I cheated

[darksprezzatura]

I have been cheating on my girlfriend of 4 months. I’ve slept with over 9 girls over 50 times. I am ashamed of breaking someone’s
trust.

The reason (I know I’m appearing rationalising of the fact) is that I doubted this relationship would last.

Now I indeed feel like I could be with her, is when I can’t stop myself from tasting new poon.

Matter of fact I just made 2 girls orgasm in a period of 6 hours. And I’m meeting my girlfriend to make her orgasm tomorrow.

I love her and I prioritise her over everyone else. That’s a fact.

What do I do? Take it to my grave? Stop cheating? Dump her? Keep her but keep side ch!cks?

Im lost. And drunk lol

 

[Barrister]

It doesn't sound like you love your GF. And I am not judging you at all in saying that - it just sounds like you are a combination of bored and unfulfilled in that relationship. And if that is the case, why remain in that relationship? And before you say because you don't want to lose her out of your life, I will say that it is only a matter of time before you break up anyway. Rip off the band aid now and start the moving on process.

Personally, if I am at a point where I am considering stepping out on my LTR I generally will just end it before I do. I am not sure what type of place you live in, but if it is relatively small (small metro or smaller), gaining a "cheater" label can hurt you with higher-quality women you want an LTR with in the future. I prefer to always keep my reputation sterling on that front. If you end it, you can bang as many women as you want without that possible stigma going around.

So, I would say dump her and start seeing the other women more openly.

 

[Billtx49]

I am ashamed of breaking someone’s
trust.

I love her and I prioritise her over everyone else. That’s a fact.

No you’re not. Actions speak louder than words.…

No you don’t. Respect her enough to move on and find someone you can be faithful to …

A man that doesn’t respect others deserves no respect from others …

 

[The Duke]

I've never understood the mind of a cheater. Why would you intentionally hurt someone that treats you well?

It wreaks of weakness and selfishness.

How can you be ashamed but still do it?

I can respect a man that is straight forward and honest. But hiding schitt and keeping up the lies is weak.

Be a true bad azz and come clean. What are you afraid of?

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Man, if you are drunk at 10:53 AM PST then you might have bigger problems. Hoping you are just in a completely different time zone where it is nighttime.

But to your post, I recently came across a video explaining cheating by men vs women. The truth is, craving new "poon" will always be part of being a man. In fact, some open-minded females will just accept the fact that being with a "high-value" man naturally comes with that risk. You will be desired by other women and you in turn will be wired to spread your seeds.

The question then becomes one not of nature but of nurture. Can you overcome your natural instinct and teach yourself to have self-control? Is this girl high-value enough to commit? And is self-control a quality you value and would want to be part of you?

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

OP, I cheated badly on my previous ex and I vowed to never go through that again. You will not take this to your grave and you do not love her otherwise you wouldn't be cheating on her. I cheated because of the similar reason you stated, I was in a relationship I wasn't exactly vibing with at the start. Breakup with her and you do not have to mention the cheating part, but just make up some other bs. BE MORE SELECTIVE ON YOUR NEXT GF, DO NOT JUST SETTLE FOR THE FIRST GIRL THAT BLOWS YOU THEN ASKS YOU OUT TO DINNER THE NEXT DAY.

 

[anonymous12345]

Bro, it feels like you need to do an adjustment. We should half base trade.

My machinery is now spinning like a porsche in neutral. You're drunk on SS asking others to steer you regarding cheating. But I got a dry spell, while you got epic stats.

I got my visions for me. Maybe you can project on Don Draper in Mad Men. I haven't watched the show, but understand it's something like that kind of character.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Take to your grave, confessing helps no one and in a situation like this it’s selfish to confess. If it’s a one time thing then fine.
If you’re not willing to go the distance with the current GF, cut her loose do she can find someone who will. That or try to plate her if not. I think it’s time to walk.

 

[EyeBRollin]

It doesn't sound like you love your GF. And I am not judging you at all in saying that - it just sounds like you are a combination of bored and unfulfilled in that relationship. And if that is the case, why remain in that relationship?

Male loyalty =/= not fvcking other girls. Men biologically are inclined to spread our seed.

The reason (I know I’m appearing rationalising of the fact) is that I doubted this relationship would last.

You are intentionally sabotaging the relationship. Figure out why. Did you settle for this girl?

Now I indeed feel like I could be with her, is when I can’t stop myself from tasting new poon.

Matter of fact I just made 2 girls orgasm in a period of 6 hours. And I’m meeting my girlfriend to make her orgasm tomorrow.

I love her and I prioritise her over everyone else. That’s a fact.

What do I do? Take it to my grave? Stop cheating? Dump her? Keep her but keep side ch!cks?

Who are these other girls?

Having side chicks is big headache. Are you committing time and resources to these chicks? Or do they understand their place?

 

[darksprezzatura]

Take to your grave, confessing helps no one and in a situation like this it’s selfish to confess. If it’s a one time thing then fine.
If you’re not willing to go the distance with the current GF, cut her loose do she can find someone who will. That or try to plate her if not. I think it’s time to walk.

Okay so I can take it to my grave.

