Ive changed my dating tactics

[derby1]

Evening .

Im 39 now guys and tbh I dont really give a fck about traditional dating, I dont have the surplus cash to take a woman out where it costs me 70 pounds each time, she pays about 10 percent of the evening, and i dont get laid or she bails bck to her ex. ( I could have purchased my daughter a real nice laptop instead with 2 months worth of dates)

(Just so you are all aware the UK prices are astronomical, 2 drinks are easily 12 UK pounds and petrol is 2 UK pounds a litre)

so I decided to change my tactics 2 months ago. I now presume every woman has a B/F, I also make sure I have at least built some rapport. I do not approach random strangers and this is women acquainted or so to speak.

I go straight in with mode 1. " Im somewhat attracted to you, Id like you to come and spend the evening round mine and we get to know each other better"

this will be met with her predictable spiel

1) I have a boyfriend
2) youre cheeky
3) who do you think you are

I ignore all this and smile, then I reply with my number on a piece of paper "consider my offer" (then go no contact)

I have said this to 20 women in the last 2 months. 4 of them messaged me within a month saying"what you doing" I have turned this into 3 lays who came straight round my house . and I have hooked up with since, on top of this they are paying half of any meets we have, 2 have purchased me gifts.


this is currently working for me much better than taking these fussy maniacs out initially . We have been out after the lay, and thats fine by me.

hope it helps fellas

 

[Dr.Suave]

Not bad bro. Kudos on the lays.

 

[DoubleBarrel]

This is a pretty damn rad report, man! Nice to see it pop up!

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Can you describe how you know these women beforehand OP? Are they friends of friends, met through work, met through activities, etc?

 

[derby1]

Can you describe how you know these women beforehand OP? Are they friends of friends, met through work, met through activities, etc?

yes bro I cover for my dad at the chinese takeaway sometimes, plus we live in small towns in the UK so come across the same faces regularly.

these women are savage, the one had her on/off beta provider decorate for her, and she was riding me 24 hours later.

 

[DoubleBarrel]

yes bro I cover for my dad at the chinese takeaway sometimes, plus we live in small towns in the UK so come across the same faces regularly.

these women are savage, the one had her on/off beta provider decorate for her, and she was riding me 24 hours later.

I dunno, man.

 

[derby1]

I dunno, man.

dunno what? I dont care if they have chaps bro btw. obviously if your choice is different thats fine.

my mindset has totally changed over the last few years, for instance I advertise monogamy when Im in a relationship but I presume she has 3 side lovers. this gives me an ice cold attitude that makes her chase me even more and ironically ignore other men.

 

[derby1]

I was about to quit dating altogether, but I might try this. Instead of taking numbers, I'll give mine and I'll be clear with my intentions. If they reach out, great, If they don't, no difference. No time wasted.

so you agree with me about dating?

exactly , obviously dont drop it in the first sentence

 

[logicallefty]

I was about to quit dating altogether, but I might try this. Instead of taking numbers, I'll give mine and I'll be clear with my intentions. If they reach out, great, If they don't, no difference. No time wasted.

Indeed. I always gave out my number vs getting theirs. Cuts down a lot of wasted time.

 

[momentomori]

Interesting. I've done plenty of direct approach, but never this direct.

Still, I would like to see a larger sample size. 20 approaches is nothing. Keeps us posted to let us know how it goes.

I highly doubt 3/20 is a sustainable ratio, but I'd like to be proven wrong.

Also, when you get the text message you would definitely have to respond immediately, as she is looking for Mr. Right now, not Mr. Right, and you should book the date same day right back to your place, otherwise she will surely flake and change her mind.

 

[derby1]

Interesting. I've done plenty of direct approach, but never this direct.

Still, I would like to see a larger sample size. 20 approaches is nothing. Keeps us posted to let us know how it goes.

I highly doubt 3/20 is a sustainable ratio, but I'd like to be proven wrong.

Also, when you get the text message you would definitely have to respond immediately, as she is looking for Mr. Right now, not Mr. Right, and you should book the date same day right back to your place, otherwise she will surely flake and change her mind.

I agree , they seem to be looking for a late night D

 

[SargeMaximus]

Similar to what I do yet I’m met with hostility on here. Very strange

 

[derby1]

Similar to what I do yet I’m met with hostility on here. Very strange

you do you bro, but I barely txt if that helps

 

[CollegeMan22]

I’m in college and I can’t fathom “traditional dating”. 70 pounds to blabber with some stupid girl? Hell no!

I just ask girls to do an evening walk around campus. Gotten 3 lays this way by walking around for a while, sitting on a bench, and escalating. Then we go on another walk, I head to my apartment, and when we get there it’s like “wow, look where we are. Come check out my photo albums.”

Total cost of all my dates: $0. I’m really spoiled.

 

[derby1]

I’m in college and I can’t fathom “traditional dating”. 70 pounds to blabber with some stupid girl? Hell no!

different age group, youre also chatting ****. unless your in the top 1 percent of men. Put a pic of you bro and I will of me

 

[SW15]

I’m in college and I can’t fathom “traditional dating”. 70 pounds to blabber with some stupid girl? Hell no!

I just ask girls to do an evening walk around campus. Gotten 3 lays this way by walking around for a while, sitting on a bench, and escalating. Then we go on another walk, I head to my apartment, and when we get there it’s like “wow, look where we are. Come check out my photo albums.”

Total cost of all my dates: $0. I’m really spoiled.

That is solid. Also, today's college females are less inclined to do traditional dating than even the ones I went to college with between 2001-2005. The college girls of 2001-2005 weren't that traditional either.

I remember doing a dinner first date in a restaurant in the first semester of my freshman year of college. I'm cringing thinking about that. I eventually learned the rule of no dinner dates in restaurants prior to sex. In my defense, at age 18, bar dates aren't feasible due to the 21 drinking age.

Walk dates are difficult to do at night too. How do you get women to walk around with you at night around campus?

 

[derby1]

Walk dates are difficult to do at night too. How do you get women to walk around with you at night around campus?

he doesnt hes chatting nonsense

 

[member160292]

There’s not a one size fits all glove, you have to work with what you got. Try different things and you’ll eventually find a style that will give you more success than others. Continue to experiment, you’ll find what doesn’t work. It’s a never ending, that’s what makes dating fun

 

[BillyPilgrim]

That is solid. Also, today's college females are less inclined to do traditional dating than even the ones I went to college with between 2001-2005. The college girls of 2001-2005 weren't that traditional either.

I remember doing a dinner first date in a restaurant in the first semester of my freshman year of college. I'm cringing thinking about that. I eventually learned the rule of no dinner dates in restaurants prior to sex. In my defense, at age 18, bar dates aren't feasible due to the 21 drinking age.

Walk dates are difficult to do at night too. How do you get women to walk around with you at night around campus?

Oh you can take them walking around Possum Kingdom lake though alright..

 

[LucianoM]

Only works for ugly girls