Pulling girls from a group

[Plinco]

Has anyone been successful with this?

 

[Divorced w 3]

I’ve seen it go really well in college provided that 1: you’re a social person with a lot of social credibility, and 2: you have groupies If you want something substantial, you have to play the long game, treat them right and always ‘stay friends’. It’s definitely possible. Our boy just didn’t understand that.

 

[Plinco]

What I was talking about was cold approaching. Being a single dude and walking up to a group of girls. I've never done this successfully, and I've never seen anyone do it.

Like this guy:

 

[RazorRambo24]

Funny story, last time i talked to a chick in a group.. this is exactly what happened: (Not too long ago)... we get to talking, shes feeling me, i think shes decent but im not super duper excited about her, we talk back and forth leaning in as its loud.. i dont address her group much if at all and just take her to the bar... i get to flirting with her and i had already told her something about taking her to another bar to further isolate because i planned on moving around instead of staying in one spot (club was closing in the next 30 mins or so)

so one of her friends comes and checks on her or says something to her and disappears. then 5 mins later another guy comes and says somethig.. she ignored/deflects and we continue to talk and dance. eventually another friend comes and says something to her in her ear and shes like "i think my friends are going somewhere else, ill cya'.. i had already got her number anyways so i didn't care, ii was not really invested in the set tho since there were hotter women around

so i end up in VIP with my friend later in the night.. and i see that shes still out there in the non vip area. and shes like talkin to some chick whos like in the dividing area betwee VIP and VIP section .. and she points at me.. im jus oblivious dancing and enjoying my time , jus reunited with my boy after we both did our thing separately and im thinkin the girl jus asked her "do u like any guy here tonight" and thats why she pointed... but then i later realized, she was trying to get into VIP to get back to me.. and the girl asked her "do you know anyone in VIP?" and she pointed at me.. and i didnt even realize it so i didnt say or do anything i jus like acted oblivious.. musta been embarrassing for her lmaoo..

sht happens tho i was pretty lit.. so my brain was super blank. ended up going home with another chick..

Whats the point of this story? absolutely no point. it was just the last time i spoke to a chick in a group lol.
i speak to chicks in all sets and settings but i mostly jus try to go for 1 on 1 or 2 sets.

 

[manfrombelow]

To be honest I have never been (and still am not) comfortable enough to approach groups of girls.

But if I have to, I'd do it how I did it: I'd try to approach all of them, aka asking all of their names, getting all of their numbers, showing interest in all of them (just an act), not just the hot one that you really like. And when you get back home, you can start hitting on the hot one.

 

[Plinco]

To be honest I have never been (and still am not) comfortable enough to approach groups of girls.

But if I have to, I'd do it how I did it: I'd try to approach all of them, aka asking all of their names, getting all of their numbers, showing interest in all of them (just an act), not just the hot one that you really like. And when you get back home, you can start hitting on the hot one.

I don't think that would work. You might come off as a sex maniac, or weird.

I would imagine saying something to the whole group and then gauge the group's reaction.

 

[Stanley]

I've only done it when it was clear the girl showed interest prior in some way..... Or I did it on accident

Most recently I was out at a irish pub and there was a group of girls at the bar. My friends were standing in the main walkway talking to some old friends they knew from years back. I get bored of the conversation and started looking around for something to do. I made eye contact with a girl in a group at the bar who had some guy attempting to chat her up. She had the 'save me' kinda look going... I pulled up, ordered a beer and casually butted into their conversation (they were talking about our bar scene). The girl took to me and more or less ignored the guy. Shortly thereafter her friends joined the chat and my buddies showed up. I then asked the girl if she'd like to join us at a ****tail bar down the street to which she and her friends agreed. I got her alone later and grabbed her number. nothing came of it as we lived to far apart.

