Would you rather know your competition or be oblivious to it?

[RazorRambo24]

Let's be real.. A mans world is very much competitive in every aspect.. Even your best friends when you first started going out to the clubs and picking up girls, it was probably quite competitive.. whether you realized it or not... Maybe it wasnt for you, but regardless, you were competing with other men in the venue.

The same translates to any area of life. It's a competition.. these days more than ever you are competing for the attention/interest/sexual pleasure/love/compassion/friendship/whatever of a particular girl or girls. Some of you who think you're alot confident than you really are might say "im never thinking about competiton because I dont feel anyone is my competition.. " or "I dont compare myself to others".

The best athletes, singers, rappers, actors, businessmen, etc often compare themselves to others because they want to be better than the rest + learn from their competitors as well as their competitors mistakes. Arnold Schwarzenegger was a big proponent of this during his bodybuilding career, for which he's most renowned for, over his days of acting or being involved in politics.

I want each and everyone of you to know who these guys are you are competing with. We already know and if you dont know, you will now.. that 90% of women go for the same 5% of guys.on dating apps. Its not too much different in real life when it comes to nightlife (clubs/bars/other superficial areas). Other areas of life are much different and developing a natural connection from the basis of friendship and many variables of attraction can happen.

Go take a look at those 5% of guys. What characteristics do they have? Some might be obvious ,good looks, nice smile, good proportions, maybe a nice hairstyle, good personality, muscles, tattoos, good attire/dress to match their fit physiques. Others might not be so obvious.. Maybe they're good dancers, play musical insruments, can sing, rap,really good at skateboarding, do boxing as a hobby, are professional fighters, maybe they fix up old classic cars and restore them..

The point of this topic.. is to just remind you all that you can be better than what you are today. For many of you I know that little b.itch in your head is going to say "no no those guys were made to be successful, those guys are lucky," and all this other nonsense and thoughts of self sabotage "im too oold " "i have a big nose it wont change " "im too short" .. "im too skinny".. its all nonsense.. Start taking action now. Theres soemone on here who replied to my threads before claiming i must be a chad.. I'm no chad.. I promise. To quote Pop Smoke R.I.P "i AInt no pretty boy, but I aint ugly". I'm constantly working on myself. I'm not here to brag and im not here to show off. I make sure I go out of my way not to reveal my lifestyle too much because I know that often it doesnt motivate people, it creates envy and disdain for some people who are upset at their circumstances..

Don't blame your circumstances.. Start watching your competition and know that half of these guys were nerds losers asnd nobodies once upon a time. half of these dudes got bullied as kids and cried on their way home from school. Half of these guys probably have a small penis. SOme of them probably have premature ejaculation. Those guys who get that superficial base attraction , they still have alot of issues... But many of them, they worked on themselves. You think those muscles grew themselves? They just had amazing genetics right? You think that nice face/skin came from having an All American smile? No half these fuccs have skin care routines, get eyebrows done and all type of sht.. HOw do I Know? Iknow these ****ers. I wouldn't even consider myself top 5% though some might. and sure if you're short, you might not be able to fix your height.. But you can overcome that by being the toughest guy (Some of the shortest dudes I know were some of the toughest), or just having somthing that sets you apart from others.. ie: hella tattoos, tons fo piercings (tatoos and piercings are superficial attractors that alot of women go for, take advantage of he superficialities in attraction!)...

Personality trumps most things these days... But personality doesnt come from being attractive and average.. It comes from being unique and working on oneself, and building a life of experiences and accomplishments. Personality 100% comes through in peoples photos.. Its the difference between the guy whos got a few girls and friends around him ams on shoulder winking at the camera or even looking away from the camera like hes so oblivious... vs the guy who dead stares directly into the lens sitting in his car taking a selfie before work... Its the difference between the guy who has no smile in every picture vs the guy whos sticking his tongue out doing some hand gesture i one photo , smiling in most of his photos. The difference between a guy lifting an eyebrow and pointing at the camera with a precise smirk vs the guy who is all dressed up but has no expression and his hands to his sides.

Good looks dont equate to a swipe or interest. Remember this. Believeme I know, You dont even need a female friend to find out, there are youtube videos tht show girls live on Tinder and why they swip eon dudes.. too douchey looking shirt off in mostof his pics, flexing, or good looking but boring pics, selfies, w.e

At this point idk what else to say.. Level up, stop making excuses, know your competition.. Learn form them, become better than them, learn from their mistakes.. and maybe one day you'll be in that 5% .... where theres more than enough women to go around , while the 95% are a buncha invisible dudes just flapping around competing with other invisible dudes.

TLDR in BOLD

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Does this apply to wartime society?

 

[bat soup]

Let's be real.. A mans world is very much competitive in every aspect.. Even your best friends when you first started going out to the clubs and picking up girls, it was probably quite competitive.. whether you realized it or not... Maybe it wasnt for you, but regardless, you were competing with other men in the venue.

