The Power of Walking Away

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

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Disclaimer: My time on this great forum is winding down. I don't really have much more to say...but I wanted to touch on this subject, because it is a very emotional subject.

The subject is: The Power of Walking away from a woman of whom your entire heart/life was invested in.

First, let me share with you a quick story.

Last summer, I was walking down 7 mile (in Detroit), headed home.

It was hot, and I had my headphones on, listening to one of many videos from dating coach Mr.Locario.

As I was walking, I kept looking back in case I saw the bus coming.

However, one time I looked back, I saw this dude walking my direction.

The dude was walking with a purpose, and he looked completely stoic, and stone-faced.

He was walking like he meant BUSINESS.

He eventually caught up with me, and walked past me.

His head did not turn to the right or the left....he kept his head straight. Stone-faced, and walked with a purpose.

So, he got ahead of me....and then he got further and further ahead of me.

As he got further and further away, he slipped my mind.

But at one point, I look up, and I see the dude.

He was about 5-6 blocks ahead of me.

But this time, from what I can see, there was a car that turned and stopped on the street that the dude was walking past.

The car was stopped in front of the dude, and it looked as if the car had stopped because it almost hit the dude.

From what I could tell (from the distance), it looked as if the dude was arguing with whoever was in the car.

So, me being nosey, I sped up my walk, so I could see what the commotion was all about.

As I got closer and my view became vivid, the driver of the car was a female (with a young child in the back).

The female (who was driving) was begging/pleading for the man to get in the car.

By this time, the man had stopped arguing with her and kept walking.

The female was begging and pleading, and practically screaming for him to get in the car.

But the man kept walking.

The driver LITERALY put her car in reverse onto the avenue, and went down to the other street towards the dudes direction so that she could meet him when he got to the next block.

Repeated process.

Begging, pleading for him to get in the car...

"Pleaseee get back in the car. I am sorry. Get back in the car!!! Pleaseeee. I won't do it again, Tony. Pleaseeeeee. Pleaseeeee. Just get in the car. It won't happen again'. Pleaseeee".

But the dude, stone-faced, just kept walking. He never even acknowledged her again. He just kept walking.

This process repeated for damn near 10 blocks.

Both of them got further and further ahead of me, until they almost disappeared from my sight.

I had to make a left turn anyway, but I could still see them far ahead of me, and the same thing was going on.

Now, the moral of the story is this...

I do not know what the chick did to the dude, but apparently, whatever it was, that was all it took for dude to head OUT.

The chick had pissed the dude off one or more times too many, to whereas the dude had enough...and WALKED AWAY.

Literally, walked away.

The dude was on a mission, and whatever that mission was, it was AWAY from her.

Once it dawned on the chick that the dude meant business, she lost her sh!t.

Once the dude walked away, a remorse, begging woman found herself in hot pursuit of him.

Kind of reminds me of, I don't know, the ignoring strategy?????

The same strategy, with a slightly different twist.

The story I told is based on a true story.

I also have experience with this, I had to use it on the wife...and guess what??

It worked.

I developed the power to walk away from her, and our marriage.

And guess what?

She has also come back and is now a better version of herself.

And her coming back as a better person, is the ONLY reason why I do not have any NEW cold approaching stories LOL.

I may/may not share the story of the wife.

But I said all of that to say this, there is POWER in walking away.

Use it if you need to.

 

[logicallefty]

OP, you have saved your best contribution to this site until last. Good stuff.

 

[pipeman84]

I developed the power to walk away from her, and our marriage.

And guess what?

She has also come back and is now a better version of herself.

So you put a nuclear load on the best weapon in the man's arsenal, called removing attention

I may/may not share the story of the wife.

C'mon man.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

DJ Bible material!

I may/may not share the story of the wife.

But I said all of that to say this, there is POWER in walking away.

Use it if you need to.

I've been already been wanting to ask you if you can share your story! I hope you'll consider it as I'm sure it will be useful to the men on this forum.

