Performance Anxiety solution

[Jesse Pinkman]

So I get Performance Anxiety from time to time when I am naked with a girl and about to f*ck. I was wondering if anyone else who has faced this has ever found a way to fix it for good. It is so inconsistent and on and off for me too.

 

[SW15]

No porn, no fap, and eating clean are best for mindset and erections.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Yea intermittently and especially if i am about to lay an 8+ where the expectation is you have to perform or die

The short answer is just grab some viagra or cialis on a low dosage and load up 30 mins before you need to do the deed

Obviously this isn't a long term solution but in the past ive found once i am a bit more connected and emotionally secure with the female i tend to be fine anyway

Just use viagra for the first couple of sessions give her a good seeing too and then once you two are more "in tune" the errections should come along by themselves


I think at the core Porn is a massive problem for male libido , your brain is seeing all these guys doing crazy sh1t to multiple women of all shapes and sizes

then when you actually get the real thing it's almost boring and a bit "meh"

Society is fvcked

 

[BackInTheGame78]

So I get Performance Anxiety from time to time when I am naked with a girl and about to f*ck. I was wondering if anyone else who has faced this has ever found a way to fix it for good. It is so inconsistent and on and off for me too.

It's only happened a few times and usually due to me working out too hard at the gym that day.

Personally, I never worry if I am going to be able to perform, I go in with a mindset of this woman is about to get rocked in a way she never experienced before. Perhaps shift your mindset.

 

[patb]

alcohol, ironically. Making sure the temperature in the room is warm. Avoiding having sex when tired.

I found alcohol either lets me **** like a pornstar, or not at all. There's no in between.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Generic viagra is super cheap. You only need 1/3rd to 1/2 a pill. Don't eat a whole pill at once.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Pop 50-100mg of viagra, bam done. If you want to step it up further you can also take Citrulline/Arginine/Yohimbine but it's overkill. Alternatively, you can take cialis which is objectively the best of the PDE-5 inhibitors.

Yes, it's not addressing the "root issue" but idgaf, it works, and they're the closest thing to miracle drugs. Plus, there is new evidence showing other unexpected benefits of PDE-5 inhibitors, cialis in particular.

As far as mentality goes - I find it extremely helpful to be in the mindset of doing whatever I like, rather than trying to please her. If you're not very turned on, it's either her fault or you two aren't sexually compatible. Stop putting all the emphasis on her.

This is counter intuitive but what turns women on is when you don't care what they want...of course still pay attention to how she feels and if she says "right there" don't you dare stop, but ultimately it helps to use treat her body like a living **** doll. Last thing, long & slow foreplay and dirty talk helps too. I for one love playing with their tits a lot (sucking, squeezing, etc) and fingering. Ideally when you actually fvck her she'll be begging for it.

 

[BMX]

CBD.

 

[Obee1]

So I get Performance Anxiety from time to time when I am naked with a girl and about to f*ck. I was wondering if anyone else who has faced this has ever found a way to fix it for good. It is so inconsistent and on and off for me too.

It depends on how the anxiety is effecting you. Are you having problems getting an erection or are you getting an erection and cumming too fast?

 

[Gamisch]

First thing that comes to mind is some type of viagra. This should be part of a DJ's standard toolkit. I used to have a plate that brought that pill with her when she visited me.

Another thing that might work is more and longer foreplay. Instead if rushing to feck her you make sure she gets you rockhard first. Let her strip. Figure out what makes YOU rockhard and let her do that. Maybe you prefer certain positions. E.g I prefer to feck doggy rather than having her riding on top of me. Doggy I can enter soft and get hard while doing so. Some positions I can't keep it up somehow, so i avoid those positions when possible.

Maybe you like certain outfits, roleplay or whatever rocks your boat. Sexuality is a complex thing, and through trail and error you'll find your preference.

Don't forget that women love to suck ****. Its basically the first method trying to keep things up. You could also focus on her body more to take your time to get hard. If you cannot get , or keep it up you can at least dominate her body with your mouth and hands. She'll return the favor with a long bj. If that doesnt get you hard, you should simply vist a doctor asap. There are tons of erection enhancement pills available. Why suffer while there are many so many options.

