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It is an observable fact that the people who preach against the participation trophy mentality also value qualities of tenacity and "just do(ing) it."
I suspect many such individuals are here.
Instead of asking them to explain this contradiction and receiving answers that demonstrate a lack of self-awareness I didn't even know was possible, I will simply state that it is a contradiction.
Let's be honest, if you didn't quietly give yourself "participation trophies," you wouldn't even attempt half the things you do.
One of the things I'm beginning to realize talking to successful people is that, although you need to yank (not simply pull) teeth to get them to admit it, a huge part of what keeps them going is the satisfaction in knowing that they put themselves out there at all.
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EDIT:
In speaking to these people, I have also been introduced to the concept of "outcome-indifference," that being the mentality of maintaining your momentum even if your attempts for results backfire.
This mentality is simply not sustainable without the rationale that effort counts.
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If I didn't know any better, I would say that parents who preach this anti-participation-trophy dogma are actively trying to lower their children's confidence.
But I do know better.. so I think it's just stupidity.
I suspect many such individuals are here.
Instead of asking them to explain this contradiction and receiving answers that demonstrate a lack of self-awareness I didn't even know was possible, I will simply state that it is a contradiction.
Let's be honest, if you didn't quietly give yourself "participation trophies," you wouldn't even attempt half the things you do.
One of the things I'm beginning to realize talking to successful people is that, although you need to yank (not simply pull) teeth to get them to admit it, a huge part of what keeps them going is the satisfaction in knowing that they put themselves out there at all.
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EDIT:
In speaking to these people, I have also been introduced to the concept of "outcome-indifference," that being the mentality of maintaining your momentum even if your attempts for results backfire.
This mentality is simply not sustainable without the rationale that effort counts.
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If I didn't know any better, I would say that parents who preach this anti-participation-trophy dogma are actively trying to lower their children's confidence.
But I do know better.. so I think it's just stupidity.