So texting a woman once a week to keep her spinning doesn’t work

[SargeMaximus]

Just got dumped from a fwb with a massive wall of text after I just reached out to say “hey you, how was your week?” We chatted for a bit then she dropped that on me. Still too needy it seems.

Personally I dont care and won’t lose sleep over it, but it is funny because now I expect all of you will go 180 on your advice and say I gotta never contact girls even though a few weeks ago y’all said I had to contact them.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Stirring the pot over a sample size of one, SargeMaximus style.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Stirring the pot over a sample size of one, SargeMaximus style.

Always brah

 

[BillyPilgrim]

This sounds like a ticking time bomb that you got out of easy

Some kind of call-back text (referring to something you'd talked about previously or something that you know she is into) works best in my experience. Even if it's sporadic or short, something more personal will work better than something that's more generic.

 

[Murk]

It would help if you posted the wall of text for context rather than attack this forum like a child because you can’t maintain a fwb without getting dumped. How is it our fault you’re needy and push women away?

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Just got dumped from a fwb with a massive wall of text after I just reached out to say “hey you, how was your week?” We chatted for a bit then she dropped that on me. Still too needy it seems.

Personally I dont care and won’t lose sleep over it, but it is funny because now I expect all of you will go 180 on your advice and say I gotta never contact girls even though a few weeks ago y’all said I had to contact them.

or maybe... she wanted a different type of relationship than just a fwb. I wouldn't say it's about being needy

 

[Stanley]

Personally I dont care and won’t lose sleep over it,

Yes, you care otherwise why make a post?
You don't get 'dumped' by a **** buddy, you get dropped.

"So texting a woman once a week to keep her spinning doesn’t work"
What is with this site resorting to weak strawman arguments of late? Because you followed some formulaic advice and failed you think that is the sole cause of the fallout from this chick? How do you take that advice and use it to place blame?.. Because A didn't work b was the result??? That kind of excessively logical thinking is something someone lacking in social skills does.

but it is funny because now I expect all of you will go 180 on your advice and say I gotta never contact girls even though a few weeks ago y’all said I had to contact them.

Advice doesn't need to be taken or even considered if you don't want to, but you apparently chose to take other posters past advice given this post... and since it failed you now blame the forum and expect posters to do a "180" ??? Think for yourself for christ sake. No one knows the full situation and can only give their take based of their experiences and what little info you give them. You need to have the common sense to think for yourself and enact nuance. You don't post the full story or any context at all, but I highly DOUBT because you texted her once over the span of week she dropped you. There were other reasons...

And yeah if she's just some chick you're smashing why do you care about her week? Why are you hitting her up like she's a girlfriend? She's a girl you see on the side when you're horny and nothing more, that is a fwb. You were needy. You shouldn't care that she 'dumped' you because she wasn't yours to begin with.

Go find another and quit being passive aggressive like a woman and ****ting on the forum that 'assumedly' tried to help you.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I’ve told this guy countless times that it’s not the principles here that are failing - it’s his faulty execution of the principles. It falls on deaf ears.
He needs to entertain the possibility that he doesn’t know everything and he could actually learn something here if he had an attitude of humility. Ain’t gonna happen though.

 

[SargeMaximus]

or maybe... she wanted a different type of relationship than just a fwb. I wouldn't say it's about being needy

Yeah she said she wants to pursue a relationship with this other guy basically

I’ve told this guy countless times that it’s not the principles here that are failing - it’s his faulty execution of the principles. It falls on deaf ears.
He needs to entertain the possibility that he doesn’t know everything and he could actually learn something here if he had an attitude of humility. Ain’t gonna happen though.

Bro I’m trying these ideas precisely because I know I got more to learn

 

[manfrombelow]

There's no such thing as "texting a woman once a week to keep her spinning".

For a plate, a text is to setup logistics, for example the motel room to meet. When you show up, you bang the sh!t outta her, and that's it.

And never forget all plates have an expiry date.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Duh. Why is this a surprise to anyone.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Lol op is silly

 

[SargeMaximus]

Why do you guys just hate on me? I’m actually trying your suggestions and they consistently fail. Instead of offer the tweaks you say I am missing, you just bash me. Toxic af. Makes me think you’re all KJ just trolling me

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Why do you guys just hate on me? I’m actually trying your suggestions and they consistently fail. Instead of offer the tweaks you say I am missing, you just bash me. Toxic af. Makes me think you’re all KJ just trolling me

I never have said contact a woman once a week. I talk to my plates daily for the most part. Nothing major most times, just a few texts back and forth.

Lack of communication is usually seen as lack of interest or only interest in sex.

Again. If you are planning to treat a woman like a wh0re, she can't feel like you are treating her like a wh0re.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Why do you guys just hate on me? I’m actually trying your suggestions and they consistently fail. Instead of offer the tweaks you say I am missing, you just bash me. Toxic af. Makes me think you’re all KJ just trolling me

Aren't you the guy who periodically trashes this site because the principles "definitely don't work"?

We have been trying to tell you that it's not the principles that are at fault (because they do in fact work), but rather, your execution of the principles. Your problem is you "know" too much. You're a student who instead of learning from his successful peers, trashes their advice because you haven't yet found the nuances.

I've noticed that you are pretty quick to hate on others, just as you accuse us of the same thing.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I never have said contact a woman once a week. I talk to my plates daily for the most part. Nothing major most times, just a few texts back and forth.

Lack of communication is usually seen as lack of interest or only interest in sex.

Again. If you are planning to treat a woman like a wh0re, she can't feel like you are treating her like a wh0re.

So now I gotta text them daily? How is that consistent with the advice on here which is to not text her everyday?

Aren't you the guy who periodically trashes this site because the principles "definitely don't work"?

We have been trying to tell you that it's not the principles that are at fault (because they do in fact work), but rather, your execution of the principles. Your problem is you "know" too much. You're a student who instead of learning from his successful peers, trashes their advice because you haven't yet found the nuances.

I've noticed that you are pretty quick to hate on others, just as you accuse us of the same thing.

So… here I am trying these techniques. Nows your chance to tell me how my execution can be tweaked

 

[BackInTheGame78]

So now I gotta text them daily? How is that consistent with the advice on here which is to not text her everyday?

So… here I am trying these techniques. Nows your chance to tell me how my execution can be tweaked

You do what works for you. That's what works for me. I never said you have to text them everyday. You need to stop going from one end of the spectrum to the other. There is a always a happy medium that will likely work much better than either of the two extremes.

For me, I am great with texting. I will never lose a woman from texting. Others who aren't can either choose to improve at that or be afraid of saying the wrong thing all the time and limit their texting.

I'm not into being forced to do something out of fear, I'd rather improve to the point of turning a weakness into a strength.

 

[SargeMaximus]

You do what works for you. That's what works for me. I never said you have to text them everyday. You need to stop going from one end of the spectrum to the other. There is a always a happy medium that will likely work much better than either of the two extremes.

For me, I am great with texting. I will never lose a woman from texting. Others who aren't can either choose to improve at that or be afraid of saying the wrong thing all the time and limit their texting.

I'm not into being forced to do something out of fear, I'd rather improve to the point of turning a weakness into a strength.

Yeah I mean I’m trying to improve my game. I want to take what works for me and double down but then there are ideas on here that supposedly work and so I try them because idgaf if I lose a girl if it means my game will improve in the future but when a technique doesn’t produce results I question whether it is taking me in the right direction. Hence the frustration

 

[Stanley]

You need to stop going from one end of the spectrum to the other.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

dude take some responsibility, none of these people are mind readers.

and you need to be adaptable, woman are not robots who just fall for something bc it's a "technique"