she's still free if the day hasn't come, whats the point, she'll just tell him Idk if i got any plans, ill let u know. and then he'd have to hit her a 3rd time when Sunday actually comes around to check again and by that time she'll def feel like maybe hes a bit too eager.. especially for a guy she interacted with like twice. She's already made it clear that she's a very busy person and told him shes free sunday and to just text her. The rest is him just being eager and uncertain. Why encourage that?

You seem to be taking what I'm saying too personally.. I only responded to one simple thing you said, nothing else. If something I said doesn't apply to anything you said, why try to fit the shoe if it isn't yours?

The fact that you encourage his eagerness and say "yeah hit her up!" do it cuz ur eager.. instead of just wait for the day shes free and hit her up then is not ideal imo. Its not terrible and no one is necessarily right or wrong here.. Its just opinion. My opinion prevents him from having to potentially hit her up 3 times and then look too eager, and still find out if shes down, on the day she said shes free, when she's less likely to flake or have things pop up. vs yours which can turn into her being like yeah im still down for Sunday, jus text me then (yet again)..to which he will have to hit her up anyways, to which she can then say something came up or w.e. When poeople say stuff like "Just text me", its like they're not trying to plan **** out, they mean just text me and see if im free because they really don't know what will come up.

Its not rocket science.. its basic sht... after hundreds of dates its just simplified what makes sense and what doesn't to me.. that's what i base my opinion on. You seem to be going after a "dont think so much, JUST HIT HER UP because what does it matter" approach. Idk if you don't sense how eager /anxious this dude is.. but furthering actions that promote that is not going to help his game at all.

 

[Stanley]

You really didn't need to bold that line.. I responded to a single line quote of yours, how would I not read it accurately? I read your other posts. All I'm saying is don't encourage his eager dwelling mind to hit her up, before the day she's free even comes.. If she doesn't kno if she's still free if the day hasn't come, whats the point, she'll just tell him Idk if i got any plans, ill let u know. and then he'd have to hit her a 3rd time when Sunday actually comes around to check again and by that time she'll def feel like maybe hes a bit too eager.. especially for a guy she interacted with like twice. She's already made it clear that she's a very busy person and told him shes free sunday and to just text her. The rest is him just being eager and uncertain. Why encourage that?

You seem to be taking what I'm saying too personally.. I only responded to one simple thing you said, nothing else. If something I said doesn't apply to anything you said, why try to fit the shoe if it isn't yours?

The fact that you encourage his eagerness and say "yeah hit her up!" do it cuz ur eager.. instead of just wait for the day shes free and hit her up then is not ideal imo. Its not terrible and no one is necessarily right or wrong here.. Its just opinion. My opinion prevents him from having to potentially hit her up 3 times and then look too eager, and still find out if shes down, on the day she said shes free, when she's less likely to flake or have things pop up. vs yours which can turn into her being like yeah im still down for Sunday, jus text me then (yet again)..to which he will have to hit her up anyways, to which she can then say something came up or w.e. When poeople say stuff like "Just text me", its like they're not trying to plan **** out, they mean just text me and see if im free because they really don't know what will come up.

Its not rocket science.. its basic sht... after hundreds of dates its just simplified what makes sense and what doesn't to me.. that's what i base my opinion on. You seem to be going after a "dont think so much, JUST HIT HER UP because what does it matter" approach. Idk if you don't sense how eager /anxious this dude is.. but furthering actions that promote that is not going to help his game at all.

Bruh

 

[2Rocky]

Treat these women like any one of your guy buddies. NO FREAKING DIFFERENT...ask 'em "hey wanna meet me at the smoothie shop?" and yes or no... Don't take any wishy washy answers. Don't get butthurt if she says no. ask the next girl that gives you a chub and quit thinking so damn much....

 

[CollegeMan22]

Treat these women like any one of your guy buddies. NO FREAKING DIFFERENT...ask 'em "hey wanna meet me at the smoothie shop?" and yes or no... Don't take any wishy washy answers. Don't get butthurt if she says no. ask the next girl that gives you a chub and quit thinking so damn much....

This is why you need plates….. You need options to have the confidence to keep hitting up more girls. Who cares about this one if I got another one ready to run to my room at my command?

On the other hand, no options leads to overthinking about the only potential option. Cue neediness and anxiety. Cue OP making tens of posts on simply asking out a girl.