 

[The Duke]

I once left my ltr at a grocery store after getting tired of her bullschitt. It was 100deg and humid that day and I set out on a 11mile walk home thru the city, along the highway, and across some fields. I had sandles on and knew I would end up with blisters but that wasnt going to stop me. About 3miles from home she found me. I walked along the highway with her driving beside me for a mile with cars flying by and her pleading and apologizing. I was worried about getting ran over so I finally got in.

She definitely got the message. It's amazing when they know you aren't fuhking around they drop their attitude and start listening.

Never be afraid to walk away...and for good if necessary.

But you know the older me wonders if it's even worth it.

 

[Gamisch]

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Disclaimer: My time on this great forum is winding down. I don't really have much more to say...but I wanted to touch on this subject, because it is a very emotional subject.

The subject is: The Power of Walking away from a woman of whom your entire heart/life was invested in.

First, let me share with you a quick story.

Last summer, I was walking down 7 mile (in Detroit), headed home.

It was hot, and I had my headphones on, listening to one of many videos from dating coach Mr.Locario.

As I was walking, I kept looking back in case I saw the bus coming.

However, one time I looked back, I saw this dude walking my direction.

The dude was walking with a purpose, and he looked completely stoic, and stone-faced.

He was walking like he meant BUSINESS.

He eventually caught up with me, and walked past me.

His head did not turn to the right or the left....he kept his head straight. Stone-faced, and walked with a purpose.

So, he got ahead of me....and then he got further and further ahead of me.

As he got further and further away, he slipped my mind.

But at one point, I look up, and I see the dude.

He was about 5-6 blocks ahead of me.

But this time, from what I can see, there was a car that turned and stopped on the street that the dude was walking past.

The car was stopped in front of the dude, and it looked as if the car had stopped because it almost hit the dude.

From what I could tell (from the distance), it looked as if the dude was arguing with whoever was in the car.

So, me being nosey, I sped up my walk, so I could see what the commotion was all about.

As I got closer and my view became vivid, the driver of the car was a female (with a young child in the back).

The female (who was driving) was begging/pleading for the man to get in the car.

By this time, the man had stopped arguing with her and kept walking.

The female was begging and pleading, and practically screaming for him to get in the car.

But the man kept walking.

The driver LITERALY put her car in reverse onto the avenue, and went down to the other street towards the dudes direction so that she could meet him when he got to the next block.

Repeated process.

Begging, pleading for him to get in the car...

"Pleaseee get back in the car. I am sorry. Get back in the car!!! Pleaseeee. I won't do it again, Tony. Pleaseeeeee. Pleaseeeee. Just get in the car. It won't happen again'. Pleaseeee".

But the dude, stone-faced, just kept walking. He never even acknowledged her again. He just kept walking.

This process repeated for damn near 10 blocks.

Both of them got further and further ahead of me, until they almost disappeared from my sight.

I had to make a left turn anyway, but I could still see them far ahead of me, and the same thing was going on.

Now, the moral of the story is this...

I do not know what the chick did to the dude, but apparently, whatever it was, that was all it took for dude to head OUT.

The chick had pissed the dude off one or more times too many, to whereas the dude had enough...and WALKED AWAY.

Literally, walked away.

The dude was on a mission, and whatever that mission was, it was AWAY from her.

Once it dawned on the chick that the dude meant business, she lost her sh!t.

Once the dude walked away, a remorse, begging woman found herself in hot pursuit of him.

Kind of reminds me of, I don't know, the ignoring strategy?????

The same strategy, with a slightly different twist.

The story I told is based on a true story.

I also have experience with this, I had to use it on the wife...and guess what??

It worked.

I developed the power to walk away from her, and our marriage.

And guess what?

She has also come back and is now a better version of herself.

And her coming back as a better person, is the ONLY reason why I do not have any NEW cold approaching stories LOL.

I may/may not share the story of the wife.

But I said all of that to say this, there is POWER in walking away.

Use it if you need to.

I agree but context matters a lot in such a situation. Did he walked away because she "only went into the hot tub with the hot single neighbor ", or did she broke a simple rule ? Maybe she cheated on him for the third time this year and he was fed up with it..

