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Ive changed my dating tactics

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Walk dates are difficult to do at night too. How do you get women to walk around with you at night around campus?
Well I much prefer night dates because I can bring her to a semi-secluded and dimly lit bench and then she feels more comfortable with escalation. In the daytime, people would be walking by. But there are lots of lamps and various lighting across my campus, so it’s not pitch black or anything.

“How do you get women to walk around with you at night around campus?”. I meet them, flirt with them, ask if they like “hiking”, and then talk about this cool walking area on the outskirts of my campus. Then I say “we should go there sometime” and if yes then I get their number and go. This isn’t rocket science, just the lessons you guys harp on all the time. Ofc I get rejected all the time, but it doesn’t matter cause it’s a numbers game.
 
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different age group, youre also chatting ****. unless your in the top 1 percent of men. Put a pic of you bro and I will of me
I dunno why this is not believable. These girls are young and into “hanging out”. If you physically escalate (super easy on a bench), then they know you like them. And if they like you too (judging by body language), you go for sex.

I’m not posting a picture right now, but I bench max 245 lbs and I weigh 170. So I got some muscle on me. That’s obviously a big factor, especially in my years.
 

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Evening .

Im 39 now guys and tbh I dont really give a fck about traditional dating, I dont have the surplus cash to take a woman out where it costs me 70 pounds each time, she pays about 10 percent of the evening, and i dont get laid or she bails bck to her ex. ( I could have purchased my daughter a real nice laptop instead with 2 months worth of dates)

(Just so you are all aware the UK prices are astronomical, 2 drinks are easily 12 UK pounds and petrol is 2 UK pounds a litre)

so I decided to change my tactics 2 months ago. I now presume every woman has a B/F, I also make sure I have at least built some rapport. I do not approach random strangers and this is women acquainted or so to speak.

I go straight in with mode 1. " Im somewhat attracted to you, Id like you to come and spend the evening round mine and we get to know each other better"

this will be met with her predictable spiel

1) I have a boyfriend
2) youre cheeky
3) who do you think you are


I ignore all this and smile, then I reply with my number on a piece of paper "consider my offer" (then go no contact)

I have said this to 20 women in the last 2 months. 4 of them messaged me within a month saying"what you doing" I have turned this into 3 lays who came straight round my house . and I have hooked up with since, on top of this they are paying half of any meets we have, 2 have purchased me gifts.


this is currently working for me much better than taking these fussy maniacs out initially . We have been out after the lay, and thats fine by me.

hope it helps fellas
I like this. I will make a thread on this topic and I will shout out this thread.
 

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One of the things I’ve noticed here is a weird dynamic. A guy posts, and talks about how he gets laid or how often he gets laid.

Then he has to put up with maybe 75% of respondents, saying that he’s lying, the chicks are all ugly, or they’re all fat. This happens in almost every thread with this type of content.

Why is this?

Can’t we just be happy for the poster?
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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This is a novel approach technique for these women and attractive women like to phuck too. If you can catch them when their defenses are down, why shouldn't it work?
 
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One of the things I’ve noticed here is a weird dynamic. A guy posts, and talks about how he gets laid or how often he gets laid.

Then he has to put up with maybe 75% of respondents, saying that he’s lying, the chicks are all ugly, or they’re all fat. This happens in almost every thread with this type of content.

Why is this?

Can’t we just be happy for the poster?
Because many posters here think there is only one path to get laid. And if any reports stray from said path, it must be an ogre or a lie.
 

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Nice to read this, this is what indifference in outcome will get you. However, it also signals that you go for almost anything and are not picky with women at all (at least judging that you're willing to have them over to your place so fast). And yeah, it'll only work if they're somewhat easy and you're attractive.
 

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Nice to read this, this is what indifference in outcome will get you. However, it also signals that you go for almost anything and are not picky with women at all (at least judging that you're willing to have them over to your place so fast). And yeah, it'll only work if they're somewhat easy and you're attractive.
ofcourse, my non chalant approach and no contact obviously peeks there interest. they presume I wont open my big gob or get thirsty.

I dunno why this is not believable
I apologise if I was a bit direct last night, I agree its believable as you are dealing with different age groups. remember women go through cycles. so my age group 28 to mid 30s apply all there nonsense dating rules.

My daughters friends are 18 2 of them fancy me, and like you say I could literally offer them a late night cruise that would cost me nothing and theyd be up for it. Thou shall NOT SIN :rofl:

remember guys Im not taking women for meals either I dont do dinner dates, the initial drinks were costing too much as it was.
 

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I go straight in with mode 1. " Im somewhat attracted to you, Id like you to come and spend the evening round mine and we get to know each other better"

This will be met with her predictable spiel

1) I have a boyfriend
2) you're cheeky
3) who do you think you are


XIII. Err on the side of too much boldness rather than too little

",,,, Don't let a woman's faux indignation at your boldness sway you; they secretly love it when a man aggressively pursues what he wants and makes his sexual intentions known."


