How to accept a LTR/marrying a non-virgin

[pipeman84]

But if you wanna use your logic, then keep in mind every girl had sucked c0ck and have been cummed in their mouth, so don't you dare to kiss the c0ck from Chad Thunderc0ck indirectly.

Firstly, not all girls have sucked c0ck. But let's say the the girl you kiss on second date, you find out by the 4th date she did suck c0ck....then you have a choice to make...if you're top 10% men and wife her up, Chad's gonna have the last laugh. He fvcked her and moved on while the top 10% man is going to give her his surname, make her part of his kingdom and deal with pregnancy sickness and post baby body. That doesn't sound to me like a deal a 10% man would do.

 

[Pandora]

Partner compatibility is much more important than virginity.

Lol bro they will have to learn this the hard way

 

[Pandora]

Sometimes you just have to accept that all the nasty freaky unholy stuff you did to your ex....some guy is doing that to your future wife right now. It hurts I know

It is what it is. Even the most alpha dude is going to get someones left overs. Unless you invent a time machine.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Sometimes you just have to accept that all the nasty freaky unholy stuff you did to your ex....some guy is doing that to your future wife right now. It hurts I know

It is what it is. Even the most alpha dude is going to get someones left overs. Unless you invent a time machine.

Age is a big factor here. The older you get, the harder / more improbable its gonna be to find a needle in a haystack (but not impossible). For many guys it may not happen, they still should have standards like @Modern Man Advice said.

I dont get this back and forth between @Pedrito0906 and @pipeman84. Both of you have different views and should be free to pursue girls as you see fit.

This is like the 19th pointless thread on virginity, and op isnt even replying.

 

[member160292]

Guys, you’re not gonna find a virgin that hasn’t been railed and slurped up cvm. That’s a unicorn and if you focus all your time and energy doing so, you’re missing out on a lot of cool people along the way. Accept it for what it is and enjoy the moment. All this Time Machine talk is really pathetic, live life my brothas

 

[Dr.Suave]

Guys, you’re not gonna find a virgin

You can find them. But then they also have to pass the boner test. And then you have to succesully pull them. As you age it gets more and more improbable for all the stars to align.

 

[member160292]

You can find them. But then they also have to pass the boner test. And then you have to succesully pull them. As you age it gets more and more improbable for all the stars to align.

And the improbability is what you sacrifice your greatest resource for, time.

Just live life and enjoy the moment
-Some rapper once said

To add,
I had a plate recently that was looking for some small help financially along the way, she svcked a mean d!ck. I could support her no problem, but I ain’t a sugar daddy. Makes me wonder if I kept her around long term ha ha

 

[member160292]

It wasn't a headache, just a small argument because she asked me if she was just there for 'entertainment.' She got emotional with my response, which I admit was a bit confrontational on my doing and she is sensitive. Still unsure about the bipolar part, only time will tell.

We spent everyday together and it has been very smooth, aside from that incident. Though as many members here have mentioned, I might not be ready for an LTR. I'm planning to have a conversation with her today and delegate her down to plate status for now.

Just had the talk with her…she did not like the fact at all. Maybe she will come back, but it was a great time with her

 

[Dr.Suave]

Just had the talk with her…she did not like the fact at all. Maybe she will come back, but it was a great time with her

You did the right thing bro. Years ago I LTR a girl too soon. I had scarcity mentality at the time, it did not end well.

 

[startstrongtoday22]

Thanks for all the comments. I know it's probable but not impossible to find a virgin or someone who has not had more than 1 partner. The concern here is when you know what you have done to your ex sexually, there is a strong chance that another guy has done it to your next gf or the girl you are currently seeing. It is more mental/psych thing, because in reality I know women who have done some serious kinky **** and some serious hardcore stuff, while in school and college, and I now see them all married with kids, and guys who adore them like crazy. It is a very difficult pill to swallow and to accept when you think about what the previous guy did with the girl you are seeing now or dating.

As I mentioned, it's not be about being insecure that I can't measure up to the previous guy - I have never had any of those issues and never will, because I know I am a good catch; but it pains to me see some of these guys who tie the knot with someone these women who I know have done some crazy ****. In the modern dating game, I doubt I'll find someone...

 

[Dr.Suave]

Thanks for all the comments. I know it's probable but not impossible to find a virgin or someone who has not had more than 1 partner. The concern here is when you know what you have done to your ex sexually, there is a strong chance that another guy has done it to your next gf or the girl you are currently seeing. It is more mental/psych thing, because in reality I know women who have done some serious kinky **** and some serious hardcore stuff, while in school and college, and I now seem them all married with kids, and guys who adore them like crazy. It is a very difficult pill to swallow and to accept when you think about what the previous guy did with the girl you are seeing now or dating.