But generally you are right. Being able to walk away is crucial is this era. When she knows you are unable to do so all the things I described in the previous paragraph will happen at some point. And being UNable to do that seems to be a default bluepilled trait. We men hate to invest in something and just see it vanish.

 

[bat soup]

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Disclaimer: My time on this great forum is winding down. I don't really have much more to say...but I wanted to touch on this subject, because it is a very emotional subject.

The subject is: The Power of Walking away from a woman of whom your entire heart/life was invested in.

First, let me share with you a quick story.

Last summer, I was walking down 7 mile (in Detroit), headed home.

It was hot, and I had my headphones on, listening to one of many videos from dating coach Mr.Locario.

As I was walking, I kept looking back in case I saw the bus coming.

However, one time I looked back, I saw this dude walking my direction.

The dude was walking with a purpose, and he looked completely stoic, and stone-faced.

He was walking like he meant BUSINESS.

He eventually caught up with me, and walked past me.

His head did not turn to the right or the left....he kept his head straight. Stone-faced, and walked with a purpose.

So, he got ahead of me....and then he got further and further ahead of me.

As he got further and further away, he slipped my mind.

But at one point, I look up, and I see the dude.

He was about 5-6 blocks ahead of me.

But this time, from what I can see, there was a car that turned and stopped on the street that the dude was walking past.

The car was stopped in front of the dude, and it looked as if the car had stopped because it almost hit the dude.

From what I could tell (from the distance), it looked as if the dude was arguing with whoever was in the car.

So, me being nosey, I sped up my walk, so I could see what the commotion was all about.

As I got closer and my view became vivid, the driver of the car was a female (with a young child in the back).

The female (who was driving) was begging/pleading for the man to get in the car.

By this time, the man had stopped arguing with her and kept walking.

The female was begging and pleading, and practically screaming for him to get in the car.

But the man kept walking.

The driver LITERALY put her car in reverse onto the avenue, and went down to the other street towards the dudes direction so that she could meet him when he got to the next block.

Repeated process.

Begging, pleading for him to get in the car...

"Pleaseee get back in the car. I am sorry. Get back in the car!!! Pleaseeee. I won't do it again, Tony. Pleaseeeeee. Pleaseeeee. Just get in the car. It won't happen again'. Pleaseeee".

But the dude, stone-faced, just kept walking. He never even acknowledged her again. He just kept walking.

This process repeated for damn near 10 blocks.

Both of them got further and further ahead of me, until they almost disappeared from my sight.

I had to make a left turn anyway, but I could still see them far ahead of me, and the same thing was going on.

Now, the moral of the story is this...

I do not know what the chick did to the dude, but apparently, whatever it was, that was all it took for dude to head OUT.

The chick had pissed the dude off one or more times too many, to whereas the dude had enough...and WALKED AWAY.

Literally, walked away.

The dude was on a mission, and whatever that mission was, it was AWAY from her.

Once it dawned on the chick that the dude meant business, she lost her sh!t.

Once the dude walked away, a remorse, begging woman found herself in hot pursuit of him.

Kind of reminds me of, I don't know, the ignoring strategy?????

The same strategy, with a slightly different twist.

The story I told is based on a true story.

I also have experience with this, I had to use it on the wife...and guess what??

It worked.

I developed the power to walk away from her, and our marriage.

And guess what?

She has also come back and is now a better version of herself.

And her coming back as a better person, is the ONLY reason why I do not have any NEW cold approaching stories LOL.

I may/may not share the story of the wife.

But I said all of that to say this, there is POWER in walking away.

Use it if you need to.

The great thing about walking away is that it saves you the bus fare.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I agree but context matters a lot in such a situation. Did he walked away because she "only went into the hot tub with the hot single neighbor ", or did she broke a simple rule ? Maybe she cheated on him for the third time this year and he was fed up with it..

But generally you are right. Being able to walk away is crucial is this era. When she knows you are unable to do so all the things I described in the previous paragraph will happen at some point. And being UNable to do that seems to be a default bluepilled trait. We men hate to invest in something and just see it vanish.