The same translates to any area of life. It's a competition.. these days more than ever you are competing for the attention/interest/sexual pleasure/love/compassion/friendship/whatever of a particular girl or girls. Some of you who think you're alot confident than you really are might say "im never thinking about competiton because I dont feel anyone is my competition.. " or "I dont compare myself to others".

The best athletes, singers, rappers, actors, businessmen, etc often compare themselves to others because they want to be better than the rest + learn from their competitors as well as their competitors mistakes. Arnold Schwarzenegger was a big proponent of this during his bodybuilding career, for which he's most renowned for, over his days of acting or being involved in politics.

I want each and everyone of you to know who these guys are you are competing with. We already know and if you dont know, you will now.. that 90% of women go for the same 5% of guys.on dating apps. Its not too much different in real life when it comes to nightlife (clubs/bars/other superficial areas). Other areas of life are much different and developing a natural connection from the basis of friendship and many variables of attraction can happen.

Go take a look at those 5% of guys. What characteristics do they have? Some might be obvious ,good looks, nice smile, good proportions, maybe a nice hairstyle, good personality, muscles, tattoos, good attire/dress to match their fit physiques. Others might not be so obvious.. Maybe they're good dancers, play musical insruments, can sing, rap,really good at skateboarding, do boxing as a hobby, are professional fighters, maybe they fix up old classic cars and restore them..

The point of this topic.. is to just remind you all that you can be better than what you are today. For many of you I know that little b.itch in your head is going to say "no no those guys were made to be successful, those guys are lucky," and all this other nonsense and thoughts of self sabotage "im too oold " "i have a big nose it wont change " "im too short" .. "im too skinny".. its all nonsense.. Start taking action now. Theres soemone on here who replied to my threads before claiming i must be a chad.. I'm no chad.. I promise. To quote Pop Smoke R.I.P "i AInt no pretty boy, but I aint ugly". I'm constantly working on myself. I'm not here to brag and im not here to show off. I make sure I go out of my way not to reveal my lifestyle too much because I know that often it doesnt motivate people, it creates envy and disdain for some people who are upset at their circumstances..

Don't blame your circumstances.. Start watching your competition and know that half of these guys were nerds losers asnd nobodies once upon a time. half of these dudes got bullied as kids and cried on their way home from school. Half of these guys probably have a small penis. SOme of them probably have premature ejaculation. Those guys who get that superficial base attraction , they still have alot of issues... But many of them, they worked on themselves. You think those muscles grew themselves? They just had amazing genetics right? You think that nice face/skin came from having an All American smile? No half these fuccs have skin care routines, get eyebrows done and all type of sht.. HOw do I Know? Iknow these ****ers. I wouldn't even consider myself top 5% though some might. and sure if you're short, you might not be able to fix your height.. But you can overcome that by being the toughest guy (Some of the shortest dudes I know were some of the toughest), or just having somthing that sets you apart from others.. ie: hella tattoos, tons fo piercings (tatoos and piercings are superficial attractors that alot of women go for, take advantage of he superficialities in attraction!)...

Personality trumps most things these days... But personality doesnt come from being attractive and average.. It comes from being unique and working on oneself, and building a life of experiences and accomplishments. Personality 100% comes through in peoples photos.. Its the difference between the guy whos got a few girls and friends around him ams on shoulder winking at the camera or even looking away from the camera like hes so oblivious... vs the guy who dead stares directly into the lens sitting in his car taking a selfie before work... Its the difference between the guy who has no smile in every picture vs the guy whos sticking his tongue out doing some hand gesture i one photo , smiling in most of his photos. The difference between a guy lifting an eyebrow and pointing at the camera with a precise smirk vs the guy who is all dressed up but has no expression and his hands to his sides.

Good looks dont equate to a swipe or interest. Remember this. Believeme I know, You dont even need a female friend to find out, there are youtube videos tht show girls live on Tinder and why they swip eon dudes.. too douchey looking shirt off in mostof his pics, flexing, or good looking but boring pics, selfies, w.e

At this point idk what else to say.. Level up, stop making excuses, know your competition.. Learn form them, become better than them, learn from their mistakes.. and maybe one day you'll be in that 5% .... where theres more than enough women to go around , while the 95% are a buncha invisible dudes just flapping around competing with other invisible dudes.

TLDR in BOLD

The best compromise is to just keep one eye open to look at the competition. That way you still have another eye available for ogling women.

 

[corsica]

You should start with TLDR in bold. I stopped reading when I realized how convoluted the message was.

In business you want to know the competition to know where you stand. If I’m interested in a girl that I know she’s constantly getting invited to boat parties and is getting courted by celebrities, I’m not going to waste my limited resources chasing her.

it’s not like you have a chance because she knows she’s being used for recreational sex and might see you as a viable option for a relationship. That’s not how women think. They have a corrupt sense of value.

If I know the girl used to date men inferior than me, I know it’s an easy job.
So yes. I prefer to know the competition.

 

[Stanley]

Always be aware of the competition, know where you stack up, know what you can do to improve, know how to play to your strengths.

