Getting Older and Still Haven't Settled Down?

[jaymbrs]

Then you're in the likes of:
Chris Evans
Jamie Foxx
Leonardo DiCaprio
Zac Efron
Bradley Cooper
Collin Farrell
John Mayer
Drake
Michael B Jordan
Brad freakin Pitt

These men have unlimited options and still have not been able to find a good partner. Granted having unlimited options may make it difficult to pick 1, it's still not a good sign of the quality of women out there.

 

[Stuffnu]

They have no interest is finding a good partner.
Its not necessarily the quality they seek, it’s the quantity.

 

[member160292]

I tried to settle down recently in my mid 30’s now. There’s just too much fun to be had when you’re at the prime of your life. Probably my last hoorah before I start thinking seriously on relationships and kids. Everyone has a different timeline

 

[EyeBRollin]

I settled down. It’s hard. Temptation is everywhere. Luckily I don’t encounter many young (<30) fertile women. Makes it easier..

 

[SW15]

Most of my blue pill social circle settled down. A lot of men have a difficult time coping with that.

In the mid to late 2010s, there was multiple weddings in a short time in my social circle. It was insane! A lot of men would look at that and feel a bit left out and insecure.

Now, my social circle is having a bunch of babies.

Now, I feel great about where I am. Getting married doesn't mean anything. A lot of married people have lousy lives.

For a man that gets married, there's about an 80% chance of AT LEAST one of the following 3 things happening over the lifespan of a marriage...

• Divorce
• Affair (from one or both partners, females have been having more affairs since the 1990s)
• Long periods of a mediocre to subpar dynamic where the relationship just continues on based on inertia/societal pressure. The passion is gone.

Why bother?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Also remember that 70% of divorces in the US are initiated by women.

According to data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), in 2019, the average age at the time of divorce was 39 years for men and 37 years for women.

A study by the Pew Research Center found that in 2013, 64% of men who had been previously married had remarried, compared to 52% of women.

According to a survey by the American Sexual Health Association, 34% of women and 15% of men reported experiencing a decrease in sexual desire at some point in their lives. Additionally, a study by the University of Chicago found that among married couples, sexual desire tended to decline over time, with men reporting a greater decline in sexual frequency and satisfaction than women.

Just some facts…

Most of my blue pill social circle settled down. A lot of men have a difficult time coping with that.

In the mid to late 2010s, there was multiple weddings in a short time in my social circle. It was insane! A lot of men would look at that and feel a bit left out and insecure.

Now, my social circle is having a bunch of babies.

Now, I feel great about where I am. Getting married doesn't mean anything. A lot of married people have lousy lives.

For a man that gets married, there's about an 80% chance of AT LEAST one of the following 3 things happening over the lifespan of a marriage...

• Divorce
• Affair (from one or both partners, females have been having more affairs since the 1990s)
• Long periods of a mediocre to subpar dynamic where the relationship just continues on based on inertia/societal pressure. The passion is gone.

Why bother?

 

[EyeBRollin]

Now, I feel great about where I am. Getting married doesn't mean anything.

Why bother?

You think there are no benefits to being married?

 

[jaymbrs]

They have no interest is finding a good partner.
Its not necessarily the quality they seek, it’s the quantity.

Highly doubt Brad Pitt at his age just cares about banging randoms. At some point a man wants companionship.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Highly doubt Brad Pitt at his age just cares about banging randoms. At some point a man wants companionship.

Not at all man. He got out a long term marriage and had to deal with kids and the whole 9..

Men like Brad Pitt get companionship from women,.. You just dont see it. The same way my plates give me companionship if I need it, and spend time with, me come do errands with me, or go to events or different sh.t if I don't hav eanyone else to go with, and no one knows.. People who aren't close to me and some people who are close to me just think im single lol. That's the beauty of being a player.. and Brad Pitt is one of the most ultimate players in Hollywood.. since a young age. It was only when he got Married that he slowed down, though idk maybe they had an open marriage.. no one knows for sure.

