How to sleep around during the winter months?

[BPH]

I remember SW15 posting something about a guy evaluating which months are best for dating around vs being in a relationship, and I believe we are entering the dry period.

For me personally, in about a week most of the college girls will be going home, the bars will be quieter, the dating apps will be drier with everybody having gone back to their hometown, and girls will be wanting to have somebody steady to spend the holidays and cold nights with, etc.

I'm looking to see if anybody has recommendations for how to survive this dark time as somebody looking to sleep around rather than date.

BONUS QUESTION:

I got a girl I've been talking to since October who has a boyfriend but keeps showing me interest...to a point.

It went from having each other on Instagram in case things don't work out...to having her phone number...to her adding me on Snapchat randomly this week. Saw her at the bar this past weekend and she grabbed my arm to stop me and have me come over and talk to her for a little bit.

Asked how things are going with her and her boyfriend, and she told me she'll be "re-evaluating her situation" over the coming winter break (which is about 2 months, by the way). Asked if she'd be free this week for me to take her out before then, answered that she was unsure but would probably be more available after the break.

She and most of the rest of the cute girls nearby will probably be going home in the next 2 days, wanted to check in with you boys and see if I should bother reaching out to try and set something up, or just chance meeting her out at the bar and being patient, seeing if she comes around after the break.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Why not just ask her to come hang, watch a movie at your place? Tell her to grab some Chinese on the way over.

 

[Stanley]

Dude.
Why are you even bothering with this chick??? You're her orbiter backup.
She's kept you in waiting for months and you seem eager to stay there for at least "about two months" more...

Asked how things are going with her and her boyfriend, and she told me she'll be "re-evaluating her situation" over the coming winter break (which is about 2 months, by the way).

She's keeping you on a backburner, why are you staying on it? That was not a even remotely definitive statement on her end. Why the hell do you care about her boyfriend? Why bother with a chick who is duplicitous and not loyal to said boyfriend?

Asked if she'd be free this week for me to take her out before then, answered that she was unsure but would probably be more available after the break.

Sounds like rejection with low interest to me. She isn't unsure...

Be assertive, quit being so passive, she more or less said "no not right now BUT MAYBE in the future" Emphasis on maybe.
Just drop it and don't bother with girls with low interest to begin with. If she comes around then you can decide if you even want her.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Dude.
Why are you even bothering with this chick??? You're her orbiter backup.
She's kept you in waiting for months and you seem eager to stay there for at least "about two months" more...



She's keeping you on a backburner, why are you staying on it? That was not a even remotely definitive statement on her end. Why the hell do you care about her boyfriend? Why bother with a chick who is duplicitous and not loyal to said boyfriend?



Sounds like rejection with low interest to me. She isn't unsure...

Be assertive, quit being so passive, she more or less said "no not right now BUT MAYBE in the future" Emphasis on maybe.
Just drop it and don't bother with girls with low interest to being with. If she comes around then you can decide if you even want her.

 

[BPH]

Why not just ask her to come hang, watch a movie at your place? Tell her to grab some Chinese on the way over.

Don't have my own place, unfortunately, that wouldn't be an option.

Also don't know the context of the pic you posted there.

Dude.
Why are you even bothering with this chick??? You're her orbiter backup.
She's kept you in waiting for months and you seem eager to stay there for at least "about two months" more...



She's keeping you on a backburner, why are you staying on it? That was not a even remotely definitive statement on her end. Why the hell do you care about her boyfriend? Why bother with a chick who is duplicitous and not loyal to said boyfriend?



Sounds like rejection with low interest to me. She isn't unsure...

Be assertive, quit being so passive, she more or less said "no not right now BUT MAYBE in the future" Emphasis on maybe.
Just drop it and don't bother with girls with low interest to being with. If she comes around then you can decide if you even want her.

She is A girl on my radar, not the ONLY girl on my radar. She's hot so I don't see any harm in maintaining a little bit of contact in case her relationship doesn't work out.

