I just started 2 community college classes, I've been talking to 1 women in each class but so far ground level.
Girls don't approach me as they used to. No choosing signals...this is the worst time of my life.
Bump. If you're a 21 year old in 2 classes, what would you do!?
I self improved sooo much I feel like if i can continue I may be depressed, it feels like coping at this point. I stopped smoking, drinking, porn. Cmon....something!?
First off, congratulations on no smoking, drinking, or porn. You're doing the right thing. Keep it going! Make sure to do no masturbation alongside no porn.
At either a private college/public university or a community college, choosing signals are tough to get. I remember when I was in college, I was frustrated because I wasn't getting enough choosing signals. I also went to college in a simpler era (2001-2005). In 2001-2005, online dating was a few websites that older people mainly used and social media was in its infancy at the end of my college time. Still, even with fewer competing factors, I found that as I walked past women on campus, few made strong eye contact and smiled at me.
You're likely going to need to do more approaches. Approach women in your classes and walking around campus. You're still early in the new semester.
Does your community college have extracurricular activities? Get involved in those and do approaches through those.
There is a thread about all topics college sex below. The thread has value, even though it is more focused on larger public universities and their mating scenes as compared to the community college mating scene.
I thought I'd share this as someone who went to a party school and was in a fraternity there as well. Not wanting to give too much about myself but I went to UGA and graduated a few years ago. While Athens has its hot girls, I do feel like the quality got worse every year due to the admission...
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Hollywood has given us a false impression that college is a pvssy paradise for the average guy. This is far from the truth unless you are seen as a top 10% guy from the women at your college or university due to hypergamy. Add in OLD and social media and you are now competing against older guys with money and more established lives.
When I was a junior and senior in high school, I had this impression that college was going to be a "pusssy paradise" for me. It wasn't. It wasn't even close to a pusssy paradise. I didn't do many things that might have helped my pusssy experience while on campus, but even if I did all of the best things, I still would have felt a bit of disappointment. I had unrealistic expectations of the pusssy environment in college going into my application and selection process.
Even in 2001-2005, before swipe apps and social media were a thing, you'd have to be a Top 10% guy to get attention then. Women at my college were more focused on the NCAA athletes and ex-high school athletes who had top tier looks to notice the vast majority of men.
college is still the best time for the average guy to get laid due to logistics and culture alone.
I agree. When you're a college student, everyone around you is unmarried and almost no one has kids. While some people form exclusive relationships while in college and that affects the mating options, it's still way easier because the single moms and the marrieds are removed from the market. It is easier than the general marketplace. Additionally, it's way easier to pursue romantic interactions in classes/campus activities than it would be in a white collar workplace (#MeToo, HR feminists) or a blue collar workplace (lacking females entirely). If a romantic interaction goes bad in a 200 level class, the class ends at the end of the semester. In a workplace, if a romantic interaction goes bad at any point, someone might hear from HR or need to find a new job. College has a huge advantage with that.
College nightlife can consist of Greek Life parties (for Greek Life members), random parties at well known party apartment complexes, or bars that are mostly college students. The general populace doesn't have those same options and the general populace is dealing with more stuff like marrieds, single moms, older people with more baggage, etc.
College daygame on campus is easier than daygaming in the general populace.
if a guy puts in the work with himself, you will make up for your lack of college success after you graduate. You do not have much control over your SMV hierarchy in college, but you will after you graduate.
In summary, focus on your grades and major kid. You will get a few scoundrels here and there, but they aren't worth it right now.
Relationships fail. The women from college will soon be a part of the past.
For men that graduate college with a girlfriend, it is likely that the college-formed relationship will end within 3-5 years of graduation. At some point, a man finds himself in his mid to late 20s with no girlfriend and the need to find a new girlfriend or new plates. If you're a man who is 23-27 and recently single after your college romance goes bad, how are you going to adjust to this new reality?
Men who end college without a steady girlfriend immediately enter the general populace dating market if they don't have any social circle options. That can be a rude awakening.
Men who have a strong foundation for their SMV can cope better with the adjustment to the general dating populace. Sooner or later, almost all men who graduate college will need to face the post-college dating environment. It's quite rare to get married to your college sweetheart in your 20s, have kids with her somewhere in your late 20s/mid 30s, and have that relationship last forever. Even men who beat the 3-5 years failure odds and get married often get divorced from their college sweethearts between ages 35-44. Try being 40 years old and not having dated since age 20. Usually, that 40 year old guy also has kids from his ex. That's a tough situation too. It's easier in a way to be a childless 25 year old with a failed relationship with the college sweetheart than a divorced 40 year old guy with kids with a failed marriage from the college sweetheart.