One thing I've learned over the years is that assumptions based on incomplete information are almost always wrong. The OP is assuming that the dude walked away from his girlfriend/wife/mother of his child because she did something unforgivable. But for all we know, this could have been a single mom that he simply got tired of screwing and he used a petty argument as an excuse to drop her. Or he might have been p!ssed because she took his drugs. Or any other reason, really.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

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Disclaimer: My time on this great forum is winding down. I don't really have much more to say...but I wanted to touch on this subject, because it is a very emotional subject.

The subject is: The Power of Walking away from a woman of whom your entire heart/life was invested in.

First, let me share with you a quick story.

Last summer, I was walking down 7 mile (in Detroit), headed home.

It was hot, and I had my headphones on, listening to one of many videos from dating coach Mr.Locario.

As I was walking, I kept looking back in case I saw the bus coming.

However, one time I looked back, I saw this dude walking my direction.

The dude was walking with a purpose, and he looked completely stoic, and stone-faced.

He was walking like he meant BUSINESS.

He eventually caught up with me, and walked past me.

His head did not turn to the right or the left....he kept his head straight. Stone-faced, and walked with a purpose.

So, he got ahead of me....and then he got further and further ahead of me.

As he got further and further away, he slipped my mind.

But at one point, I look up, and I see the dude.

He was about 5-6 blocks ahead of me.

But this time, from what I can see, there was a car that turned and stopped on the street that the dude was walking past.

The car was stopped in front of the dude, and it looked as if the car had stopped because it almost hit the dude.

From what I could tell (from the distance), it looked as if the dude was arguing with whoever was in the car.

So, me being nosey, I sped up my walk, so I could see what the commotion was all about.

As I got closer and my view became vivid, the driver of the car was a female (with a young child in the back).

The female (who was driving) was begging/pleading for the man to get in the car.

By this time, the man had stopped arguing with her and kept walking.

The female was begging and pleading, and practically screaming for him to get in the car.

But the man kept walking.

The driver LITERALY put her car in reverse onto the avenue, and went down to the other street towards the dudes direction so that she could meet him when he got to the next block.

Repeated process.

Begging, pleading for him to get in the car...

"Pleaseee get back in the car. I am sorry. Get back in the car!!! Pleaseeee. I won't do it again, Tony. Pleaseeeeee. Pleaseeeee. Just get in the car. It won't happen again'. Pleaseeee".

But the dude, stone-faced, just kept walking. He never even acknowledged her again. He just kept walking.

This process repeated for damn near 10 blocks.

Both of them got further and further ahead of me, until they almost disappeared from my sight.

I had to make a left turn anyway, but I could still see them far ahead of me, and the same thing was going on.

Now, the moral of the story is this...

I do not know what the chick did to the dude, but apparently, whatever it was, that was all it took for dude to head OUT.

The chick had pissed the dude off one or more times too many, to whereas the dude had enough...and WALKED AWAY.

Literally, walked away.

The dude was on a mission, and whatever that mission was, it was AWAY from her.

Once it dawned on the chick that the dude meant business, she lost her sh!t.

Once the dude walked away, a remorse, begging woman found herself in hot pursuit of him.

Kind of reminds me of, I don't know, the ignoring strategy?????

The same strategy, with a slightly different twist.

The story I told is based on a true story.

I also have experience with this, I had to use it on the wife...and guess what??

It worked.

I developed the power to walk away from her, and our marriage.

And guess what?

She has also come back and is now a better version of herself.

And her coming back as a better person, is the ONLY reason why I do not have any NEW cold approaching stories LOL.

I may/may not share the story of the wife.

But I said all of that to say this, there is POWER in walking away.

Use it if you need to.

Thanks for sharing dudebro @We_ArE_VeNOM , very nice story and meaningful.

Knowing the most powerful word in all human language and be brave enough to use it (E.g. "No"), is one of the most powerful thing a person can do.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

OP, you have saved your best contribution to this site until last. Good stuff.

