Should I Call Her Out for standing me up?

[soulforge]

My geuss is that you KNOW exactly what to do now, but perhaps you hope someone will say something like; " ah, the hell with it ,this is just women. Pretend like nothing happened, smile it all away and keep it moving? You had a hotter one recently? No? Then you should forgive her, understand her blablabla"

I assume this is the 24 y.o Russian girl. And imo she showed you the ultimate disrespect. No need to over analyze this. Turn the situation around; imagine dealing with a woman and being so comfortable you don't even feel the need to notify her it's a flake. That basically means you are willing to cut ties at ANY moment.

It could be your colleague, mother ,best friend ect. Nobody has the right to mess with your time , sincere intentions and effort like this.

you gotta let this one go for now, I am sorry.

This.... She for the streets... Will be ghosting her

 

[soulforge]

The last text she sent was asking me how my day has been.

I can either send her a simple... Good thanks


Or.... No reply and ghost this h0e lol

 

[soulforge]

You spent 3 months with a hoe like this? Her behavior is so egregious it's hard to believe she didn't give out hoe vibe on the 1st date. How'd you meet her?

Yeh she gave out some H0e vibes, that's why I never gave a her a LTR just kept smashing

 

[EyeBRollin]

Only 3 days ago, she was telling me how she wants me to go on holiday with her and her family lol wtf

Telling you, yet she flakes on dates. She’s playing you like a fiddle.

 

[Gamisch]

The last text she sent was asking me how my day has been.

I can either send her a simple... Good thanks


Or.... No reply and ghost this h0e lol

Yeah she is kinda testing you imo..

Your initial question was should I call her out. Now ,I gotta admit if this was me a year ago I would throw a tantrum at this woman, even after I decided she disrespected me. Or perhaps(even weaker) I would make a joke saying today is good but last night was kinda shyte when I made reservations and got flaked on.

Nowedays I wouldn't even bother. I dont sugarcoat other people's bad behavior, neither iam forcing things to fit my own narrative! Trying to say I would understand you call her out and keep it moving. But you gotta look at the bigger picture bro.

My advice is to ghost her ,ignore her and pretend to be just as dumb as she is..you reward her by even engaging in the conversation.

Assume she uses you for something bro.

 

[DonJuanjr]

Or.... No reply and ghost this h0e lol

This....

Though, I wouldn't call her a h0e. She just succumbed to her hypergamy. They can't shut it off just because they've been seeing you for 3 months.... Remember women don't have the honor that men do due to the necessity to become war brides for survival. Of course she is just brushing it off with no remorse. Look at the other older Don Juans on here... Such as @Howiestern @Dash Riprock @oldmanofthesea they don't have ltr's that last decades. They understand that women will always be hypergamous and just move on when their women succumb to it.

 

[Gamisch]

I am more confused when I am actually on the date and somehow I get mixed signals.

This is so damn clear, I would actually be happy she showed her true colors.

And the part about meeting parents ect; that how easy words can be used to manipulate and confuse a man. ACTION speaks louder than WORDS. Judge people on their actions!

 

[The Diver]

I arranged the date, time, location and left the ball in her court... But she didn't turn up,

What is this "I left the ball in her court" bs?
You arranged the date, time, and location, which is a restaurant, you dressed up, drove to the restaurant, sat at the table for an hour, and you tell us that you left the ball in her court"? This is bs, and you know it.

Stop pretending; you have got oneties to a plate. You had the same problem with some of your plate stripes before, which messed with your had for six months.

She stood you up because you were chasing her. In 3 months, you are the only one who arranged the dates because you wanted to F her badly. And she knows it. She never lifted a finger to arrange anything.

She stood you up and, by doing so, showed you her disrespect because she knew you won't next her. And you know that too.

The only option you have after her act of disrespect is to tell her to F off.
Or she will gain respect for you and start chasing you, or she will move on.

 

[soulforge]

Yeah she is kinda testing you imo..

Your initial question was should I call her out. Now ,I gotta admit if this was me a year ago I would throw a tantrum at this woman, even after I decided she disrespected me. Or perhaps(even weaker) I would make a joke saying today is good but last night was kinda shyte when I made reservations and got flaked on.

Nowedays I wouldn't even bother. I dont sugarcoat other people's bad behavior, neither iam forcing things to grimy own narrative! Trying to say I would understand you call her out and keep it moving. But you gotta look at the bigger picture bro.

My advice is to ghost her ,ignore her and pretend to be just as dumb as she is..you reward her by even engaging in the conversation.

Assume she uses you for something bro.

I agree my bro... Sometimes we feel the need to clearly point out what they did wrong. The reality is, they know EXACTLY what they did wrong.(she knows we had a date tonight)

They have options.. when h0es have options, they can afford to play games/take risks on a man... She loses me... Well she spinning 4 other dudes... I enjoyed smashing her for the last 3 months.. but deep inside I always knew she was not a LTR.. I knew she was a 304... It was my turn...

The best thing I can do now is, not even acknowledge her games... And move onto the next one.

 

[soulforge]

What is this "I left the ball in her court" bs?
You arranged the date, time, and location, which is a restaurant, you dressed up, drove to the restaurant, sat at the table for an hour, and you tell us that you left the ball in her court"? This is bs, and you know it.

Stop pretending; you have got oneties to a plate. You had the same problem with some of your plate stripes before, which messed with your had for six months.