As I mentioned, it's not be about being insecure that I can't measure up to the previous guy - I have never had any of those issues and never will, because I know I am a good catch, but it pains to me see some of these guys who tie the knot with someone these women who I know have done some crazy ****. In the modern dating game, I doubt I'll find someone...

You avoided my question about your age. But you have come to terms that its improbable (not impossible) to find a needle in a haystack.

Op opened the thread, got the usual feedback, and came to terms with his odds. Maybe mods should close the thread.

 

[startstrongtoday22]

You avoided my question about your age. But you have come to terms that its improbable (not impossible) to find a needle in a haystack.

Op opened the thread, got the usual feedback, and came to terms with his odds. Maybe mods should close the thread.

36 man.
I just want to know if other guys think the way I do, and if not, how did come to terms with it. Because I have had other friends who also told me that I have unrealistic expectations and overthink the situation.

 

[Dr.Suave]

36 man.
I just want to know if other guys think the way I do, and if not, how did come to terms with it. Because I have had other friends who also told me that I have unrealistic expectations and overthink the situation.

I will PM you bro.

 

[Pandora]

Bro you are not crazy. We are the ones that are crazy. All the ancient cultures said " no hymen no diamond". It is the best way to go but you have to adapt to your environment. Those days are over. You have to get a little crazy if you are going to survive in a crazy environment.

What you are doing is like going to prison and saying " i will be non violent and never fight or defend myself. I am a strict pacifist". You will never find a virgin in the world. You will never find a virgin that is submissive enough to marry unless you go the Amazon jungle and even then...good luck.

 

[pipeman84]

I know women who have done some serious kinky **** and some serious hardcore stuff, while in school and college, and I now see them all married with kids, and guys who adore them like crazy.

but it pains to me see some of these guys who tie the knot with someone these women who I know have done some crazy ****.

The reality is that for whatever reasons, some guys just don't care about the woman's sexual past, even though in some cases (porn stars) it's out in the open.
The thing with porn stars got me thinking... I mean, logically, evolutionary speaking, one would assume no guy in his right mind and having more than 2 pennies to rub together would ever marry/have kids with a woman who did porn. Yet there are enough examples of this having happened.

So having this broad perspective, the cry of the guys who say: nah, you can't find a virgin, you're insecure for wanting one etc becomes laughable ... in other words, a woman who did porn found a man to marry her and get her pregnant, which basically defies logic and common sense. But a man wanting a virgin to marry, which is a desire that makes perfect logical and evolutionary sense, has become something deemed impossible or to be scoffed at?

 

[Dr.Suave]

You will never find a virgin in the world.

Arent you the bro who found like 3 or 4 virgins but they were annoying AF? Or am I confusing you with someone else?

 

[Pandora]

Arent you the bro who found like 3 or 4 virgins but they were annoying AF? Or am I confusing you with someone else?

Yes I am the one that dated and smashed 2 and was talking to 1 ( never smashed).
Like Howiswestern said " virginity does not mean compatibility.

I got super lucky. Chances are that I will never find another virgin again. Chances are none of us will.

Ironically these chicks are not submissive.

A woman has to learn submission from their mother. To be fair both of these were black college education virgins so i dont know how much race changes things. The last virgin that was the most combative was a white Russian girl.

 

[Pandora]

Oh btw one bad thing about dating a virgin is this. If you dont comply with what they want they will hit you with the guilt trip

" I gave you my viriginity ( cue the tears and sad face)."

Bruh.....sometimes its not worth it.

 

[2Rocky]

at my age, Virginity is a bad thing....either she is socially inept or mentally deranged if she is in my age range and a virgin.

You have to adopt a mindset of a blank slate or your insecurity will wreck you. Approach LTR prospects with the mindset of "from this point on" and don't ask questions you might not like the answers to.



"It’s said it takes seven years to grow completely new skin cells.To think, this year I will grow into a body you never will have touched.”

― Brett E. Jenkins

 

[pipeman84]

On this topic, the case of Eckhart Tolle comes to mind ... he seems to me to be a pretty enlightened guy....yet, have you seen his partner (Kim Eng)? She's divorced, with kids, and in some videos she has the laugh of a crazy woman. What's that all about? Well, for him some aspects that for me (and others) carry a lot of weight, don't seem to matter.

Wow, what a coincidence, this video just got uploaded on his channel and in it Eckhart says he has more feminine energy than masculine. This perfectly explains his choice of a mate.