What do you guys make of this?

[Lifeman]

I approached a girl, we had chatted on text and then I went on to arrange date
me: Which day weekend are you free?
Her: Saturday afternoon should work, like mid afternoon
Me: Alright lets meet at the (name of venue) at 3pm Saturday
Her: ok
On the day of the date
me: see you at 3
Her: I'm going to be honest, I do not feel like leaving my house anymore today. Can we postpone this?
Her: To tomorrow? Or maybe next week? I am just very tired

After this I didn't respond as I took it as a flake and assumed she would not show up at all.
She texted like thirty minutes after 3
Her: As you didn't respond, I showed up anyways. It doesn't look like you are here though, so let me know if tomorrow or next week will work for you
Me: No worries. Get some rest, lets meet tomorrow same place same time
Her: I'd prefer next week to be honest, since I showed up anyways
Me: Alright next Saturday same place same time

I am concluding that this is a low interest woman, So I am soft nexting her. What do you guys think?

 

[Stanley]

I doubt she actually showed up man. Let her make the date at this point and leave it at that. If she is wanting to reschedule she might actually be interested. Give her one pass and leave it in her court. She flakes again you have your answer

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I can see this being a cold approach problem. Did she like *you*, or did she like the fact that you had the balls to approach her? It seems similar to sending a cool and unique message on OLD, and the woman responding because of the message (i.e., the manner in which you initially engaged her) and not because of you.

Still got to screen for high interest OP. That means flirting, comfort building, escalating when there are opportunities, etc, before the meet and seeing how she responds.

 

[jaymbrs]

Def some low interest possibly mixed with something else since she did counter with another time/date. I would've taken her up on her offer of next day and if she flaked again, then next.

 

[RazorRambo24]

You just think too much bro. She's communicating and you're not. She told you she didn't feel like going out because she's tired. Thats perfectly normal.. I don't go out when I'm tired too. makes no sense, when I'm not going to be 100% myself

Weird thing is just because she didnt say she would come, you decided to not go too? Or did you not plan on going anyways without her? lol

These days I notice alot of men need so much validation for them to feel like a girl likes them. No one is supposed to like you off bat. unless u just want a superficial relationship.. you gotta show them why they like you lol

 

[The Duke]

I've been in a very similar situation before. 1 hr before the date the chic texted and said she couldn't make it. I didn't reply. I decided to go to the bar anyways. About 15min after we were supposed to meet she texts and says she went ahead and showed up and didn't see me so she left.

I was at the place the entire time, she never walked in. Lol.

A person that was actually interested in meeting you would have texted/called saying they were there, where are you.

This girl has low interest, and OP ignoring her excites her.

 

[Young OG]

I approached a girl, we had chatted on text and then I went on to arrange date
me: Which day weekend are you free?
Her: Saturday afternoon should work, like mid afternoon
Me: Alright lets meet at the (name of venue) at 3pm Saturday
Her: ok
On the day of the date
me: see you at 3
Her: I'm going to be honest, I do not feel like leaving my house anymore today. Can we postpone this?
Her: To tomorrow? Or maybe next week? I am just very tired

After this I didn't respond as I took it as a flake and assumed she would not show up at all.
She texted like thirty minutes after 3
Her: As you didn't respond, I showed up anyways. It doesn't look like you are here though, so let me know if tomorrow or next week will work for you
Me: No worries. Get some rest, lets meet tomorrow same place same time
Her: I'd prefer next week to be honest, since I showed up anyways
Me: Alright next Saturday same place same time

I am concluding that this is a low interest woman, So I am soft nexting her. What do you guys think?

After you set up the date, did you talk to her at all leading up to the day of date?

 

[Lifeman]

After you set up the date, did you talk to her at all leading up to the day of date?

Initially, after I met her, I sent her first message saying, "pleasure chatting with you" of which she replied, "pleasure was all mine."
Then the next day I did attempt to build rapport with her over text before even scheduling the date. Of which she did not respond.
Then the following morning I said, "You must be better at conversation in person than over text, lets meet at a venue"
She responded by first answering my rapport building question and saying, " Its true, I prefer talking in person." Then I went ahead and arranged the date two days before. I Didn't text her until the morning of the date day.

 

[Lifeman]

So much this^. And what Billy said.

Like how high do you expect her interest to be after one brief chat during a cold approach?

Chat, build rapport, meet in person and build interest and attraction that way.

Unless it's a love at first sight thing, lol women aren't gonna drop their lives for you after one brief chat during a cold approach.

She counter-offered, she's interested in meeting you and getting to know you.

That's as far as her interest goes at this point, which is healthy and normal.

I did attempt to build rapport over text, bringing up a topic we discussed when I approached her. She did not respond, until the next day when kind of called her out by saying she must be better at talking in person than over text. Then she responded by answering my rapport question and saying she does indeed prefers to talk in person. Of which I went for the date.

 

[zekko]

You just think too much bro. She's communicating and you're not. She told you she didn't feel like going out because she's tired. Thats perfectly normal.. I don't go out when I'm tired too. makes no sense, when I'm not going to be 100% myself

Sometimes people need a little push when going out with new people, or trying new things. I've felt like this myself, but usually if I go I'm glad I went. But I certainly understand not being in the mood.

 

[manfrombelow]

I approached a girl, we had chatted on text and then I went on to arrange date
me: Which day weekend are you free?