She stood you up because you were chasing her. In 3 months, you are the only one who arranged the dates because you wanted to F her badly. And she knows it. She never lifted a finger to arrange anything.

She stood you up and, by doing so, showed you her disrespect because she knew you won't next her. And you know that too.

The only option you have after her act of disrespect is to tell her to F off.
Or she will gain respect for you and start chasing you, or she will move on.

I won't lie... I did arrange most of the dates.. but I felt very uneasy about arranging the dates..

Why? Because I was told by many people on here that the man should lead. The man should always take control and arrange the dates.

It never sat well with me... I arranged the first 5 dates, but it felt fukin wrong.

 

[The Diver]

I won't lie... I did arrange most of the dates.. but I felt very uneasy about arranging the dates..

Why? Because I was told by many people on here that the man should lead. The man should always take control and arrange the dates.

It never sat well with me... I arranged the first 5 dates, but it felt fukin wrong.

Fair enough.

Many care more about F than their self-respect.

The way I do things is to lead and arrange the first three dates, which usually by the third date is cooking together in my place, which ends with F.
After that, I leave it in her court to reach out.(and from this point its half half reaching out), And I wait until she does. And she will reach out to you if her interest in you is high. And if she doesn't, move to the next one.

 

[soulforge]

Fair enough.

Many care more about F than their self-respect.

The way I do things is to lead and arrange the first three dates, which usually by the third date is cooking together in my place, which ends with F.
After that, I leave it in her court to reach out.(and from this point its half half reaching out), And I wait until she does. And she will reach out to you if her interest in you is high. And if she doesn't, move to the next one.

My gut instinct was screaming that I shouldn't be arranging all the dates.. lol people kept telling me on SS that the man should take the lead and arrange the dates, aslong as she turns up, it's all good.

But I knew that was wrong, just didn't sit well with me. Exactly why on this occasion, I didn't confirm with her twice about meeting up tonight... She was probably hoping I would, but I didn't... Which explains why she didn't bother turning up.

However I know where things stand with her now... Better late than never... She will never get the opportunity to see me again.

It's over, and I won't even call her out on it.... Time to GHOST

 

[2Rocky]

So been seeing this girl for 3 months.

I arranged the date, time, location and left the ball in her court... But she didn't turn up, because I didn't chase her.

Sooo... Tell her that she should have told me that she wasn't going to meet?

Or simply next this disrespectful 304???

This is why I pick up my dates and we go to the date venue. If she is not there, or still in her sweats with rollers in her hair, I can simply leave and go do it with someone else or by myself. I'm not sitting at a restaurant, wondering.....

 

[soulforge]

Ok so this crazy h0e plan did not work.

She just messaged me, asking me if she is still coming over?

Her plan to get me to chase her did not work... So she has given in.

Now she is wanting to see me.

I absolutely feel fukin furious that she played this game with me.. I booked us a fukin table too at the restaurant.

I really feel like Ignoring the shvt out of her

 

[soulforge]

She wants to see me now... She is begging lol

She could have simply followed the plans for the date... But no... She decided to play me and game me.

What shall I do?

Punish her and not see her.

Or invite her over?

 

[kavi]

What I would do is put her on ice for some time and then contact her. But thats me.

Also, if she disrespected you and has been doing that for some time, and plan on letting her go, then by all means throw some vitriol her way if she deserves it. No need to white knight, if you think shes a **** let her knw, nothing to be afraid of whats she gonna do tell the police on you!

If you have the ability to punish her now and make her wait, if doing so will make her suffer and miss you, then that is usually the best tactic. But that is person to person and not sure if that will work for you. TBH the way you describe her behaviour towards you repeatedly ignoring dates and stuff this sounds like a pain and normally something you need to punish or walk away from cos she aint just gonna realise on her own how great you are and that she should respect you.

 

[soulforge]

She messaged me now, and sounds desperate about seeing me. Haha

Her little PLAN did not work.

This is what she was hoping for... Even though the date had been confirmed by me in great detail. Even the exact train she needs to catch to come see me, she was planning to not follow through.. unless I CHASE her up and, ask her to definitely come.

Unless I CHASE her... The date does not happen.

Did I chase her? Hell no.

Guess who is blowing up my phone right now? Guess who is begging to see me?

Yup her... She just sent me a text saying that she is on her way. Lol talk about her plan fukin backfiring haha

 

[soulforge]

She has called me 28 times... Also she is claiming she is in the car with her cousin, driving over to my house WTF

Seriously I am so angry right now, that I do not want to talk to her.

I booked a table at the restaurant which I had to cancel.

 

[soulforge]

Her plan isn't backfiring if you allow her to come over.

Has she apologized?

If not, then tell her you're busy.

You can't just let her back in willy nilly, she needs to experience the consequences of her actions!

Instill some fear in her that she's lost you! Like really lost you.

That won't happen by allowing her to call the shots and come over which is what you're doing now.

Tell her no, you're busy. Let the hamster wheels spin for awhile.

Yeh mate I have ingnored all her calls... I don't even feel like texting her back or answering her calls.

I feel so fukin disrespected right now.

But I have a feeling the bich will show up at my house any moment now.

Puts me in a position of power... However I know these games will be on going and will never stop.

Even if I accept her apology, it's just a matter of time till she plays the power play card again. Fuk this 304

 

[SargeMaximus]

Nexting is usually more useful than calling women out for bad behavior.

I agree but I did get a blow job and sex from one girl after calling her out before. A few women actually come to think of it