 

[Gamisch]

Then you're in the likes of:
Chris Evans
Jamie Foxx
Leonardo DiCaprio
Zac Efron
Bradley Cooper
Collin Farrell
John Mayer
Drake
Michael B Jordan
Brad freakin Pitt

These men have unlimited options and still have not been able to find a good partner. Granted having unlimited options may make it difficult to pick 1, it's still not a good sign of the quality of women out there.

At this point a man is a fool if he still believes in fairytales. The toxicity of modern dating is all around us. Colleagues friends, family or one self will have plenty of stories to tell about it. Men shouldn't worry ,when you are 60 there will still be plenty of single women to date.

I do feel like most of those men are beta men. We all know once a man and a woman are one on one, the power of status will fade away. The beta bytch inside them probably wants nothing else rather than to lower his own status while elevating hers, to " balance things out ". And we also know what happens when you give a woman a inch..

That's why I like Leo's policy. The outside world will judge him for it, but meanwhile he's having nothing but great times, and he using his status as good as possible. Married famous men are the exact opposite; living with a ungrateful woman in a LTR where the spark is long ,long gone ,only to meep up the facade to the outside world how perfect his family is. We've all seen Will Smith and how that shyte ends...

 

[BadBoy89]

Then you're in the likes of:

Chris Evans - dating a 25 year old, it’s serious, she can easily get pregnant
Jamie Foxx - has a daughter
Leonardo DiCaprio - dates young ferrite women
Zac Efron - 35, thinking about parenthood
Bradley Cooper - has a daughter
Collin Farrell - has 2 sons
John Mayer - 2 years ago, said “wife and kids” is utmost important
Drake - has a son
Michael B Jordan - 36, thinking about parenthood
Brad freakin Pitt - 3 biological children

These men have unlimited options and still have not been able to find a good partner.

It’s not about “having a good partner”, it’s about having sex with a young fertile stable women to give a man a child:

Those men all have kids or are looking to have kids.

 

[pipeman84]

These men have unlimited options and still have not been able to find a good partner. Granted having unlimited options may make it difficult to pick 1, it's still not a good sign of the quality of women out there.

How about the men's quality? I mean, let's take Leo, he spent 5 years on Gisele, 5 on Bar, 5 on Camila ... what's that all about? If you're a high quality man yourself looking to settle down, you don't need 5 years to assess a woman's potential.

Men like Brad Pitt get companionship from women,.. You just dont see it. The same way my plates give me companionship if I need it, and spend time with, me come do errands with me, or go to events or different sh.t if I don't hav eanyone else to go with, and no one knows..

Apparently Brad Pitt is dating a woman, Ines de Ramon, who's just divorcing her husband she married in 2019. Knowing his history with Angelina Jolie, this tells all that's needed about the quality of the people involved.

I don't get the companionship thing from 'plates' ... it seems to me that that guys who are into that have some internal issues, they're clingy/needy/shallow. It's a bit like hiring an escort to act as a girlfriend ... how can one carry on through such a farce? One has to be dumb/very naive/shallow to actually believe any love declaration Ines would give to Pitt.

 

[jaymbrs]

It’s not about “having a good partner”, it’s about having sex with a young fertile stable women to give a man a child:

Those men all have kids or are looking to have kids.

Having kids has nothing to do with settling down.

 

[RazorRambo24]

How about the men's quality? I mean, let's take Leo, he spent 5 years on Gisele, 5 on Bar, 5 on Camila ... what's that all about? If you're a high quality man yourself looking to settle down, you don't need 5 years to assess a woman's potential.

Apparently Brad Pitt is dating a woman, Ines de Ramon, who's just divorcing her husband she married in 2019. Knowing his history with Angelina Jolie, this tells all that's needed about the quality of the people involved.