1. You should have made a definite date i.e "Let's go out at X time on Y place". You should never ask a girl when she is free.

On the day of the date
me: see you at 3

2. So you texted her right before the date to "confirm" it? This contributed to her flaking.

Her: I'm going to be honest, I do not feel like leaving my house anymore today. Can we postpone this?
Her: To tomorrow? Or maybe next week? I am just very tired

3. If her date was Brad Pitt, Channing Tatum, or Chris Hemsworth, should she be "very tired"? I don't think so. The fact she's lukewarm and flaking indicated her Interest Level was fvcking low, even non-existent.

After this I didn't respond as I took it as a flake and assumed she would not show up at all.
She texted like thirty minutes after 3
Her: As you didn't respond, I showed up anyways.

4. I highly doubted she "showed up" anyway. But let's give her the benefit of the doubt by showing up "next Saturday same place same time". And please, this time no texting in between.

 

[manfrombelow]

I've been in a very similar situation before. 1 hr before the date the chic texted and said she couldn't make it. I didn't reply. I decided to go to the bar anyways. About 15min after we were supposed to meet she texts and says she went ahead and showed up and didn't see me so she left.

I was at the place the entire time, she never walked in. Lol.

A person that was actually interested in meeting you would have texted/called saying they were there, where are you.

This girl has low interest, and OP ignoring her excites her.

Exact-fvcking-ly, if she's genuinely worried you might show up anyway, she would have called.

Women are experts at lying, but that's okay.

 

[manfrombelow]

Sometimes people need a little push when going out with new people, or trying new things. I've felt like this myself, but usually if I go I'm glad I went. But I certainly understand not being in the mood.

If you have to need a little push for a fvcking date, your Interest Level for that person is low as fvck.

If I knew the woman I'm trying to see on 1st "needs a little push" to see me, I'd be very happy to cancel the date to save her the trouble. I think that, no matter who you are, you should only go out with someone that's as enthusiastic to see you, not needing "a little push."

 

[manfrombelow]

To sum it up:

Women don't owe you guys anything. After all, they are not bad people just because they are not horny enough to see you.

As men, you should always have a sharp eye on your dates' Interest Level to know when is the right time to pursue a bit harder, and when to walk away and stop troubling the other person.

 

[Young OG]

Initially, after I met her, I sent her first message saying, "pleasure chatting with you" of which she replied, "pleasure was all mine."
Then the next day I did attempt to build rapport with her over text before even scheduling the date. Of which she did not respond.
Then the following morning I said, "You must be better at conversation in person than over text, lets meet at a venue"
She responded by first answering my rapport building question and saying, " Its true, I prefer talking in person." Then I went ahead and arranged the date two days before. I Didn't text her until the morning of the date day.

Sounds like she was low interest. If it was Channing Tatum do you think she would have acted like that and then flaked? She wouldn’t have told him she didn’t want to leave the house anymore. She just didn’t see you as high enough value for her.

 

[SW15]

I approached a girl...I am concluding that this is a low interest woman,

Sounds like she was low interest. She just didn’t see you as high enough value for her.

It's good @Lifeman did an in-person approach. Too many men are content to swipe on apps, which gives women a major advantage. @Lifeman deserves credit for making an approach. Yes, the prospect was low interest. Most normie range men will deal with low interest women who will flake at times. Top tier men (Top 10-20%) have a much lower flake rate than men in the normie range.

1. You should have made a definite date i.e "Let's go out at X time on Y place". You should never ask a girl when she is free.

He did that in the second text. I agree that it would have been better had he led with "X time and Y place". I make the date plans in-person, then collect her phone number.

2. So you texted her right before the date to "confirm" it? This contributed to her flaking.

I've never liked the idea of "confirming" dates on the day of the date. It seems very business like to me. I get text messages when I have dental appointments to confirm those. I don't want my romantic engagements to feel like a dental appointment.

Women will text me in a lot of cases to confirm a first date. I'll respond with a minimal yes. This is more common behavior in tech-arranged first dates than in-person arranged ones, but even the women I arrange dates with in-person will pull the "confirmation" move. The epidemic of flaking has made more people edgy.

3. If her date was Brad Pitt, Channing Tatum, or Chris Hemsworth, should she be "very tired"? I don't think so. The fact she's lukewarm and flaking indicated her Interest Level was fvcking low, even non-existent.

I agree this was a sign of low interest.

4. I highly doubted she "showed up" anyway. But let's give her the benefit of the doubt by showing up "next Saturday same place same time". And please, this time no texting in between.

The only thing @Lifeman could have done differently is respond to her "tired" text faster to prevent the "show up". I don't think she showed up to the date either.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Who the f0ck flakes and then says she showed up anyway?

 

[zekko]

If you have to need a little push for a fvcking date, your Interest Level for that person is low as fvck.

Well, I would agree, but this is a cold approach situation we're talking about here (unless I'm misinterpreting the OP). The girl doesn't know you, she was interested enough to accept the date, but she has no reason to be overly excited about you, she doesn't have a clue who you are. It's too early in the process, you're still building attraction, and that tends to take longer with females.

 

[Murk]

LOL this girl is capping, hard. She must think you're an idiot to believe she showed up. She has shown her character right here, she's a liar and nothing solid can be built with these frail foundations (lies).

Arrange a date, nut in her face, gone. Do not invest in this low-quality human being.