Thanks, preciate'cha.

 

[Serenity]

The power isn't really knowing you can walk away, it's knowing you can stay away and live a great life without that particular woman in it. I know I can do that because that was my baseline before I met my wife, if anything I was skeptical about starting a relationship and it was only eased by reminding myself I can return to that baseline of having a great life already. If being with my wife feels worse than the way I felt before I met her, then walking away is a gain, not a loss.

It's why I tell guys to work on their self-esteem, their confidence and finding happiness in life without a woman. To establish that baseline, to use that as a bar for women, a woman must be and remain better than that to be worth staying with.

If a guy doesn't think highly of himself and considers his life to be pretty crap without a woman, then he's willing to take a lot more crap before walking away. That's because being with a sh!t woman is better than how they felt being alone without any woman. We compare all the time, if we're in the gutter before this angel appears and she turns out to be the devil instead we'll just take the abuse until it's worse than it was without her.

This is a great post by OP, I'm not giving critcism here. This thread just gave me this perspective when contemplating my own experience and principles, haven't seen it this way myself before now.

 

[forcerecon01]

The power isn't really knowing you can walk away, it's knowing you can stay away and live a great life without that particular woman in it. I know I can do that because that was my baseline before I met my wife, if anything I was skeptical about starting a relationship and it was only eased by reminding myself I can return to that baseline of having a great life already. If being with my wife feels worse than the way I felt before I met her, then walking away is a gain, not a loss.

It's why I tell guys to work on their self-esteem, their confidence and finding happiness in life without a woman. To establish that baseline, to use that as a bar for women, a woman must be and remain better than that to be worth staying with.

If a guy doesn't think highly of himself and considers his life to be pretty crap without a woman, then he's willing to take a lot more crap before walking away. That's because being with a sh!t woman is better than how they felt being alone without any woman. We compare all the time, if we're in the gutter before this angel appears and she turns out to be the devil instead we'll just take the abuse until it's worse than it was without her.

This is a great post by OP, I'm not giving critcism here. This thread just gave me this perspective when contemplating my own experience and principles, haven't seen it this way myself before now.

so true

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

One thing I've learned over the years is that assumptions based on incomplete information are almost always wrong. The OP is assuming that the dude walked away from his girlfriend/wife/mother of his child because she did something unforgivable.

But for all we know, this could have been a single mom that he simply got tired of screwing and he used a petty argument as an excuse to drop her. Or he might have been p!ssed because she took his drugs. Or any other reason, really.

Dude, what are you talking about; "The OP is assuming?"

I did not assume anything, because I specifically said..

"I do not know what the chick did to the dude, but apparently, whatever it was, that was all it took for dude to head OUT."

Did I not say that? Yeah, I did.

So, I do not need to assume what she did to him. The point is (as I just said), whatever she did to him, that was enough for him.

Now, clear and simple reading comprehension would have told you that, but when you are hell bent on trying to find something wrong with what you've read, sometimes you miss out on all of the heavenly glory that is in the details of what you've read, as it appears you've done here.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I agree but context matters a lot in such a situation. Did he walked away because she "only went into the hot tub with the hot single neighbor ", or did she broke a simple rule ?

Maybe she cheated on him for the third time this year and he was fed up with it..

No need to over-analyze. The fact of the matter is; he walked away and she, in dramatic fashion, begged for him to return.

If you want to let your imagination run wild on what she did to him, go ahead. I will leave you to it.

The point is; he apparently had the power to walk away from it all.

And that is the message.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Thanks for sharing dudebro @We_ArE_VeNOM , very nice story and meaningful.

Knowing the most powerful word in all human language and be brave enough to use it (E.g. "No"), is one of the most powerful thing a person can do.

Bro, it was a sight to behold. It truly was.

 

[eli77]

One of the most original stories i've heard on this forum in years have you had friends in the similar situation?

