I am really that ugly?

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I am slightly anxious when it comes to communicating with men. The reason for this is that I consider myself not beautiful enough and even ugly sometimes, although I have often received attention from men.

However, something happened recently that made me a complete mess. I went to a party where one of the boys repeatedly initiated conversations with me. I noticed how he was often looking at me, one time even staring at me continuously, and even smiling at me. I also talked to him, smiling and trying my best to show that I was interested too.

Then, just when my insecure mind decided that maybe there is a slim chance that he liked me, I was left shocked. Suddenly, he asked me and my girlfriend for advice about some girl he met recently and liked, but she ghosted him.

Since he told us that he realized it wasn't worth it and got over her, I decided to keep communicating with him, hoping that we would at least exchange contacts in the end since we would never see each other again. But that didn't happen and we all left.

So, I welcomed the New Year with a shattered peace of mind, very confused, miserable, and convinced more than ever that apparently I'm not pretty enough or even ugly once he didn't do anything more. I know how he was looking at me, it was definitely not accidental eye contact, he was staring at me repeatedly and consistently. And he began initiating conversations. Am I really that delusional and if there is any chance he really liked me? But if he had, why didn't he want anything more?
 
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celine_29928 said:
So, I welcomed the New Year with a shattered peace of mind, very confused, miserable, and convinced more than ever that apparently I'm not pretty enough or even ugly once he didn't do anything more. I know how he was looking at me, it was definitely not accidental eye contact, he was staring at me repeatedly and consistently. And he began initiating conversations. Am I really that delusional and if there is any chance he really liked me? But if he had, why didn't he want anything more?
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Could very well be a result of your own failure to demonstrate indicators of interest. Ever heard the expression it takes two to tango? Most women these days have no game. They have no idea how to talk to/flirt with men and how to send signals that men can respond to.

Whether or not you are "beautiful" is beside the point. Most women are not beautiful (i.e. they are average). You claim that you often receive attention from men, which suggests that the problem is more likely to be with your social skills (or the lack thereof) as opposed to aesthetics.
 
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It’s quite possible (and even likely) he was interested. But he might have been shy about it and/or still hurting because he got burned by the other woman.

I think you self-sabotaged here. Men and women can do this. When self-confidence and self-esteem aren’t high enough, someone else showing interest can catch us off guard. Then we don’t believe it. We wait around to “stack more evidence” that they are truly attracted. Then the opportunity slips away because we didn’t make a move (or at least not fast enough).
 
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celine_29928 said:
I am slightly anxious when it comes to communicating with men. The reason for this is that I consider myself not beautiful enough and even ugly sometimes, although I have often received attention from men.

However, something happened recently that made me a complete mess. I went to a party where one of the boys repeatedly initiated conversations with me. I noticed how he was often looking at me, one time even staring at me continuously, and even smiling at me. I also talked to him, smiling and trying my best to show that I was interested too.

Then, just when my insecure mind decided that maybe there is a slim chance that he liked me, I was left shocked. Suddenly, he asked me and my girlfriend for advice about some girl he met recently and liked, but she ghosted him.

Since he told us that he realized it wasn't worth it and got over her, I decided to keep communicating with him, hoping that we would at least exchange contacts in the end since we would never see each other again. But that didn't happen and we all left.

So, I welcomed the New Year with a shattered peace of mind, very confused, miserable, and convinced more than ever that apparently I'm not pretty enough or even ugly once he didn't do anything more. I know how he was looking at me, it was definitely not accidental eye contact, he was staring at me repeatedly and consistently. And he began initiating conversations. Am I really that delusional and if there is any chance he really liked me? But if he had, why didn't he want anything more?
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Honestly its probably all in your head. Did you at any point in your life get alot of attention from guys/compliments from people in general on your looks? IF not, honestly best thing to do is post a picture or send some guys a pic and ask them to be brutally honest.. You'll never know until you know.. Its best to have clarity on stuff like this.. The interaction you spoke of means nothing.. theres not enough detail for anyone to tell u if the guy was into u but chickened out/was nervous to speak his mind or what..
 
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OP,
In case you didn’t get the memo…
Men and women are EQUAL.

You find a man attractive and have interest in him then woman the f/ck up and pursue him for what you want, i.e. short term fun/serious LTR whatever it is you want to have.

Yes you will face rejection but learn from those mistakes and how to be better. You also won’t be everyone’s shot of whiskey.

The f/ck you think men just wake up one day handsome confident and experienced?

Put in the work to build yourself up as an attractive confident woman that can pull top shelf men that have themselves together.

Otherwise enjoy your insecure ugly self that sits at home binge watching series covered in puff puff Cheetos.

So wake up put your bra on one tit at a time and head out into the world and become what you want to attract.

And for all the equality that exist you do not have the time that men do for your window of fertility will quickly close.

Good luck
 
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Im sure someone in here would want you. Just post your pics.
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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Woman by definition cant be ugly. She just might not get the chad she wants, but ignores the other 10 average looksmatch guys who are interested, lol!
 
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Yes you’re ugly, men like attractive women sorry.
 
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