The girl watches all my Instagram stories I post, stops me in the bar and puts her friends to the side to talk to me, and randomly added me on Snapchat which doesn't mean much aside from the fact that she was thinking of me.

I'm just asking if there's anything I should do with this before she goes away for 2 months.

 

[Stanley]

Don't have my own place, unfortunately, that wouldn't be an option.

Also don't know the context of the pic you posted there.



She is A girl on my radar, not the ONLY girl on my radar. She's hot so I don't see any harm in maintaining a little bit of contact in case her relationship doesn't work out.

The girl watches all my Instagram stories I post, stops me in the bar and puts her friends to the side to talk to me, and randomly added me on Snapchat which doesn't mean much aside from the fact that she was thinking out me.

I'm just asking if there's anything I should do with this before she goes away for 2 months.

Just leave the ball in her court, which you already have. You hit her up, she bailed and gave you some wishy wash. She knows you're down so just leave it be I'd reckon. Mirror her behavior and all that jazz

 

[BPH]

Was hoping for a little more insight unless everybody agrees with Stanley.

Advice would only matter in the next day or 2 since she'll be 2+ hours away after that.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

You are shvt out of luck for both scenarios. Use this downtime to work on yourself.

 

[Divorced w 3]

You are shvt out of luck for both scenarios. Use this downtime to work on yourself.

Agree. Getting his own place seems like square 1.

 

[BPH]

Agree. Getting his own place seems like square 1.

Yeah unfortunately that's more of a money issue than anything else.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Yeah unfortunately that's more of a money issue than anything else.

Wait are you in college or just living in a college town?

 

[2Rocky]

In the College situation, your highest likelihood is a post finals party hookup before heading home for a "Dry Spell". You can seed a meetup for when you arrive back on campus before classes start again.

As for Home town hookups, you need to seed these when out on National BAR night (Wednesday before Thanksgiving)
You can have a number of prospects for between Christmas and New years. Through keeping in touch you can determine the NYE location with the highest likelihood of a hookup.

 

[Divorced w 3]

In the College situation, your highest likelihood is a post finals party hookup before heading home for a "Dry Spell". You can seed a meetup for when you arrive back on campus before classes start again.

As for Home town hookups, you need to seed these when out on National BAR night (Wednesday before Thanksgiving)
You can have a number of prospects for between Christmas and New years. Through keeping in touch you can determine the NYE location with the highest likelihood of a hookup.

Mode One in college… if anyone on this board is in school it’s the only way to go.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Yeah unfortunately that's more of a money issue than anything else.

It does not matter where you are. Have a reason stick to it. Just invite her over. Get out of your head. Mean that nicely.

 

[BPH]

Wait are you in college or just living in a college town?

I border a college town, about 10-15 minutes away.

In the College situation, your highest likelihood is a post finals party hookup before heading home for a "Dry Spell". You can seed a meetup for when you arrive back on campus before classes start again.

As for Home town hookups, you need to seed these when out on National BAR night (Wednesday before Thanksgiving)
You can have a number of prospects for between Christmas and New years. Through keeping in touch you can determine the NYE location with the highest likelihood of a hookup.

I'm not in college so I wouldn't be doing the party thing, but I imagine the bars will be loaded today and tomorrow night. Buddy who manages the bar says Saturday onward is dead until they come back from break.

As for the second part, I mean I have SOME prospects, but not great ones; a girl I had a ONS with that's a little thick for my usual, my ex up in NJ, etc. As far as NYE I feel like that holiday is way more hyped up than it actually ends up being. It's just a really expensive night out where, from my experience, the majority of people getting laid are the ones that come there with their girlfriend.

It does not matter where you are. Have a reason stick to it. Just invite her over. Get out of your head. Mean that nicely.

I assume you mean inviting her out on a date for drinks or something, not to my parent's house. Meaning you'd suggest reaching out rather than leaving the ball in her court like Stanley suggested?

On a side note where's SW15? I thought he'd be in here talking about the best months for dating and stuff since I mentioned him in the OP.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I border a college town, about 10-15 minutes away.