While not the same, but in a similar vein. Looking back in my community college days I used to walk in and approach the entire girls ensemble for choir and chat them up just for grins. I only did it out of boredom and would walk away with girls asking ME for my snapchat. I didn't realize what I was doing at the time and looking back there were plentiful opportunities I ignored. When approaching groups I honestly don't even treat it like anything. I feel more comfortable chatting to a bunch of people than isolate one. I think goes back to being a floater/loner growing up and enjoying public speaking and performing. In fact, going solo on someone feels more daunting to me.

One thing I think is important in this scenario is being attractive. If the girls don't like what they see as a collective they will probably get creeped out. That guy in the video isn't a super good looking guy, but he's tall and looks friendly and is conventionally attractive. I'd bet a few girls didn't take well to the cold approach and weren't in the video though. If we change the tall and skinny guy for a less than average dude most these girls wouldn't let him get by after a few words. The more attractive you are the more you can get away with and use your looks as crutch.

 

[Stanley]

Oh god I just thought of another one I didn't do directly.

20 and was drunk at a work party at a bowling alley. There were a group of girls I didn't know who were floating around and in my liquid courage I barged in and just started talking to them. One of them took a liking to me (19yr) and somehow I pulled her aside and we chatted. She was attractive and we talked about how my parents weren't home and we live in the same town. Again, I was quite drunk. Somehow she ended up driving me back home (lol) and when pulled into my parents driveway to a dark house at 2am. She made some comment like "I guess this it for the night huh"?? and I got out and said "yep, drive safe" then stumbled in and nver heard from her again.

So I failed successfully and inadvertently.

 

[manfrombelow]

Oh god I just thought of another one I didn't do directly.

20 and was drunk at a work party at a bowling alley. There were a group of girls I didn't know who were floating around and in my liquid courage I barged in and just started talking to them. One of them took a liking to me (19yr) and somehow I pulled her aside and we chatted. She was attractive and we talked about how my parents weren't home and we live in the same town. Again, I was quite drunk. Somehow she ended up driving me back home (lol) and when pulled into my parents driveway to a dark house at 2am. She made some comment like "I guess this it for the night huh"?? and I got out and said "yep, drive safe" then stumbled in and nver heard from her again.

So I failed successfully and inadvertently.

No worries dude, even if you got her naked on your bed, you wouldn't get hard enough to penetrate her in that drunk state. Trust me I've been there.

Sex drunk is the worst kind: Your d~ck is only semi-erected, and it's risky you got accused for rape the very next day.

 

[RangerMIke]

You are not going to be able to separate a women from her group of friends. This is based on 30 plus years of dating experience. If it happens it's blind luck.

You approach THE GROUP, never focus on any one woman. Treat them like one single entity that you can not break up... then you see which ones are giving you indicators of interest. Let the interested chick come to you, then you get her number and later try to make a date. Trying to make something happen on the spot that night is d@mn near impossible because even if you have a woman that is willing to go off with you... her friends will not let that happen because they do not fvcking know who you are. Too many stories about women getting left by her friends later getting assaulted.

They go out in groups as a means of protection.

 

[Barrister]

Was just going to say what @RangerMIke did. Literally to a T.

If you are interested in a woman who is with a group of 2+ other women - always open up the group and keep it friendly (read: not seductive). You are working at a number and not taking her home that night. You want to engage as many as you can in friendly conversation and eventually get a side bar going with the one you are interested. Develop some rapport and then ask for the number very nonchalantly at the end of the night. If she is attracted to you, you have a good chance to get the number assuming you did a good job of laying the groundwork throughout the evening.

 

[Plinco]

You are not going to be able to separate a women from her group of friends. This is based on 30 plus years of dating experience. If it happens it's blind luck.

You approach THE GROUP, never focus on any one woman. Treat them like one single entity that you can not break up... then you see which ones are giving you indicators of interest. Let the interested chick come to you, then you get her number and later try to make a date. Trying to make something happen on the spot that night is d@mn near impossible because even if you have a woman that is willing to go off with you... her friends will not let that happen because they do not fvcking know who you are. Too many stories about women getting left by her friends later getting assaulted.

They go out in groups as a means of protection.

I appreciate your practical experience