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I once left my ltr at a grocery store after getting tired of her bullschitt. It was 100deg and humid that day and I set out on a 11mile walk home thru the city, along the highway, and across some fields. I had sandles on and knew I would end up with blisters but that wasnt going to stop me. About 3miles from home she found me. I walked along the highway with her driving beside me for a mile with cars flying by and her pleading and apologizing. I was worried about getting ran over so I finally got in.

She definitely got the message. It's amazing when they know you aren't fuhking around they drop their attitude and start listening.

Never be afraid to walk away...and for good if necessary.

I commend you, brethren.

No person is worth heartache, headache, and unhappiness.

But you know the older me wonders if it's even worth it.

It is worth it, if that is what you seek.

However, Slater (Saved By the Bell) once stated...

"Have fun with all of the wrong ones, until you find the right one".

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

So you put a nuclear load on the best weapon in the man's arsenal, called removing attention

C'mon man.

Aight man.

It has many layers so I have to see how to configure it out.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

The power isn't really knowing you can walk away, it's knowing you can stay away and live a great life without that particular woman in it. I know I can do that because that was my baseline before I met my wife, if anything I was skeptical about starting a relationship and it was only eased by reminding myself I can return to that baseline of having a great life already. If being with my wife feels worse than the way I felt before I met her, then walking away is a gain, not a loss.

It's why I tell guys to work on their self-esteem, their confidence and finding happiness in life without a woman. To establish that baseline, to use that as a bar for women, a woman must be and remain better than that to be worth staying with.

If a guy doesn't think highly of himself and considers his life to be pretty crap without a woman, then he's willing to take a lot more crap before walking away. That's because being with a sh!t woman is better than how they felt being alone without any woman. We compare all the time, if we're in the gutter before this angel appears and she turns out to be the devil instead we'll just take the abuse until it's worse than it was without her.

This is a great post by OP, I'm not giving critcism here. This thread just gave me this perspective when contemplating my own experience and principles, haven't seen it this way myself before now.

Yeah man, this is a very emotional topic for me because it shows exactly how things can change. How people can change. How people can mature.

Man, I recall when I was a young man in my early 20's, living some of my best single life.

At the time, my sister (4 years older), had a bf who was a piece of sh!t and giving her hell.

She would vent to me about him and I recall blaming it all on her...for allowing him to treat her that way.

I kept thinking "why would you continue to allow yourself to be mistreated that way. Just leave."

Yet, she just couldn't leave, and I blamed her.

Then, when I got older and began to experience life, I began to see exactly why she couldn't get herself to leave.

Because of one thing; the heart.

When you are truly in love with a person, you will find yourself taking/accepting things that you NEVER thought you would accept.

And that is what happened to me. The amount of CRAP that I took from my wife, I NEVER thought I would ever be in a position where I felt less than a human being. I was mistreated unappreciated, devalued, belittled.

Yet, I STILL did not have the power to walk away.

My heart wouldn't let me.

But..

<---- This was me then..

and..

<-----This is me now...

I will share the story on that sh!t soon.

 

[forcerecon01]

Yeah man, this is a very emotional topic for me because it shows exactly how things can change. How people can change. How people can mature.

Man, I recall when I was a young man in my early 20's, living some of my best single life.

At the time, my sister (4 years older), had a bf who was a piece of sh!t and giving her hell.

She would vent to me about him and I recall blaming it all on her...for allowing him to treat her that way.

I kept thinking "why would you continue to allow yourself to be mistreated that way. Just leave."

Yet, she just couldn't leave, and I blamed her.

Then, when I got older and began to experience life, I began to see exactly why she couldn't get herself to leave.

Because of one thing; the heart.

When you are truly in love with a person, you will find yourself taking/accepting things that you NEVER thought you would accept.

And that is what happened to me. The amount of CRAP that I took from my wife, I NEVER thought I would ever be in a position where I felt less than a human being. I was mistreated unappreciated, devalued, belittled.

Yet, I STILL did not have the power to walk away.

My heart wouldn't let me.

But..

<---- This was me then..

and..

<-----This is me now...

I will share the story on that sh!t soon.

cool bro glad you found happiness