I'm not in college so I wouldn't be doing the party thing, but I imagine the bars will be loaded today and tomorrow night. Buddy who manages the bar says Saturday onward is dead until they come back from break.

As for the second part, I mean I have SOME prospects, but not great ones; a girl I had a ONS with that's a little thick for my usual, my ex up in NJ, etc. As far as NYE I feel like that holiday is way more hyped up than it actually ends up being. It's just a really expensive night out where, from my experience, the majority of people getting laid are the ones that come there with their girlfriend.



I assume you mean inviting her out on a date for drinks or something, not to my parent's house. Meaning you'd suggest reaching out rather than leaving the ball in her court like Stanley suggested?

On a side note where's SW15? I thought he'd be in here talking about the best months for dating and stuff since I mentioned him in the OP.

Invite her to your parents house. You’re either in school or laying low until you find your next apartment. Just invite her over. Take it from a guy with a 3 BR duplex with kids shyt in it. Stop thinking.

 

[2Rocky]

Mode One in college… if anyone on this board is in school it’s the only way to go.

Only if the guy is confident enough in himself that he can deliver it with no second thoughts or worry about it working. I remember Delbert in college. He had a girlfriend at another school but would be ultra direct with other girls and it paid off. Not sure how many of his exploits were exaggerated, but he had some good ones and they became legend among the housemates.

He ended up marrying the College girlfriend and having a couple kids and going back to the family business. Basically he could go for broke because he couldn't fail....For me though the girlfriend/wife didn't pass my boner test.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Only if the guy is confident enough in himself that he can deliver it with no second thoughts or worry about it working. I remember Delbert in college. He had a girlfriend at another school but would be ultra direct with other girls and it paid off. Not sure how many of his exploits were exaggerated, but he had some good ones and they became legend among the housemates.

He ended up marrying the College girlfriend and having a couple kids and going back to the family business. Basically he could go for broke because he couldn't fail....For me though the girlfriend/wife didn't pass my boner test.

Imo. All true. But get affiliated with a social group. Have your boys so to speak. Be the nucleus that creates gravity. You don’t have to be the main guy but get a reputation as a group and a key participant for being fun, being a dorm / quad that hosts and has the good parties, sit at the right lunch tables, etc. when the girls flock to it you just post up on the couch, work it. Shooting fish in a barrel once you figure it out.


basically go watch HBO’s entourage … but do not be Vince lol

 

[BPH]

Invite her to your parents house. You’re either in school or laying low until you find your next apartment. Just invite her over. Take it from a guy with a 3 BR duplex with kids shyt in it. Stop thinking.

Trust me, if it were an option that made sense I would explore it. The reality is that at least one of my parents is always home, my dad is an artist so most rooms have a theme (mine for example is circus-themed...), and both parents are early-onset hoarders in the sense that the house is often very messy...I do not see a situation where I'd have the privacy to make that happen without completely evaporating her ovaries.

Only if the guy is confident enough in himself that he can deliver it with no second thoughts or worry about it working. I remember Delbert in college. He had a girlfriend at another school but would be ultra direct with other girls and it paid off. Not sure how many of his exploits were exaggerated, but he had some good ones and they became legend among the housemates.

He ended up marrying the College girlfriend and having a couple kids and going back to the family business. Basically he could go for broke because he couldn't fail....For me though the girlfriend/wife didn't pass my boner test.

I have no idea who Delbert is, what you're referencing, or what Mode One means. Judging by the follow-up message from Divorced w 3 I'm guessing you're talking about college while being IN college.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Trust me, if it were an option that made sense I would explore it. The reality is that at least one of my parents is always home, my dad is an artist so most rooms have a theme (mine for example is circus-themed...), and both parents are early-onset hoarders in the sense that the house is often very messy...I do not see a situation where I'd have the privacy to make that happen without completely evaporating her ovaries.



I have no idea who Delbert is, what you're referencing, or what Mode One means. Judging by the follow-up message from Divorced w 3 I'm guessing you're talking about college while being IN college.

STOP THINKING

CLEAN THE BASMENT

FCK HER IN IT