Ops, I like your boldness. Kudos to you.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Nice to read this, this is what indifference in outcome will get you. However, it also signals that you go for almost anything and are not picky with women at all (at least judging that you're willing to have them over to your place so fast). And yeah, it'll only work if they're somewhat easy and you're attractive.
now Im older Im not looking for a wife, also most great women are took up in LTRs.

so as long as shes fit and fun, wants to come away for the weekend and have a good time etc thats fine by me, I presume she will leave at any minute and I dont get attached.

if you had of told me this 10 years ago , i would have thought youd got 3 eyes as I actively looked for "the one". but now Im at peace with female nature
 

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Walk dates are difficult to do at night too. How do you get women to walk around with you at night around campus?
Well I much prefer night dates because I can bring her to a semi-secluded and dimly lit bench and then she feels more comfortable with escalation. In the daytime, people would be walking by. But there are lots of lamps and various lighting across my campus, so it’s not pitch black or anything.

“How do you get women to walk around with you at night around campus?”. I meet them, flirt with them, ask if they like “hiking”, and then talk about this cool walking area on the outskirts of my campus. Then I say “we should go there sometime” and if yes then I get their number and go. This isn’t rocket science, just the lessons you guys harp on all the time. Ofc I get rejected all the time, but it doesn’t matter cause it’s a numbers game.
That makes sense. I hadn't thought of your situation like that. Keep it up!
 

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Interesting method, good to see that it is working for you. Minimal effort, set the bait and let them come to you.

I'm looking forward to the escalation where guys start putting out median-strip signs with their numbers on it like the WE BUY HOUSES folks, haha
 

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In the past, every time I applied (parts of) this bold method - in one way or another - I was always positively surprised by the results. It's a shame I once got distracted by OLD game for some years, I should have worked more on my direct approach. I have very few matches nowadays on the apps, this used to be much more. I guess I'm shadow banned or the algorithm decided I don't get matches. Doesn't matter. I also don't feel like clubbing or partying at my age. And my social circle and work circle are for other stuff, I would rather not affect these circles with game moves. I was just thinking of approaching women on the street again, and then this post showed up. Thank you! I like the boldness and honesty.
 

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I think if you just wanna get laid/have fun etc not looking for anything more 'meaningful' then the quick and direct approach as done by OP is probably best.

If guys are looking for ONS, fun, just getting laid definitely shouldnt be going through ****-tests, multiple dates etc.

Alot of women have complained about guys who just wanna get laid but pretend to want relationships which is kinda messed up and causes women to resent men.
 

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Derby has been 'round enough I can believe he's not pulling our leg.

There is a point when women appreciate a direct approach. While I'm a nice indirect guy to a fault, I seldom did the "traditional date" unless I was exclusive with a woman. My ONS's were nearly all me being direct and unapologetic.
 

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I’m in college and I can’t fathom “traditional dating”. 70 pounds to blabber with some stupid girl? Hell no!

I just ask girls to do an evening walk around campus. Gotten 3 lays this way by walking around for a while, sitting on a bench, and escalating. Then we go on another walk, I head to my apartment, and when we get there it’s like “wow, look where we are. Come check out my photo albums.”

Total cost of all my dates: $0. I’m really spoiled.
not a fair comparison
1) girls in college age have hormones that make them horny
2) girls in your college know you also go there so you must not be a serial killer
3) in college you don't have real life worry, your biggest worry is a stupid exam, which if you fail nothing happens
 

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Derby has been 'round enough I can believe he's not pulling our leg.
exactly Ive also been given ZERO stress this route.

I found dating women was basically 90 days of correctional behaviour, they are that oblivious to how disrespectful and selfish they are.

this way has given me much more output for barely any input. and like weve said guys Im older now and past caring to much
 

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Because many posters here think there is only one path to get laid. And if any reports stray from said path, it must be an ogre or a lie.
Personally, I think it speaks more of the guys that post “she must be an ogre, or orca fat” than anything else. They out themselves and how their sex lives are inadvertently.
 

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I’m in college and I can’t fathom “traditional dating”. 70 pounds to blabber with some stupid girl? Hell no!

I just ask girls to do an evening walk around campus. Gotten 3 lays this way by walking around for a while, sitting on a bench, and escalating. Then we go on another walk, I head to my apartment, and when we get there it’s like “wow, look where we are. Come check out my photo albums.”

Total cost of all my dates: $0. I’m really spoiled.
I don't know why anyone would spend £70 on a random stranger just to hear them talk.

I've never spent that much money on a date in my entire life and I'm from the UK.

I don't know how guys get themselves into these situations where they're shelling out serious money and getting nothing in return.

If you're in the UK meet at the pub and let her buy her own drinks. If she doesn't want to have sex with you because she didn't get a free drink, she was never going to have sex with you anyway.
 
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