game in a social circle setting?

[PlatoPacks23]

So how does "Game" differ when I'm seeing the same girl at a workout class I take every week? I just met her this week officially for first time and we were partners for a lot of it, but I'm not sure how quickly to ask her out..

It's a good place for me since I'm in my comfort zone/place I'm good at, but just wondering ..

 

[SW15]

Ask her out ASAP. This isn't social circle, a fitness class is cold approach.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Dont overthink it. If you were partners during the class, at the end you should´ve said something like "You seem like a cool girl. Would you like to hang out sometime?". Try to ask her out next time you see her.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Honestly I don't think she feels you. If she did, you probably wouldnt be asking this, and you'd already have asked her out, or at least had drinks / coffee with her and started the process.

Developing something with a woman is a much longer process than working off of knowing theres already interest there. Ofc not every girl is gonna be interested off rip just off pure attraction though.. so I'd continue things as they are, and slowly develop more rapport. then if you feel like she'd be down for it, ask her out.

 

[Dean Raymond]

So how does "Game" differ when I'm seeing the same girl at a workout class I take every week? I just met her this week officially for first time and we were partners for a lot of it, but I'm not sure how quickly to ask her out..

It's a good place for me since I'm in my comfort zone/place I'm good at, but just wondering ..

Ask open questions like what else she does in her spare time, does she drink, if she prefers beach or forest. This is a form of qualification. See if she reciprocates by asking you questions, and also if she invests into the conversation.

If she seems open and wanting to stick around to talk to you then you have the green light to suggest doing something together of the shared interest.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Honestly I don't think she feels you. If she did, you probably wouldnt be asking this, and you'd already have asked her out, or at least had drinks / coffee with her and started the process.

Developing something with a woman is a much longer process than working off of knowing theres already interest there. Ofc not every girl is gonna be interested off rip just off pure attraction though.. so I'd continue things as they are, and slowly develop more rapport. then if you feel like she'd be down for it, ask her out.

dawg I literally met her this week and this is like the 2nd time we talked lol. How TF could you say that? BTW I'm planning to ask her out next week.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Dont overthink it. If you were partners during the class, at the end you should´ve said something like "You seem like a cool girl. Would you like to hang out sometime?". Try to ask her out next time you see her.

yeah I guess the thing is I just met her this week (as said above) but most recently she was talking to a guy (within my earshot) about her going to this music thing alone tonight. So for my money I think I have some green lights next week to at least meet up more personally

if it doesn't work it doesn't work, but at least it gives me a chance

 

[RazorRambo24]

dawg I literally met her this week and this is like the 2nd time we talked lol. How TF could you say that? BTW I'm planning to ask her out next week.

That's what I'm saying. If you guys just met she might not feel you right away.. Unless theres some sexual attraction due to your looks / physique. What I mean is this: If you knew she is feeling you, you probably woulda already made a move, right? When I know a girl is giving me signs, I usually try to make some type of move right away.. The thing about women is, if they're single and giving you signs, you gotta strike while the iron is hot.. Women might be interested in you for a week and waiting for you to make a move, and if u dont, a week later its like you dont even exist to her anymore.. or like you're suddenly just another guy. That's because women are like fish.. the moment u got them tugging on your reel, you need to reel them in right away.. otherwise your chance to grab her is gone and shes already lost in the sea, / caughtby another fisherman.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

That's what I'm saying. If you guys just met she might not feel you right away.. Unless theres some sexual attraction due to your looks / physique. What I mean is this: If you knew she is feeling you, you probably woulda already made a move, right? When I know a girl is giving me signs, I usually try to make some type of move right away.. The thing about women is, if they're single and giving you signs, you gotta strike while the iron is hot.. Women might be interested in you for a week and waiting for you to make a move, and if u dont, a week later its like you dont even exist to her anymore.. or like you're suddenly just another guy. That's because women are like fish.. the moment u got them tugging on your reel, you need to reel them in right away.. otherwise your chance to grab her is gone and shes already lost in the sea, / caughtby another fisherman.

I don't make a move "right away" because it is a workout class where I see them relatively often.

I agree though about moving sorta quickly. Today (2nd time I talked with her) she was talking within earshot of me about going to this concert alone AND had me in a photo with her for social media or something.. basically was a good time to number close but didn't for some reason.

Next week I do plan to get her number and mention that we should hang out outside of class. we'll see what happens

 

[RazorRambo24]

I don't make a move "right away" because it is a workout class where I see them relatively often.

I agree though about moving sorta quickly. Today (2nd time I talked with her) she was talking within earshot of me about going to this concert alone AND had me in a photo with her for social media or something.. basically was a good time to number close but didn't for some reason.

Next week I do plan to get her number and mention that we should hang out outside of class. we'll see what happens

yep you're doing everything As you should. the point is, the only time you GO for it quickly is when shes giving you alot of IOI's where you feel you need to strike. Theres a big difference between women that are primed and ready to have sex with you and those who you need to devleop stuff with in natural progression. The prior is one you don't want to miss out on because the opportunity has a slim timeline. Usually the girl is hot and horny, probably right before her period is about to start, or just in general shes been thinking about having some hot sex with a new guy.. or a guy in general. Often times when girls join any type of class, theres a high probability they're joining it to meet a dude.

However, you're doing what you should in your circumstances, and like I mentioned in my original comment, you should proceed to take things slow, develop rapport and see where it goes.

As far as the number thing, I think thats something that you can easily get without having to make it weird.. and is a good initiator without being any blaring signal/sign that you're coming onto her, while also being subtle enough to not signal that you're arent

 

[PlatoPacks23]

yep you're doing everything As you should. the point is, the only time you GO for it quickly is when shes giving you alot of IOI's where you feel you need to strike. Theres a big difference between women that are primed and ready to have sex with you and those who you need to devleop stuff with in natural progression. The prior is one you don't want to miss out on because the opportunity has a slim timeline. Usually the girl is hot and horny, probably right before her period is about to start, or just in general shes been thinking about having some hot sex with a new guy.. or a guy in general. Often times when girls join any type of class, theres a high probability they're joining it to meet a dude.

However, you're doing what you should in your circumstances, and like I mentioned in my original comment, you should proceed to take things slow, develop rapport and see where it goes.

As far as the number thing, I think thats something that you can easily get without having to make it weird.. and is a good initiator without being any blaring signal/sign that you're coming onto her, while also being subtle enough to not signal that you're arent

yeah sounds good.. unfortunately this is sorta related to me being sorta anxious about sex/my inexperience (from this thread: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...exual-experience-than-me.277128/#post-3008275) but yeah I do think I'm on right track thanks