Keeping frame around a woman is important, no matter what happens. You will find your solution , there are plenty out there.

 

[Gamisch]

First thing that comes to mind is some type of viagra. This should be part of a DJ's standard toolkit. I used to have a plate that brought that pill with her when she visited me.

Another thing that might work is more and longer foreplay. Instead if rushing to feck her you make sure she gets you rockhard first. Let her strip. Figure out what makes YOU rockhard and let her do that. Maybe you prefer certain positions. E.g I prefer to feck doggy rather than having her riding on top of me. Doggy I can enter soft and get hard while doing so. Some positions I can't keep it up somehow, so i avoid those positions when possible.

Maybe you like certain outfits, roleplay or whatever rocks your boat. Sexuality is a complex thing, and through trail and error you'll find your preference.

Don't forget that women love to suck ****. Its basically the first method trying to keep things up. You could also focus on her body more to take your time to get hard. If you cannot get , or keep it up you can at least dominate her body with your mouth and hands. She'll return the favor with a long bj. If that doesnt get you hard, you should simply vist a doctor asap. There are tons of erection enhancement pills available. Why suffer while there are many so many options.

Keeping frame around a woman is important, no matter what happens. You will find your solution , there are plenty out there.

I would add to this, that the woman, or women you're dealing with also have a complex sexuality. If you dig deeper you might find out that the actual penetration isn't the most important thing for all women. Again, you can always give a woman a orgasmic experience with your hands and mouth as a last resort.

I know this doesn't necessarily helps to get you hard. But part of this anxiety is a form of insecurity and worry you don't "bring enough". If you figure out what one of her kinks is you might feel more confident when you are actually with her in the bedroom. Few examples to help you out; maybe she likes to get choked. Or slapped. Spanked. Roleplay. Certain places. Specific positions. Maybe she wants you to call her names. P0rn on the background .Maybe she likes to get tied up. The list goes on and on. Know your way around sextoys. All possible replacements for when your D aint working. If you manage to figure out more about her sexuality, you will be able to give her a better experience and thus you'll be more confident.


And ofcourse no (excessive) fapping..just remember to stay calm and relax whenever this happens. No need to mansplain yourself. Keep trying. If nothing works, next step, medication.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Aside from Cialis, get a blood check by a TRT specialist. You’ll find out where your numbers are and it could be a combo of reasons.

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

Generic viagra is super cheap. You only need 1/3rd to 1/2 a pill. Don't eat a whole pill at once.

Yeah but don't you need like a prescription from a doctor for it?

 

[Stanley]

Yeah but don't you need like a prescription from a doctor for it?

Go check out Hims

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

I take cialis 5mg daily for blood pressure purposes and it improves blood circulation to every part of the body which is great for the gym, and also in bed

yeah but it seems like you can't get cialis without a prescription though

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Aside from Cialis, get a blood check by a TRT specialist. You’ll find out where your numbers are and it could be a combo of reasons.

Testosterone rarely is related to ED issues.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Testosterone rarely is related to ED issues.

I’ve heard quite the opposite.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I’ve heard quite the opposite.

This isn't about hearing stuff and people's attempted self diagnosis. I am talking about what research and studies say. Testosterone rarely is the cause of ED.

Most commonly either psychological, heart related(ie, clogged arteries...ED is a warning your capillaries are being clogged prior to your arteries), excessive/intense exercise related or estrogen dominance which is usually a sign of progesterone:estrogen ratio being too far tilted towards estrogen.

 

[DonJuanjr]

Keeping frame around a woman is important, no matter what happens.

The loss of frame around the loss of an erection could lead to the loss of the chick.... I got rejected after sex with my 2nd. I lost my erection, and then showed my vulnerability with it, which instantly turned her off. My gut told me this isn't good. I KNEW she was going to reject me the next day..... Sure enough......It was the best thing that could have happened though.... Led to me becoming red pilled.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If that person is super sensitive to external T, his estrogen could go too high causing ED symptoms, I've had that before.

Yes that can happen, but again, that is your estrogen: progesterone ratio being out of whack causing it not your T level.

Progesterone is the bodies natural Viagra.