Plates vs love

[Juanto]

You have 4 plates and think like this? Hmm.

Suppose you drop all the plates because you “love” that one girl. Then that “one” girl leaves you. Now you are left with 0 plates and 0 girls.

NEVER stop spinning. I mean never. When I had a live in girlfriend, I still made dates with other girls. If I get married and have a kid, I will still go on lunch or dinner dates with younger women. Always have to keep hustling,

I don’t feel like this, no. I only have one slightly favorite plate, but I dont want to drop the other 3. I merely posed the question here to other guys who perhaps have been in a situation like i described.

 

[Barrister]

I think your thread would probably be better titled "Plates vs. LTR." "Love" is such a charged word to use and not something I think you are ever going to feel for a plate.

There are pros and cons to both. But generally speaking, unless the woman has come forward herself and demanded your sole attention, I wouldn't consider her LTR material in the first place. If she doesn't believe herself that she is worth being my one and only, why would I go out of my way to give her that status when she herself doesn't believe she is worthy?

You have an interesting situation, because most high value women are not going to tolerate being plates generally at maximum around 6 months before they demand exclusivity. If you say no at that point, they usually hang around for a very short amount of time after and fade out of your life. I won't judge these women you have as plates since I know nothing about them, but it I would say it is very atypical situation you are in unless they are very low quality women.

 

[Juanto]

won't judge these women you have as plates since I know nothing about them, but it I would say it is very atypical situation you are in unless they are very low quality women.

As I mentioned before I am not exactly 100% transparent with them, after some time (my experience anyway) THEY just assume we are in a relationship

 

[Gamisch]

Juanto said:
i really agree with you, but i wanted to swap notes with experienced guys like you to get other insights into this. Only thing I am doing which is not morally correct (yes I know…) is that I don’t openly tell the girls I’m seeing other women as well.

Any time fam. Believe me when I say that all your plates know you got plates. It is true tho that actually being honest about what you're doing is yet another pimp medal you can earn.

Whenever a man wants to drop plates he wants a relationship , and thus wants to walk away from the "player lifestyle". In this day and age i do believe one of the best routes towards a ltr is from a place where the man is the absolute price. E.g if SHE would be spinning 4 dudes and you would demand exclusivity you would be fecked. You are the prize right now..

Dr.Suave said:
Interesting. How do you measure which one appreciates you the most? Is it the one who puts out the most?

Yes. My metric is simple. Who wants it most. I've learned the hard way that whatever she is feeling today, might be completely different tomorrow.

 

[Juanto]

Believe me when I say that all your plates know you got plates.

It’s possible, yes.

 

[Juanto]

Also, connected to my initial question, how do you guys handle having some feelings for all your plates? Naturally you arent going to adore them all or even like them all equally, but does it get confusing sometimes or not at all? Would like to hear your feedback.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I did back in my Blue-pilled days. Now, if I could get away with it, I’d keep a side chick. a couple of my ex-s offered. but the GF would go ape-shvt iv I even hinted. So…no.