Convos on OLD just fizzle out

[TonyJ78]

I've actually been getting a lot of matches on OLD lately, but it seem like either the chat never goes anywhere or they're from the next state over which means a 2 hr. drive if we meet halfway, and since I'm in NE there's basically nothing in between.

Honestly my interest level hasn't been that high for a lot of them so that's part of it. The ones that I would actually be interested in have a pretty low response rate. When I do try though I just find I don't have anything interesting to say. Chatting just gets so boring but I know if you ask them to do a video chat or meet up too quick sometimes they get freaked out.

I know people will say well you need to get out there and meet people in person. Times I've tried though, I find I'm just a really boring person around people I don't know already. Mostly I just don't know how to start a convo or things I can think of seem so mundane that I can't even bring myself to say them. I'm not really asking for advice, just kinda putting that out there for anyone who can relate or has any relevant insight.

 

[Don of the north]

Chatting just gets so boring but I know if you ask them to do a video chat or meet up too quick sometimes they get freaked out.

They'll only get freaked out over a video chat request or a meet up if they have no interest in you and are just going to use you for attention. A great way to filter out time wasters is to ask for a video chat and then meetup request after the video chat right away. Who the hell has the time to talk to a random chick that is likely to never meet you and even if by some miracle she "feels" like meeting you one day, then she tells you there is no spark.

Women can NOT tell if they are attracted to you just by pictures alone. So what the hell is the point in talking and "getting to know someone"(which you can't really do over text anyway) just to meet them later on after all that build up and there is zero spark. It's a complete waste of time for both sides, unless your goal is validation and attention seeking.

 

[CoandaEffect]

On OLD the quicker you ask for a date the better. Don’t try and have a texting conversation, just ask for a date.

I am at the point that I do not even bother searching profiles or initiating anything. My profile generates about 3 likes per week. I look at them, and usually I will like one of them. I send her a simple text, usually something along the lines of “I like your profile, it seems we have things in common”. Then I ask a question that she can answer easily. I wait for her reply and then I text her “What evening are you free? Let’s get together for a drink”. I setup the date without much more texting. That almost always ends in a date.

If I try and engage them in any kind of longer texting they pretty much always ghost, that’s why I don’t do it. Some guys are really good at getting girls by texting them a bunch. I’m not one of them, so I’ve learnt what works for me.

The other thing I have noticed is if you wait more than about a month after they like you before you contact them then the chance of a date goes down a lot. I guess they don’t like being left hanging.

With OLD don’t be afraid to try a bunch of different tactics and see what works for you. That’s what’s really good about OLD, there are a shed load of women so you can just experiment.

I don’t contact women that live too far away because I don’t want to have to travel far. I stick to about a 30 mile radius. It’s a mystery to me why women that live a long way away like me. I think they are most likely AW’s.

I don’t quite know why but it seems I get more likes if my profile has just appeared. When it has been up for a while I get fewer likes. So I hide my profile after say 6 weeks and then put it back up after 3 weeks. I just ended my match subscription and will probably start it again next April. I live in the north and I don’t like dating in the winter, I prefer doing other things. When my profile goes up next spring I will get a bunch of likes and the cycle will start again.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Post an example of a real Convo of you want useful advice, IMO.

Hard to guess at things without an actual example(s)

 

[devilkingx2]

Most girls on OLD are insanely boring people. You could tell them you're being chased by ninjas and they'd give a one word response.

But it's also important to find the right balance in your conversation topics and openers

Opening with "do you like Big White C0ck?" is probably too much.

But if you're in banking and she's an accountant and you guys start discussing finance, you're off to a boring start.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Post an example of a real Convo of you want useful advice, IMO.

Hard to guess at things without an actual example(s)

There is probably nothing wrong with his text game, I have been beta af before and still gotten dates.

No one is busier then someone not interested