Ran into toxic ex in bar we met - look at this behavior

[Barrister]

Ok so if I make the decision to want to bang her again boys. Should I call or text out of the blue “Hey what was that last week?” And go from there or (I think this is better) wait until I run into her again in the same bar and then talk when I get the chance?

Clearly i hoped that she would text me but I don’t think she ever will.

Yes I am trying to get new women Ofc.

Merits of doing this aside....Your only play is to stay NC. NC generally doesn't win you back your ex but it is usually the only way you can do that - even if it is just to bang.

 

[jaymbrs]

She’s trying to see if she still has the power over you - and if she does you still have to act as if she doesn’t then play the game. You could get her to go as far as banging again by agreeing to play and make that the only way to get the validation she’s seeking. You get a little win because you bang her again, but still lose in the end cuz once she gets it she’ll turn the other way.

Or you can just not play the game

I can agree with this but I'll add that you'll lose the battle by giving her the validation she wants but it's likely you'll win the war.

 

[TheGambino]

I can agree with this but I'll add that you'll lose the battle by giving her the validation she wants but it's likely you'll win the war.

I will run into her since our city is big but not that big. If she comes in my space again I’ll chat her up and see what happens. I don’t think she will reach out since she’s toxic and we had a big argument where she thinks I have to apologize. I think that’s my best bet to fvck her.

 

[RickPound]

I can agree with this but I'll add that you'll lose the battle by giving her the validation she wants but it's likely you'll win the war.

It takes a lot of game. Especially if she’s toxic. OP has to be ruthless.

I will run into her since our city is big but not that big. If she comes in my space again I’ll chat her up and see what happens. I don’t think she will reach out since she’s toxic and we had a big argument where she thinks I have to apologize. I think that’s my best bet to fvck her.

Definitely don’t reach out. If she does, or you see her out, you gotta play hard ball and reel her in. She’s already doing it with antics she pulled at the bar. Push/pull. Confidence/Indifference. If it works and you bring her home, go complete ghost after

 

[TheGambino]

Anymore thoughts? It’s also a good lesson for next time.

 

[bat soup]

I will run into her since our city is big but not that big. If she comes in my space again I’ll chat her up and see what happens. I don’t think she will reach out since she’s toxic and we had a big argument where she thinks I have to apologize. I think that’s my best bet to fvck her.

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