Bipolar Cues

[member160292]

I’ve been exclusive with a plate for about a month and the sense of her being bipolar is starting rear its head.

We’re currently traveling to an area with a storm warning and most of the restaurants are closed. We’ve spent 4 days so far on this trip. As I’m driving figuring out dinner plans, a lot of things were going in my mind and I was constantly changing the plans.

She said I don’t know Chowdah, you just choose a place. I replied with an abrasive tone

She began to tear up saying she was overwhelmed by the various change in plans.

I told her hey, it’s a bit overwhelming, and I should try to understand you better and gave her a kiss

About 10 minutes later, her mood changes as if nothing has happened. I get all women are emotional, but she hasn’t shown any signs of bipolar before. Just wanted to share and get thoughts on this before it goes t!ts up

 

[Dr.Suave]

Dont lose frame. Comply or bye.

 

[member160292]

Dont lose frame. Comply or bye.

She’s been complying with everything I’m doing so far. My big concern is the bipolar part

 

[CBear]

I can never recommend anyone to be with someone who has bipolar, unfortunately. Not just from my experiences but from working in healthcare, where their reputation as nutcase is emphasized. If you try to be reasonable, you'll end up losing and slowly get broken to the point that you'll become a ghost of your former self.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Yep, that's a woman all right. I don't know about bipolar, that's a stretch. But like @Dr.Suave said, keep it cool man, don't let her emotions get the best of you.

 

[Billtx49]

A challenging trip full of uncertainty. Don’t make plans too far in advance you can’t keep under those conditions. No one likes uncertainty …

 

[member160292]

A challenging trip full of uncertainty. Don’t make plans too far in advance you can’t keep under those conditions. No one likes uncertainty …

It was a work trip that I invited her along to

Hope you’re staying safe

 

[Kotaix]

In isolation, that just sounds like a woman being a woman.

Bipolar episodes are more severe than just random mood swings. It'll feel more like you're talking to a different person, and manic episodes will last hours to weeks if they aren't taking their medication.

You should look up the signs of BPD and HPD and see if she matches a decent number of them. Doubtful, but possible.

 

[Stanley]

Just sounds like her being a woman, wouldn't read into it this early on. Travelling is stressful and women especially on a trip like things to be structured. The uncertainty of things probably stressed her out and some people are just like that with these kind of things.

 

[member160292]

In isolation, that just sounds like a woman being a woman.

Bipolar episodes are more severe than just random mood swings. It'll feel more like you're talking to a different person, and manic episodes will last hours to weeks if they aren't taking their medication.

You should look up the signs of BPD and HPD and see if she matches a decent number of them. Doubtful, but possible.

I’ve been reading up on threads here, seems like f’ing hell. I’m trying to identify it early on because a lot of those threads goes SHTF.

It’s way easier to walk away in the early part of the relationship than months into it. Maybe I’m a bit too easy to walk away, and looking for red flags. I’ll try to assume this is just a normal episode from women

 

[threeforfree]

Check her medicine cabinet, or anything else looking for prescription bottles. If there's any mental health meds anywhere, RUN.

 

[Kotaix]

I’ve been reading up on threads here, seems like f’ing hell. I’m trying to identify it early on because a lot of those threads goes SHTF.

It’s way easier to walk away in the early part of the relationship than months into it. Maybe I’m a bit too easy to walk away, and looking for red flags. I’ll try to assume this is just a normal episode from women

It seems normal woman to me.

A BPD chick will flip out beyond all reason. An HPD chick needs to be the center of attention and will flirt with whoever she needs to in order to achieve that.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I don't know if I would classify her as "bipolar" based on that one (quite minor) incident. Bipolar is when she gives you a morning bl0wjob and then slashes your tires 15 minutes later.

 

[member160292]

Yup…we just had sex and she asked me if it was just that. I provided comfort even though she knew we are exclusive. She started bawling out. I let her stay in the bedroom and told her come see me when she when she was feeling better

bipolar charts are off the radar

 

[member160292]

If this chick is actually bipolar, she ain’t gonna break me down that easily

 

[member160292]

She just left the hotel room with her phone. Classic

 

[RazorRambo24]

idk where to start .. i see alot of issues here
1) "exclusivity with a plate" .. you never want to be exclusive with a plate. that makes no sense. shes your fwb, not your girlfriend
2) 4 days trip with a plate.. what? why? makes no sense. this isnt your girlfriend/fiance/
3) you want to really limit the amount of time u give to a plate in your life.. this is ideal. in the beginning u want to keep it just sexual and nothing else.. over time she will want more.. and even thenu dont give plates alot of your time. having a good buffer in between allows you to find out exactly what a girl is like emotionally

theres a reason why i onoly see my plates once a week. i can see them more than that but it took me years to understand and learn from experience that the best balance is created when u dont invest urself too much into a woman whos mostly just for pleasure. plates are for recreational use only. if u manage to keep them in ur life for long, yes, you will develop feelings for the.. but you have to learn to seperate those feelings aside from what you have .. ie: its good to have care for them as friends, but once u catch urself loving a plate, ur either on your way out of the player lifestyle or you're too invested

as for bipolar.. thats not how bipolar works.. shes def got BPD or soem other mental/emotional issues.. this is another reason why u dont give a bih that much of ur time, shes probably goin to end up causing u alot of stress and ur most likely going to allow it by the sound of it

 

[member160292]

idk where to start .. i see alot of issues here
1) "exclusivity with a plate" .. you never want to be exclusive with a plate. that makes no sense. shes your fwb, not your girlfriend
2) 4 days trip with a plate.. what? why? makes no sense. this isnt your girlfriend/fiance/
3) you want to really limit the amount of time u give to a plate in your life.. this is ideal. in the beginning u want to keep it just sexual and nothing else.. over time she will want more.. and even thenu dont give plates alot of your time. having a good buffer in between allows you to find out exactly what a girl is like emotionally

theres a reason why i onoly see my plates once a week. i can see them more than that but it took me years to understand and learn from experience that the best balance is created when u dont invest urself too much into a woman whos mostly just for pleasure. plates are for recreational use only. if u manage to keep them in ur life for long, yes, you will develop feelings for the.. but you have to learn to seperate those feelings aside from what you have .. ie: its good to have care for them as friends, but once u catch urself loving a plate, ur either on your way out of the player lifestyle or you're too invested

as for bipolar.. thats not how bipolar works.. shes def got BPD or soem other mental/emotional issues.. this is another reason why u dont give a bih that much of ur time, shes probably goin to end up causing u alot of stress and ur most likely going to allow it by the sound of it

Exclusivity means a committed relationship

 

[RazorRambo24]

Exclusivity means a committed relationship

You understand why we call them plates right? The two things are not the same. For her to be a plate, you have to be seeing multiple women.. Spinnin plates is a balancing act. So she's your girlfriend basically.. If so man I'd try to find a nice way to let her down easy and run for the hills.. She sounds like a trainwreck..

 

[member160292]

You understand why we call them plates right? The two things are not the same. For her to be a plate, you have to be seeing multiple women.. Spinnin plates is a balancing act. So she's your girlfriend basically.. If so man I'd try to find a nice way to let her down easy and run for the hills.. She sounds like a trainwreck..

Yes, we are committed