I don't get the companionship thing from 'plates' ... it seems to me that that guys who are into that have some internal issues, they're clingy/needy/shallow. It's a bit like hiring an escort to act as a girlfriend ... how can one carry on through such a farce? One has to be dumb/very naive/shallow to actually believe any love declaration Ines would give to Pitt.

companionship has nothing to do with love. its the reason why people hire escorts and sht. my reply was to someone who said "At some point a man just wants companionship" .. what I mean is your cup can be full of companionship without you having to love people.. its typical for players.. players rarely fall in love, and after a certain age, they kinda yearn for it im sure.. but the companionship we get keeps us satisfied. like Dan Bilzerian. hes f-ing a ton of girls but would he truly be fulfilled if some of those girls didnt hang out with him as well and spend time with him? probably not, he'd feel like a sex object as many dudes at that level do or like hes merely getting used for his clout and status or money.

for me, ive known 2 of my plates for almost 3 years now.. if we jus had sex and nothign else, i'd prob feel like i wanted more out of it as well personally.. but over time, we graduated to doing other sht too. like this past Vday, i took one of my plates who i know is super into me and vice versa to a murder mystery dinner.. when i first met these girls it ws nothing but D.ick and Chic Fil A.. But being a player is so much more htan just slanging d.ck man. How do you think some of these guys get women to sign on houses, cars, and financing deals for them?

I think you're under the impression that all plates = automatically hoes. Which is a very immature way to think. Yes, some plates can be hoes, but some are just normal chicks living average jobs, working most of the time and have a few friends and family they spend time with. Now, you also have to be smart about who you're dealing iwht. 1 of my plates i nkow she's not into me past just the sex.. for her, she doesnt get much more ofmy time or value.. she also has other people she sleeps with. my other 2 plates, they treat me as if im the only guy in their life.. which is where the fun of the balancing act comes from.. because i have to somewhat reciprocate taht even though im sleeping with other women, i gotta make them feel like they're important, even if i dont make them feel like we're exclusive

 

[jaymbrs]

companionship has nothing to do with love. its the reason why people hire escorts and sht. my reply was to someone who said "At some point a man just wants companionship" .. what I mean is your cup can be full of companionship without you having to love people.. its typical for players.. players rarely fall in love, and after a certain age, they kinda yearn for it im sure.. but the companionship we get keeps us satisfied. like Dan Bilzerian. hes f-ing a ton of girls but would he truly be fulfilled if some of those girls didnt hang out with him as well and spend time with him? probably not, he'd feel like a sex object as many dudes at that level do or like hes merely getting used for his clout and status or money.

for me, ive known 2 of my plates for almost 3 years now.. if we jus had sex and nothign else, i'd prob feel like i wanted more out of it as well personally.. but over time, we graduated to doing other sht too. like this past Vday, i took one of my plates who i know is super into me and vice versa to a murder mystery dinner.. when i first met these girls it ws nothing but D.ick and Chic Fil A.. But being a player is so much more htan just slanging d.ck man. How do you think some of these guys get women to sign on houses, cars, and financing deals for them?

I think you're under the impression that all plates = automatically hoes. Which is a very immature way to think. Yes, some plates can be hoes, but some are just normal chicks living average jobs, working most of the time and have a few friends and family they spend time with. Now, you also have to be smart about who you're dealing iwht. 1 of my plates i nkow she's not into me past just the sex.. for her, she doesnt get much more ofmy time or value.. she also has other people she sleeps with. my other 2 plates, they treat me as if im the only guy in their life.. which is where the fun of the balancing act comes from.. because i have to somewhat reciprocate taht even though im sleeping with other women, i gotta make them feel like they're important, even if i dont make them feel like we're exclusive

You’re also a self admitted “sex addict”. You just disqualified yourself from your reasoning because of this.

 

[BadBoy89]

Having kids has nothing to do with settling down.

True.

A man should settle down with be with one women forever and ever.

 

[RazorRambo24]

You’re also a self admitted “sex addict”. I highly doubt that’s a good problem to have.

It's not the worst problem to have haha. But, I also have a tendency to be a bit harsh on myself so sex addicted might have been a bit extreme.. I've always been about self improvement and progress since about age 23 (the time I started to change my life around from really chasing gratification and living carelessly). Ever since then I've really analyzed my life a lot.. Some things bother me. For example, I have a successful business, I workout consistently, eat healthy, maintain a good social life, good family life, etc but what bothered me last year ws the fact that I felt like I had too much free time on my hands... so I ended up getting a job to keep me more busy. It's when I lost that job, that lead me to feel guilty and question if I'm sex addicted. I was really enjoying that job, met alot of cool people there and it felt good.

