If a woman is truly interested in you, she will make it easy...

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“my ex husband/boyfriend used to do the same **** to me and I’m not going to put up with it!”
my recent girl did this all because I fell asleep for an hour, she presumed I was playing games :rofl:
 

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I hear you, I honestly find PUA advice to be contradictory. I feel like unless women show interest, they don't deserve your attention, and everything else is supplicating. But for many of us, that means we won't be drawing much interest. My personal policy is grab your balls and invite her out, and if she doesn't accept, move on.
Yeah, I’m having less and less tolerance for playing hard to get/flakey female BS as time goes on.

So many women will act interested but then you try to set up plans and she won’t say no but won’t really say yes either. I’ve learned that anything other than a resounding YES is a waste of time, no matter the reason. If she doesn’t think she’s good enough for me/has hangups, whatever that’s her problem. NEXT
 

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Any tips for how to deal with women playing hard to get? It seems in these cases we have to act more interested, pay more compliments, etc…
It’s hard to know what to do
If you've matched them on an app but haven't met the in real life, see how they respond to sexual flirtation (mild at first, and then gradually increased with calibration). It's similar to using kino in a real-life setting to determine sexual interest.

What can help with this is having a set list of questions you ask them over the course of the convo, that way you eventually have a baseline for how women of true high interest will answer them.
 

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So many women will act interested but then you try to set up plans and she won’t say no but won’t really say yes either. I’ve learned that anything other than a resounding YES is a waste of time, no matter the reason. If she doesn’t think she’s good enough for me/has hangups, whatever that’s her problem. NEXT
Try my mode 1 approach as discussed in my recent thread. Were the same age and tbh I wont dont do the foxtrot and twostep with western women our age, total waste of money and there insufferable. my mode 1 approach means we have sex then we date

I dont really care about finding my wife either so as long as shes fun and sexy im good
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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The understanding is that there is nothing to understand. Women’s nature is clouds rolling across the sky. Always changing, always moving. Just observe. Take shelter when it rains, and enjoy the sunshine. Never try to understand the clouds. They just are.
This is smack on man! I think this is most solid advice and it should have a thread on its own. Trying to understand a woman is a fool's game. Most of the time we think they are playing us or they are doing something intentionally - but we may be wrong and they are just going on about their lives.

What I have learned from the game is that when a woman wants you they will do anything to get you. If they are surrounded by a lot of d1ck and options, and they want you they will do anything to get you. However, if they do not WANT you and you are a contender, then they will treat you as a contender.

I have gone out with women who I thought would take several dates for us to be intimate together, but it took one date and they were already on top of me. I am not glowing here about it, but I felt like I did not want her as much as a partner as the next guy, because she was easy. Other times, girls that I thought would be easy, ended up being hard. It all depends on what you are in the mood for. If you want to have an easy lay with a chick or a longer thing. I have gone out with very successful women (doctors, and executives) who put out much faster than your average chick. To be frank, I didn't even want to overthink why, but it goes to show you that supposed quality women from a financial and societal standpoint does not translate into much. So do not try to understand woman, just enjoy them and enjoy the journey.
 

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So many women will act interested but then you try to set up plans and she won’t say no but won’t really say yes either.
Attention Ho behavior. I was watching The Good Doctor the other day and they used the term "bread crumbing", but it was a guy doing it to a girl. I had never heard that term used before. They defined it as just giving the interested person enough to keep them on the hook. Usually because they enjoy the free attention, it's an ego boost.
 

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Attention Ho behavior. I was watching The Good Doctor the other day and they used the term "bread crumbing", but it was a guy doing it to a girl. I had never heard that term used before. They defined it as just giving the interested person enough to keep them on the hook. Usually because they enjoy the free attention, it's an ego boost.
they always publicaly shame men for things that women do a billion times worse, there was a programme about catfishing the other day in the UK. I thought they were going to hold women accountable......

NOPE it was about men doing it and women the victim, I do not know any guy who catfishes :rofl:

another thing they say is men cheat just as much...this is absolute nonsense, every single mom I know has a beta provider and at least 2 alpha side lovers
 

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Im thinking what I’m going to do going forward is I don’t care how well the first date goes, how good she looks, how much fun I had, I’m just going to dump them through text after the date. Im tired of being the dumpee, it’s time to be the dumper.
Why care at all?
There are 4 billion women in the world. If you miss one buss it doesn't matter because there will always come a new one.

And as for women demanding that you text them back I just completely ignore it. I text them when I want and when or if i have time. Otherwise I DGF what they "demand". They have to arrange their life to my schedule, not reverse if they want to hang out with me.

and as for OP @RobbyDog :
1.) Never date girls at work. It will backfire one way or the other.
The only exception is if it is an extra job that you really don´t need and just doing for fun and some extra dough, then ye go ahead and fvck the whole department including the boss for what I care cuz it really doesn't matter much. :rofl::devil:

2.) Don't simp around and be thirty on social media such as FB and message a coworker. There is surely a fvckton of other thirsty guys at your work doing it also and all you are giving her is free validation and attention that she isn't worthy of. Instead completely ignore her. Don't even look at her if you see her or even say "hi" unless she says something back that is work related and it requires you to respond. Otherwise in your world she doesn't exist. Focus on your own sheite.
Why?
Because girls aren't used to that guy that doesn't validate her and is a mindfvck to them e.g. mystery. Yes THAT one is the one she wants! (Women hate not being validated and now she want to figure out why you are not doing it. "Am I not pretty enough?" "I am ugly to him?" etc...
That also displays that you have other more important things to do+ it shows that you are different than all other guys that would do anything to get a chance fvck her.
 
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Women who are truly interested do make it easy for you. I rarely get dates with girls who are flakey, ignore my texts, slow to respond, etc.

The catch is that unless you're an extremely high value man, you're not going to be able to only deal with high interest women.
 
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Women who are truly interested do make it easy for you. I rarely get dates with girls who are flakey, ignore my texts, slow to respond, etc.

The catch is that unless you're an extremely high value man, you're not going to be able to only deal with high interest women.
The second catch is many women will fake high interest
 

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That's probably one of the most important thing to keep in mind while dealing with women.

Nowadays any obstacle, headache or doubt about her liking you should be a serious factor to consider for walking away.

Women take trains, spend money and make themselves available when they find a man attractive...if she cant even bother to reply within a reasonable amount of time it's a no-go.

Being left on read doesnt require a bigger effort for win her back...it requires to go on settings/profile/delete number.

The only issues are pro narcisistic women that can simulate being attracted, in such case the sure way to see their bluff is set a meeting if it's an online thing or go for the kiss if it's a in person meeting.
 
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