Guys, I think I've been blessed.

[Sgthaytham]

Context: GF of 6 months.

She sent me a message maybe an hour after she had called me for a chat.

In the message she said that she couldn't help her insecurities and that she thinks I'm too good looking to be true and that she's scared sometimes.

She means the world to me. I feel so damn special whenever we're together. She cooks me meals, she shows me affection, she gives and gives and gives.

Like a couple of weeks ago she gave me a card telling me how good she feels with me, how everything is so effortless and how much she loves me.

Obviously this all makes me feel so good, and I'm so glad I'm sharing my life with someone so kind and generous.

It's just a bit difficult in the sense that I've never been so lucky... I dont know how I can put it.

I mean, even with her family, whom I met a month ago are fantastic and I got along with all of them.

With Christmas coming up, she wants us to spend it together... She cancelled her time off from work (albeit due to the fact she couldn't get her new passport in time). She wants to cook. I might make my famous tiramisu though

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Good for you brother, I’ve had this and there isn’t a thing in the world like it. Thank you for sharing.

 

[Sgthaytham]

Good for you brother, I’ve had this and there isn’t a thing in the world like it. Thank you for sharing.

That's kind of you, thanks, much appreciated.

I ask her out whenever she gets in touch. Sometimes she'll send me another message the next day saying how much she misses me and I'll cheekily tell her "God, if you're that desperate to see me, we'll have to meet up two days early, how about X day and we'll cook something up together".

In your opinion, is it a "bad" thing that she opened about her insecurities and how she feels I'm too good to be true?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

In your opinion, is it a "bad" thing that she opened about her insecurities and how she feels I'm too good to be true?

Not necessarily, I’ve had women I thought outranked me in SMV tell me how utterly gorgeous I was and be very protective of me. “How lucky I am that you like me..”

When they’re in love they think everyone thinks your hot af.

 

[Sgthaytham]

Not necessarily, I’ve had women I thought outranked me in SMV tell me how utterly gorgeous I was and be very protective of me. “How lucky I am that you like me..”

When they’re in love they think everyone thinks your hot af.

I guess it's just women being women. I know for a fact that women get majorly turned off when a guy asks for validation like this... Because it's feminine behaviour.

I mustn't get complacent though...

 

[Stanley]

Tread carefully.
I've had girls say this in the past and they mean it.

When they meant it they are basically saying "you ARE too good for her", in other words she won't come up to your level. You make her insecurities pop out and she's aware of this... unless she works on her self esteem I don't see this being a healthy relationship long term.

She means the world to me. I feel so damn special whenever we're together. She cooks me meals, she shows me affection, she gives and gives and gives.

6 Months is well into the 'honeymoon' phase and this sounds like textbook love bombing, you both sound infatuated and moving fast. The girls I've dated sound exactly like what you describe and later devolve into hot mess anxious avoidants and one of them was full on BPD and brought me here. Don't let this woman latch onto you and drain you of your emotional energy. Do not invest more than necessary. Be objective and question things. Do not fall for infatuation, love comes later with time and a concerted effort to better the relationship.

It's just a bit difficult in the sense that I've never been so lucky... I dont know how I can put it.

If it feels too good to be true... well I'll let you sit on that.

I don't mean to be devil's advocate here or say you haven't found a quality girl and if things are great and genuine, good for you! I'm just coming from a place of experience with girls like this where I want to reiterate be careful.
I like this guys take on women who genuinely feel "you're too good for them". Not at all redpill/PUA like but I think he gives some solid advice and opens up some interesting perspectives.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

@Stanley

yup I’ve had that too - but I never met their family and this girls family seems like it’s well-adjusted.

 

[member160292]

Kudos OP!
If you’re still in the honeymoon phase after 6 months you’re both doing something right. You’ve been head over heels with this chick since the beginning so I’m glad she is who she is.
Good luck!

 

[Stanley]

@Stanley

yup I’ve had that too - but I never met their family and this girls family seems like it’s well-adjusted.

I did meet their families and boy... where they a microcosm of psychoanalysis of her behavior. Daddy issues, mommy issues, trust issues you name it, the second I met the parents it was all clear lol.

That said, I Hope things are genuine for this fella and hopefully he found a quality girl that he can enjoy being with and have a positive relationship. I don't mean to project or overstep boundaries, I just wanted to throw my limited experience out there with girls who've sounded like this one.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Good for you OP. I really hope there's no negative nancy Ahole that tries to convince you otherwise in this topic. Don't let the failure of others convince you otherwise. Deep down, you know if this girl is "temporarily because I can't get anything else atm" or "is the one".