Since making the post i decided to cut out porn which I think is helping me not think so sexually or chase the thrill. Also didn't go out last night when I was going to hit the club.. Just told myself its not needed. Trying my best to just focus on whats in front of me.

You have to realize, most guys who come into a life of sexual abundance often feel that way too. All my guys who are spinning plates aren't much different. IF you ask them their biggest vice, they'd say lust. When they're not banging plates or random sluts, they're watchin porn and jerking it. Its just a raw lifestyle. To be completely fair, I dated women before who thought they were sexually addicted at one point too.. so maybe its not just a male thing..

 

[pipeman84]

I think you're under the impression that all plates = automatically hoes.

I guess it's a matter of self esteem and self respect ... if one has enough of those, I don't imagine how one would enjoy companionship from 'plates' ... if that woman had enough self esteem and self respect herself, she wouldn't be a plate. So you're spending time with a woman who has defined herself through her actions as low quality and you acknowledge this by the very term, plate.

Since you're both fvcking other people but aren't upfront about it, the conversations are automatically shallow and untrustworthy. For instance, let's say last weekend she was with some guy who fvcked her brains out. Now this weekend she's out with you and you're casually asking, so what did you do last weekend? What's she gonna say? The truth? Lie? Dodge the question?

 

[RazorRambo24]

I guess it's a matter of self esteem and self respect ... if one has enough of those, I don't imagine how one would enjoy companionship from 'plates' ... if that woman had enough self esteem and self respect herself, she wouldn't be a plate. So you're spending time with a woman who has defined herself through her actions as low quality and you acknowledge this by the very term, plate.

Since you're both fvcking other people but aren't upfront about it, the conversations are automatically shallow and untrustworthy. For instance, let's say last weekend she was with some guy who fvcked her brains out. Now this weekend she's out with you and you're casually asking, so what did you do last weekend? What's she gonna say? The truth? Lie? Dodge the question?

See again you have a very young understanding of what plates are. Plates arent hoes, aren't escorts, aren't prostitutes.. Plates are just WOMEN. Yes some can be hoes but alot of times the girls players spin are women who have jobs and sht going on in their lives. Who wants to spin hoes? they sleep with multiple guys and you get nothing beneficial out of it. If you don't enjoy companionship from women, you're either a homosexual, or never had a girlfriend before so you don't know what it feels like. If you're just having sex with girls but you have no actual girls to hang with, thats a depressing life my friend. The difference between a woman who u meet, and ONLY have sex and a woman who u meet, have sex with, hangout with from time to time, and have known for years, is that that 1 of those women has little respect for u, the other one has emotions towards you, respects you, and does nice things for you, aka gifts, errands, folds clothes, does your laundry, cooks for you

I'm sorry but you sound like you have never experienced what i'm talking about.. and i dont mean to offend you...

It seems like you think women are evil and are constantly worried about what else they got going on/who they're f-ing. Thats all insecurity.. When you're a confident man and you know the girl consistently is coming back to you, you dont even think for a second what else shes got going on.. especially when you're dealing with women who have friends, a career, family, who have a good head on their shoulders. Yes, one of my plates most def sleeps iwth other men, but do i care? no im not a pu55y.

Either you're cut out to be a player, or you're not. If you're not, then settle down with one girl in a committed relationship.
I understand your ideas 100%, but your ideas are those of a person who seems to lack confidence in themselves. WHen youre confident, you look at yourself like the only viable option the woman has.. You dont think anyone is better than you , thus why she keeps coming back to YOU.

 

[RazorRambo24]

You’re also a self admitted “sex addict”. You just disqualified yourself from your reasoning because of this.

Why did you feel the need to bring up the fact that I made a post about being sex addicted?

You realize that you planned on flying an escort out on vacation right? Whats better, being sex addicted or not getitng laid flying escorts out?
That post I made was really personal to me.. It came about a month after I lost a job for sleepign with multiple women and getting caught up.. wasnt cool..

Don't start bro.. seriously, I never been disrespectful to you at all on this forum.. and you literally just sidestepped into a convo between me and someone else.

If it werent for the motorcycle, you'd be a complete incel.. Dont fucc with me. We are not the same.