Dont understand this girl (23)

[ramigersa]

So me and that girl be talkin for a while now
we hung out together a few times
lately she started tellin people we are couple (the ****? LOL)
but the weirdest thing is she doesnt let me kiss her
i tried a frew time and she rejected me
it seems like she attracted to me , she let me touch her ..and everything is mutual
and if anything she does more to keep contact than me ..
what can be the reason ..?
(and no she is not the type of girl that take things ''slow'')

 

[manfrombelow]

23-year-old OP, I have only 02 questions for you:

1. Have you fvcked this girl yet?
2. Do you want to fvck her?

If (1) is yes and (2) is no, then who cares?

If (1) is no and (2) is yes, then what are you waiting for? Next time escalate to kissing and fvcking her.

If (1) is no and (2) is no, then who cares?

I know you're gonna be confused as fvck by my answer, but seriously, don't be a lazy azz and read everything on here.

 

[ramigersa]

23-year-old OP, I have only 02 questions for you:

1. Have you fvcked this girl yet?
2. Do you want to fvck her?

If (1) is yes and (2) is no, then who cares?

If (1) is no and (2) is yes, then what are you waiting for? Next time escalate to kissing and fvcking her.

If (1) is no and (2) is no, then who cares?

I know you're gonna be confused as fvck by my answer, but seriously, don't be a lazy azz and read everything on here.

bro this thread is literally about me failing the escalting part ..
ofc i wanna fvck her , i did try to escalate things .. everything was very good until my attempt to kiss
i aint lazy tho i done read a lot

 

[manfrombelow]

bro this thread is literally about me failing the escalting part ..
ofc i wanna fvck her , i did try to escalate things .. everything was very good until my attempt to kiss
i aint lazy tho i done read a lot

I was not there to really see how you did the escalation, however, if she kept rejecting your kino attempt, stay back, and stop contacting her altogether and hit on other women.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Breath ok? Yours I mean. It really can come down to that.

 

[Stanley]

So me and that girl be talkin for a while now
we hung out together a few times

Define a few times and hung out. Did you smash?

lately she started tellin people we are couple (the ****? LOL)

Redflag

but the weirdest thing is she doesnt let me kiss her
i tried a frew time and she rejected me
it seems like she attracted to me , she let me touch her ..and everything is mutual
and if anything she does more to keep contact than me ..

(and no she is not the type of girl that take things ''slow'')

Try harder. Make the hoe say no. If she is into, referring to you as a couple, acts attracted, initiates contact you are failing somewhere.

(and no she is not the type of girl that take things ''slow'')

You don't know that. Better off rephrasing and saying she is not the type of girl to take things slow...except with me.
Sounds either inexperienced or nutty.

 

[anonymous12345]

 

[Bingo-Player]

it seems like she attracted to me , she let me touch her ..and everything is mutual
and if anything she does more to keep contact than me ..
what can be the reason ..?
(and no she is not the type of girl that take things ''slow'')

It sounds like theres been a bit too much pu$$yfooting around in the early stages and she feels she controls the frame now

You have to at least kiss her by the second date or she's going to think you have no balls

Generally women like to test their men I.E

"how much does he want me"

" how brave / confident is he "

" will he take no for an answer"

It's fvcked up but yea welcome to attraction in 2023

 

[Stanley]

That's a great clip, had me rolling

 

[Dr.Suave]

what can be the reason ..?

Could be a test. Girls test you when interest is not high enough.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

Probably she ain't into you, and is just spreading the word the you two are together around to get the attention of some other man she actually likes and has probs f'ed in the past.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

What's with this obsession to understand women?

Who knows, man. We can all theorize, but it comes down to whether it is relevant?

Focus on what you can control, and that is the frame. You lost it, period. She has you running the hamster wheel.

GET OFF OF IT.

 

[Mike32ct]

Tell her that you enjoy her company, but you’re really not looking for a friend.

Then back off, and see what she does.

TLDR: She’s trying to friendzone you. You need to be more assertive and put your foot down.

 

[jaymbrs]

Probably she ain't into you, and is just spreading the word the you two are together around to get the attention of some other man she actually likes and has probs f'ed in the past.

This is what I was going to say. I've had this happen to me too, which coincidentally drove me to this site. She would be super flirtatious, we messed around once but she would reject me afterwards, her friends seemed to be interested in me as her date. But it turned out she was just using me to fill the time when her and her bf broke up and then got back together. If something like that happened again, I would immediately shift my focus to another woman ASAP which is what I recommend you do.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It's hard to say...we aren't seeing what's happening when you are trying to escalate.

Like are they clumsy attempts with little chance of success? Are you acting too thirsty? Is it smooth and she is just shutting it down?

 

[Murk]

Legendary set, a masterpiece.

 

[SW15]

TLDR: She’s trying to friendzone you. You need to be more assertive and put your foot down.

Never accept the friend zone if you are physically attracted to a woman.

Male-female friendships aren't even good in situations when you aren't physically attracted to the woman either. I'd recommend avoiding those too.

In my 20+ years in the mating environment, the thing I've done best throughout the years is avoiding the friend zone when attracted.

There are consequences for avoiding female friendship. You'll get fewer social circle introductions. However, if other aspects of your Game are good enough, you won't need the social circle introductions.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Man read the thread in my profile.. SoSuave is full of clueless dudes who really cant understand situations because 1) their not used to meeting grls or having girls in theiir life.. 2) they come across ag irl finally, and are oblivious to the fact they are being used as a rebound or a step stool / support animal for a girl to gain her confidence back/get over someone/recover from a fight with their partner

The fact is this: if you're not used to getting/attracting/keeping women in your life.. things dont magically change.. You ned to be highly suspect of landing a girl miraculously after that who randomly seems super into you. 60% of the posts on SoSuave can be solved just by guys using common sense logic and realizing they are a rebound/being used by a woman for temporary gratification/emotional therapy

You can't tell that this girl is having fun with you? If any girl can joke around with ag uy and say thats her man without feeling weird or saing they are a couple before anything happens, shes toying with you.. They choose guys who they can toy with adn wont really have feelings for to rebound with/utilize for emotional support while dating a guy they love, or getting over an ex they love. WAKE UP.