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I had a woman do similar things once...be careful with this one. Sometimes once they build you up, they begin to tear you down.

 

[Stanley]

Good for you OP. I really hope there's no negative nancy Ahole that tries to convince you otherwise in this topic. Don't let the failure of others convince you otherwise. Deep down, you know if this girl is "temporarily because I can't get anything else atm" or "is the one".

Being passive aggressive is a feminine quality, your Giga chad profile photo is the icing on this ironic cake. Also the 'Chad move' would advise for him to spin more plates and get over his oneitis and not commit. First and foremost there is "no one" that is some Disney **** that giga chad or anyone here would fight you on.

Being influenced by other 'failures' is not the point in the slightest. The point is to take heed and be cautious and LEARN from others failures and short comings. I have no intention/goal of planting a seed of doubt in their relationship. The purpose is to instill reflection and encourage him to remain objective and rational. What op posts is only a small snippet of info, analyzing the signs many point to common traits of love bombing.
-Grand Gestures,
-Gifts,
-Constant compliments,
-introducing family early,
-overly sexually available,
-saying I love you early,
-locking you into a commitment,
-Putting you on a pedestal.
-Saying you're to good to be true
-"Things feel off"
-Saying all the right things
etc...
When does love bombing take place? Typically in the first several months of dating...Then the manipulation starts to show and the cracks in the relationship are filled by all the past good experiences that were 'too good to be true'.

"It's just a bit difficult in the sense that I've never been so lucky... I don't know how I can put it".

Clearly there is some introspection going on here and Op wants discussion. Whether he wants advice or praise for his relationship is unclear, I'll assume the former... Read about love bombing and its relationship with mental health disorders, insecure attachment styles and disorders such as BPD... but hey what do I know i'm just some dude that dated girls that sound like what he's described and failed...

As expressed previously in both comments, if this is genuine and things are on the up and up, good for them and I'm happy op found a rare quality chick.

Love Bombing

Love Bombing: Definition, Signs, & How to Heal

Love bombing is an abuse tactic used to lure or keep someone in a relationship. It often involves intense displays of affection, admiration, and grand gestures. Love bombing can happen at any relationship stage but is more common when two people first meet. While all this attention may seem...

www.choosingtherapy.com

6 Signs It’s Love Bombing—Not Actual Love

Because they can look (and feel) the same.

www.self.com

Love Bombing: 10 Signs to Know

Love bombing is a technique that some people use to manipulate a romantic partner. Learn how to recognize some of the telltale signs.

www.healthline.com

 

[member160292]

Being passive aggressive is a feminine quality, your Giga chad profile photo is the icing on this ironic cake. Also the 'Chad move' would advise for him to spin more plates and get over his oneitis and not commit. First and foremost there is "no one" that is some Disney **** that giga chad or anyone here would fight you on.

Being influenced by other 'failures' is not the point in the slightest. The point is to take heed and be cautious and LEARN from others failures and short comings. I have no intention/goal of planting a seed of doubt in their relationship. The purpose is to instill reflection and encourage him to remain objective and rational. What op posts is only a small snippet of info, analyzing the signs many point to common traits of love bombing.
-Grand Gestures,
-Gifts,
-Constant compliments,
-introducing family early,
-overly sexually available,
-saying I love you early,
-locking you into a commitment,
-Putting you on a pedestal.
-Saying you're to good to be true
-"Things feel off"
-Saying all the right things
etc...
When does love bombing take place? Typically in the first several months of dating...Then the manipulation starts to show and the cracks in the relationship are filled by all the past good experiences that were 'too good to be true'.

"It's just a bit difficult in the sense that I've never been so lucky... I don't know how I can put it".

Clearly there is some introspection going on here and Op wants discussion. Whether he wants advice or praise for his relationship is unclear, I'll assume the former... Read about love bombing and its relationship with mental health disorders, insecure attachment styles and disorders such as BPD... but hey what do I know i'm just some dude that dated girls that sound like what he's described and failed...

As expressed previously in both comments, if this is genuine and things are on the up and up, good for them and I'm happy op found a rare quality chick.