Guilt is something I can live with, at the expense of keeping my woman emotionally safe and happy. And never cheat again.

But I think one of the women I used to cheat with, now knows her name somehow, and I feel scared that she might try to mess things up with her to have me.

Because she definitely likes me. The other women don’t know my girl in any way.

The guilt I can handle. The anxiety of her finding out and ghosting me/dumping me out of the blue when everything is going great is a problem.

If I can confess to her about my cheating, I know I can resolve to never do it again and follow through if she forgives me.

Yet even if she forgives me, she might:
- use it as a trump card in any argument
- hurt me (maybe even by cheating back)
- lose all respect for me

 

[Divorced w 3]

If this post is true, I think you would do all of us a great service in teaching us how you pulled so
Much ass. That’s two a month which is impressive, but the 50x is really outstanding.

congratulations on your moral compass- bottle it up for a bit and spit some game into the thread.

 

[soulforge]

I have been cheating on my girlfriend of 4 months. I’ve slept with over 9 girls over 50 times. I am ashamed of breaking someone’s
trust.

The reason (I know I’m appearing rationalising of the fact) is that I doubted this relationship would last.

Now I indeed feel like I could be with her, is when I can’t stop myself from tasting new poon.

Matter of fact I just made 2 girls orgasm in a period of 6 hours. And I’m meeting my girlfriend to make her orgasm tomorrow.

I love her and I prioritise her over everyone else. That’s a fact.

What do I do? Take it to my grave? Stop cheating? Dump her? Keep her but keep side ch!cks?

Im lost. And drunk lol

Your a Man. Be true to your biological nature.. your not meant fuk only one woman forever. Your entire biology is about fukin multiple women.

Either stay single and stay true to your nature... Or when you meet a girl, let her know you will bang other girls.

The dudes who are not cheating on their girlfriends, are fantasizing about banging other girls by watching PORN

 

[LucianoM]

Dont beat yourself up, cheating is a privilege very few men have. Keep cheating and take it to grave. If she catches you and truly loves you she'll forgive you so you got nothing to lose.

 

[HaleyBaron]

That's why I make sure all my women know that Im not committed to them. They know that I **** other women or they make jokes that I do. They still get mopey about it but they can't call me out ever for cheating.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

If this post is true, I think you would do all of us a great service in teaching us how you pulled so
Much ass. That’s two a month which is impressive, but the 50x is really outstanding.

congratulations on your moral compass- bottle it up for a bit and spit some game into the thread.

Having reliable pu$sy while doing this is your answer. Getting laid and having your emotional needs fulfilled by having a gf, other women will prefer this guy over one who doesn't have that (assuming the other women don't know about the gf).

Women will sense 1) that you're in demand and 2) that you're not needy.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I have been cheating on my girlfriend of 4 months. I’ve slept with over 9 girls over 50 times. I am ashamed of breaking someone’s
trust.

The reason (I know I’m appearing rationalising of the fact) is that I doubted this relationship would last.

Now I indeed feel like I could be with her, is when I can’t stop myself from tasting new poon.

Matter of fact I just made 2 girls orgasm in a period of 6 hours. And I’m meeting my girlfriend to make her orgasm tomorrow.

I love her and I prioritise her over everyone else. That’s a fact.

What do I do? Take it to my grave? Stop cheating? Dump her? Keep her but keep side ch!cks?

Im lost. And drunk lol

This isn't a girlfriend after 4 months, this is a plate you have mistakenly convinced yourself is your GF. You aren't treating her like one so stop lying to yourself. She is a plate.

 

[darksprezzatura]

I’ve been seeing my woman for a combined total of 3 years non exclusively. I chose her out of my rotation 4 months ago when she pushed for exclusivity.


She’s well educated
Non needy
Non clingy
Offers to pay/split bills
Meets me whenever I want
Always DTF
Adventurous
Athletic/Fit af
Cute
Reads regularly
Chemistry

There are a lot of factors why I considered her as a partner, yet this “Have a 5-6 plate rotation” kind of spoiled me for a relationship in a way.

It took me a while to understand that my modus operandi (during harem times) during any conflict or anything I didn’t like about a plate, was to call up another plate instead of communicating to the plate that I don’t appreciate this behaviour.

The unavailability made the women pang for me or chase me more, but didn’t change the bad behaviour. It kept popping up.

Silence and distance AFTER communicating boundaries is useful, not without.

 

[darksprezzatura]

What I’m ashamed about is the fact that I made a promise to another human, who I love. And broke it - to protect my heart from being broken by the end of the relationship (in the future).

My insecurity about the future of the relationship seems to have pushed to me to act this way.

Now that it seems that this relationship could last is when I’m having all of these thoughts. Especially during the good times.
I’ve had a rollercoaster past with all my experiences, and all the fun times came from a place of honesty.

Yet. A core principle of my life seems to have been broken and that seems to be a reason for my anxiety.

Machiavelli teaches otherwise. Maybe itll help me to control my emotions, for the sake of my partner.

I’m lost. And drunk again today lol

 

[member160292]

How can people even handle more than 3 plates…sh!t is exhausting

 

[darksprezzatura]

How can people even handle more than 3 plates…sh!t is exhausting

Plates handle themselves.