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Some background: I am soon to turn 40, six foot, divorced with two children and am in decent shape. I run and visit the gym pretty regularly. All my life I've been complimented on my looks, which trust me guys, can be a real curse. Especially since I'm a pretty quiet, and rather serious guy. All sorts of women have called me hot, cute, ridiculously good looking, a heartbreaker, etc, etc but this has certainly not translated into above average success with them. Yes, I've banged some pretty hot women, however these experiences are few and far between. In my experience, an average looking guy with good game will way outmatch a good looking guy who lacks game any day. Someone here recently said that women expect above average looking guys to have above average game, which I have found to be very true.
I find that women very often play hard to get with me. Conventional wisdom around here usually says that if a woman is truly interested, she will make it easy. I'm not so sure. Most of the women I meet are from dating apps (I know, I know, not the best however I work in an absolutely male dominated industry and my hectic schedule leaves little time for a good social life). I find that often I have to put in way more effort at first...it's like pulling teeth with some of these broads...often they're HB7s in their 30s or early 40s. Some of them I definitely know are interested. I think they don't want to get hurt/played so they hang back to see how hard I'll try.
Even this one cute girl at work who I've seen around but don't know is exhibiting the same behaviour. I know from a friend that she is single. We work in totally different departments and never cross paths, so I friended her on FB and sent her some friendly messages, introducing myself, asked her if she's going to the company Christmas party. She reads the messages but doesn't reply. Ughhh. I realize I should go talk to her in person but I think that it'll be awkward now. I admittedly have never cold approached a woman while sober. I'm always just at a loss for what to say. Maybe the best bet is to be very direct, tell her I find her attractive and ask her for her number.
Anyway, not looking for any specific advice here guys, just sharing some of my experiences with the baffling world of women and am open to any suggestions on how to open up these icy broads.
Some background: I am soon to turn 40, six foot, divorced with two children and am in decent shape. I run and visit the gym pretty regularly. All my life I've been complimented on my looks, which trust me guys, can be a real curse. Especially since I'm a pretty quiet, and rather serious guy. All sorts of women have called me hot, cute, ridiculously good looking, a heartbreaker, etc, etc but this has certainly not translated into above average success with them. Yes, I've banged some pretty hot women, however these experiences are few and far between. In my experience, an average looking guy with good game will way outmatch a good looking guy who lacks game any day. Someone here recently said that women expect above average looking guys to have above average game, which I have found to be very true.
I find that women very often play hard to get with me. Conventional wisdom around here usually says that if a woman is truly interested, she will make it easy. I'm not so sure. Most of the women I meet are from dating apps (I know, I know, not the best however I work in an absolutely male dominated industry and my hectic schedule leaves little time for a good social life). I find that often I have to put in way more effort at first...it's like pulling teeth with some of these broads...often they're HB7s in their 30s or early 40s. Some of them I definitely know are interested. I think they don't want to get hurt/played so they hang back to see how hard I'll try.
Even this one cute girl at work who I've seen around but don't know is exhibiting the same behaviour. I know from a friend that she is single. We work in totally different departments and never cross paths, so I friended her on FB and sent her some friendly messages, introducing myself, asked her if she's going to the company Christmas party. She reads the messages but doesn't reply. Ughhh. I realize I should go talk to her in person but I think that it'll be awkward now. I admittedly have never cold approached a woman while sober. I'm always just at a loss for what to say. Maybe the best bet is to be very direct, tell her I find her attractive and ask her for her number.
Anyway, not looking for any specific advice here guys, just sharing some of my experiences with the baffling world of women and am open to any suggestions on how to open up these icy broads.