I think comparison in 'excess' is bad for your mental health, but it is a good thing if used properly as motivation to overcome obstacles. Identify the things you can change and act on them accordingly.

I think many people nowadays (both men and women) are stuck in a cage made of comfort.
They view the sensation of anxiety and fear as inherently 'bad things' when often times those feelings are there for good reason. Those emotions often arise when we are being incongruent with our core values and who we aspire to be. That dissonance often manifests in a whole slew of negative self thinking and deprecation. In other words a victim mindset... which as been perpetuated a fair bit here of late.
Misery love company!

When I feel those emotions of fear, angst, anxiety, insecurity and discomfort I seek to know why they are there and what the root cause is. I address them head on and immerse myself in them and sublimate when needed. I used to find myself very intimidated by the competition, but once I took inventory, acknowledged where I was at and made changes that little voice saying "you aren't good enough" diminished. That and realizing your own self worth and being objective about who you are elucidates so much that I look back now and think "what did I even worry about? Why did I care so much" and so on.

As for looking at those that are successful oftentimes (if not most the time) they were not always that person you see before you. They worked to that point and overcame their own insecurities and obstacles. Seeing someone great should motivate you, not demotivate you. Yes, luck is real, but you can't control those aspects so you might as well focus on the things you can change.

Best time to plant a tree was in the past, the next best option is today. Unfortunately, few are willing to undertake the first steps in digging that hole, but those that do and continue to nurture and grow that tree will become something more.

 

[RazorRambo24]

You should start with TLDR in bold. I stopped reading when I realized how convoluted the message was.

In business you want to know the competition to know where you stand. If I’m interested in a girl that I know she’s constantly getting invited to boat parties and is getting courted by celebrities, I’m not going to waste my limited resources chasing her.

it’s not like you have a chance because she knows she’s being used for recreational sex and might see you as a viable option for a relationship. That’s not how women think. They have a corrupt sense of value.

If I know the girl used to date men inferior than me, I know it’s an easy job.
So yes. I prefer to know the competition.

If you don't understand the message here, I would say you're in a large group of men who are going to remain invisible to the beautiful women of this world. This is for those who want to attain the prize.. dime women beautiful, sexy, 9's and 10's.. and who wan the attraction of all women/the majority of women who are only currently focusing on 5% of men. You're 43.. either you can make this your prime or you can say "im too old for this stuff, i dont get it, its convoluted".. and you'll forever remain mediocre.. If thats fine with you so be it.

I'm no chad and I'm far from perfect. On average women rate me an 8 but I know that women are being nice. I consider myself an 8 but I am also realistic that if we judge based on different variables/standards, in some realms i might be a 7. The point is, despite not being over 6' foot, with a perfectly chiseled jawline and perfectly chiseled physique, I've been able to obtain the attraction of women wwho are 8's 9's 10s for years now. I've dated models and to me its not even a brag.. because model simply means a woman whos attractive and confident enough to showcase it and learn how to look nice in photos. Tons of women can do that..

This mindset isnt just for game, its for other areas of life too:
ie:
In this life, if you want to be rich, you can either utilize envy nd jealousy and keep being bitter nd blaming your circumstances, or you can look at your competition , the guys out there who are really no different than you circumstantially, but paved a way to wealth and riches.. and say hey, let me see what they're doing, what i can fix, what mistakes their making, let me learn from my competition or at least be aware of what's out there, so I can work hard.. Because, these are the guys im competing with..
The same girl you want and want to marry one day or want to have sex with, guess what? 30 other dudes are goin after taht same chick.. and maybe 5% of them fit the bill. Those 5% if you aren't better than them or feel that you are, you're always going to be sitting on the bench while they get the opportunity to play.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I didn't read your initial post but...

I don't see why any man would want to be oblivious to their own competition. I don't go out of my way to see my own competition, since it seems a bit hard to ever see them directly. I do tend to observe what attractive qualities women see in men, in general. For instance I may pay attention to what men the most attractive women are paying attention to in a crowd, look at their body language if I see a Chad chatting them up, or I might try to get a sense of what women physically find attractive in other men, which I find super useful.

I can give a brief summary of what kind of man the types of women I like, like:

Younger women tend to like narcissistic, sometimes slightly faggy men around their own age, or older, stronger men who aged like wine and provide security and excitement. Body wise, never fat or short, usually tall and skinny or just generally fit and normal looking. I don't often see these women with guys who are jacked, but when I do it's rarely the "bodybuilder" guy on gear. They like men who are typically around 6'0-6'4, have the V shape, especially wide shoulders, but not over the top musculature. They want someone who looks just nice enough to make them fall in love and just enough of a **** to break their heart after. Only the 10s, 9s, maybe 8s can ever compete with other women for guys like this, though, especially if he is wealthy.

There are surely other traits I'll never fully learn about though. For instance, how the men communicate over text, especially any dirty talk, and their sex life in general.

 

[corsica]

RazorRambo24

You strike me as a Nigerian scammer. You write in circles and don’t get to the point.

My head hurts trying to decipher what you’re trying to say. You should sell Herbalife.