Love Bombing

Love Bombing: Definition, Signs, & How to Heal

Love bombing is an abuse tactic used to lure or keep someone in a relationship. It often involves intense displays of affection, admiration, and grand gestures. Love bombing can happen at any relationship stage but is more common when two people first meet. While all this attention may seem...

www.choosingtherapy.com

6 Signs It’s Love Bombing—Not Actual Love

Because they can look (and feel) the same.

www.self.com

Love Bombing: 10 Signs to Know

Love bombing is a technique that some people use to manipulate a romantic partner. Learn how to recognize some of the telltale signs.

www.healthline.com

If a chick is still love bombing after half a year, I’d consider her a down b!tch at her age

 

[Dr.Suave]

Context: GF of 6 months.

She sent me a message maybe an hour after she had called me for a chat.

In the message she said that she couldn't help her insecurities and that she thinks I'm too good looking to be true and that she's scared sometimes.

She means the world to me. I feel so damn special whenever we're together. She cooks me meals, she shows me affection, she gives and gives and gives.

Like a couple of weeks ago she gave me a card telling me how good she feels with me, how everything is so effortless and how much she loves me.

Obviously this all makes me feel so good, and I'm so glad I'm sharing my life with someone so kind and generous.

It's just a bit difficult in the sense that I've never been so lucky... I dont know how I can put it.

I mean, even with her family, whom I met a month ago are fantastic and I got along with all of them.

With Christmas coming up, she wants us to spend it together... She cancelled her time off from work (albeit due to the fact she couldn't get her new passport in time). She wants to cook. I might make my famous tiramisu though

Hey if you are happy we are happy for you. Sounds like you pulled a quality girl. Enjoy.

If you dont mind me asking:

How old is she?
Was she a virgin? Did you take her v-card?
When you initiate sex, does she always comply?

 

[Sgthaytham]

Anything she says to you OP and I mean ANYTHING like you listed. Put "today" at the end of it.
Your getting oneitis and the fall from this kinda thing can kill men. Take care of yourself first.

Oneitis? Bro, she's my GF. I thought Oneitis referred to being fixed on one girl when you're dating, or with a girl who has low or no interest in you?

Other than that, I agree, she's telling how she feels in the moment

 

[Sgthaytham]

Hey if you are ahppy we are happy for you. Sounds like you pulled a quality girl. Enjoy.

If you dont mind me asking:

How old is she?
Was she a virgin? Did you take her v-card?
When you initiate sex, does she always comply?

She's 26
No
Yes, in fact, she initiates over 60% of the time. Usually what happens is she talks and talks and talks, I just listen and ask her more questions and then she curls up to me, starts moving her arse and touching me and it goes from there

 

[Dr.Suave]

Sounds like you have a good thing going. Enjoy it bro.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Anything she says to you OP and I mean ANYTHING like you listed. Put "today" at the end of it.
Your getting oneitis and the fall from this kinda thing can kill men. Take care of yourself first.

Yeah that's what I want OP to be on guard for...had a very similar situation and 4 months later after the first 6 months things were over.

When things seem too good to be true, they typically are.

 

[pipeman84]

Context: GF of 6 months.

She sent me a message maybe an hour after she had called me for a chat.

In the message she said that she couldn't help her insecurities and that she thinks I'm too good looking to be true and that she's scared sometimes.

She means the world to me. I feel so damn special whenever we're together. She cooks me meals, she shows me affection, she gives and gives and gives.

Like a couple of weeks ago she gave me a card telling me how good she feels with me, how everything is so effortless and how much she loves me.

Obviously this all makes me feel so good, and I'm so glad I'm sharing my life with someone so kind and generous.

It's just a bit difficult in the sense that I've never been so lucky... I dont know how I can put it.

I mean, even with her family, whom I met a month ago are fantastic and I got along with all of them.

With Christmas coming up, she wants us to spend it together... She cancelled her time off from work (albeit due to the fact she couldn't get her new passport in time). She wants to cook. I might make my famous tiramisu though

Man, you probably have low self-esteem and you're way too invested in this girl...you said above she wasn't a virgin...how many guys you reckon were saying the same things (see bolded) as you before they got dumped?

 

[CoandaEffect]

Oneitis? Bro, she's my GF. I thought Oneitis referred to being fixed on one girl when you're dating, or with a girl who has low or no interest in you?

Other than that, I agree, she's telling how she feels in the moment

No. Oneitis is when a man puts a women on a pedestal and starts to think she is unique and could not be replaced. NEVER think this of ANY women, not your girlfriend or even your wife. Once you start to believe she is unique and cannot be replaced thing go to sh*t.

If you need further clarification on this you need to read The Rational Male.

I’m happy for you, I really am, but like others have warned you step carefully.