How to pick up girls at a Wedding?

[Travel memoir21]

I have a friend whose getting married on the 10th of December and he’ll likely have a couple of eligible maidens for the occasion.

If you were invited and going solo, or with a male friend, what are some good opportunities to approach and strike a conversation with someone you like?

I know dancing is one of them. Or at the evening meal at a courtyard somewhere just to give an example.

lol this reminds me of the movie Wedding Crashers all over again.

 

[corsica]

Everybody is happy for the married couple, have them as common friends and there is alcohol. How difficult can it be?

Girls won't have bi!ch shields since they know you might be in the same social circle. Approach indirectly. Just presenting yourself in a friendly way. Comment about the wedding as opener. Ask if they're friends of the bride or groom... Just use your imagination. They'll all be friendly and you'll see which one is available.

When the (girl)friends see another girlfriend getting married, they crave the same. They feel behind. I think a wedding is a great place to find a girl.

During a wedding they're not going to be sitting down the whole time so there is plenty of opportunities to approach. Ideally you could call a female friend to join you.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Everybody is happy for the married couple, have them as common friends and there is alcohol. How difficult can it be?

Girls won't have bi!ch shields since they know you might be in the same social circle. Approach indirectly. Just presenting yourself in a friendly way. Comment about the wedding as opener. Ask if they're friends of the bride or groom... Just use your imagination. They'll all be friendly and you'll see which one is available.

When the (girl)friends see another girlfriend getting married, they crave the same. They feel behind. I think a wedding is a great place to find a girl.

During a wedding they're not going to be sitting down the whole time so there is plenty of opportunities to approach. Ideally you could call a female friend to join you.

I wish I am a good dancer. Lots of dancing at weddings.

 

[SW15]

lol this reminds me of the movie Wedding Crashers all over again.

I have a thread specifically about this.

"Wedding Crashers" Would Never Happen in Real Life

The 2005 movie "Wedding Crashers" could never happen at weddings in from 2010-present. In fact, I would say that it was far fetched and detached from reality even in 2005. The main reason that "Wedding Crashers" could never happen 2010-present is that people get married much later in life now...

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The main reason that "Wedding Crashers" could never happen 2010-present is that people get married much later in life now. It is true that people are staying unmarried later into life. At 2010 and later weddings, the typical 27-33 year old wedding attendee is coming to the wedding with their significant other. A decline in marriage rates does not equate into a decline in couplehood.

My closest friend got married in 2017 and there were 100+ attendees. How many unattached women attended that wedding? 0. The marrying couple were 28 and 29 at the time of the wedding, meaning their social circle of 27-33 year olds were all in various stages of committed couplehood. There would be 0 single women looking for a man. Few unattached men showed up because the unattached men knew that there would be 0 unattached women showing up. Some other weddings in my social circle were similar to that in terms of unattached women.

Most bridesmaids have boyfriends right now.

I have a friend whose getting married on the 10th of December and he’ll likely have a couple of eligible maidens for the occasion.

If you were invited and going solo, what are some good opportunities to approach and strike a conversation with someone you like?

You're lucky that you're actually attending a wedding with unattached women present.

You can find out ahead of time who the unattached women are and approach them at any time when they have receptive body language.

All of the weddings in my social circle from 2016-2020 were like the one I described above. Most of the unattached or marginally attached people who were invited didn't attend. I didn't attend weddings when I knew it was going to be a couples fest. With one wedding I was invited to, I didn't receive a +1 and I was marginally attached at that time for a couple months. I wouldn't have brought someone with only a couple of months of history to a big out-of-town wedding anyway. I declined that invitation.

 

[Mike32ct]

I agree with SW that wedding game isn’t what it used to be.

Notwithstanding, if you are already going, first start chatting with people seated at your table. Men, women, single, taken, etc. These people will be easiest to talk to. And you can easily figure out if any single women are at your table.

Then maybe chat up some ladies near you while you are waiting in the food/drink line.

Approaching other tables is possible, but you would really have to observe who is with whom first.

 

[SW15]

I agree with SW that wedding game isn’t what it used to be.

Wedding game seems more like a Boomer or Gen X'er thing. It hasn't been much of a thing in the Millennial generation. I have one last friend having a 1st marriage in 2023. After that, if I get invited to weddings, it'll be 2nd-3rd type marriages. The weddings and receptions after 2nd-3rd marriages have a way different feeling than a wedding that is a 1st marriage for both.

I have some data points from TheKnot's 2016 wedding survey, a survey of 13,000 brides who got married in 2016.

https://www.theknot.com/content/wedding-guest-hookups

US WEDDINGS - The Knot Worldwide

Cost of US Weddings Reaches New High as Couples Spend More Per Guest to Create an Unforgettable Experience, According to The Knot 2016 Real Weddings Study The largest survey of Americans married in 2016 unveils couples are spending more, and going over budget, on guest entertainment including...

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In 2016, 19 percent of newlyweds reported that some of their guests hooked up during or after their wedding. That could be either a post wedding reception hookup or something like a phone number exchange followed by dates later. 4% reported that guests who met at their 2016 wedding are were in a a committed relationship at some point post-wedding. I'd guess most of those "hookups" were one night only.

If you look at that pool of 19% hooking up as a result of wedding attendance, I would guess that most of those hookups occurred at weddings when the bride's age was 26 or under. If a bride is 27+, she simply doesn't have enough friends in her social circle that are unattached.

I skipped the "couples fest" weddings I skipped not just because they were couples fests. There were instances of "couple fest" weddings I skipped because they were going to be all couples AND required me to travel to them. That's so not worth it.

if you are already going, first start chatting with people seated at your table. Men, women, single, taken, etc. These people will be easiest to talk to. And you can easily figure out if any single women are at your table.

If you're talking about later in life (age 28+) first marriages or 2nd/3rd marriages, it's a mostly shiit pool of attendees.

I think unattached women are less likely to skip a "couples fest" wedding of their female friend than unattached men are to skip a "couples fest" wedding of their male friend.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Just talk to everyone...guys, girls, old ladies, the bride, the groom, etc...

You'll be seen as the cool guy who likes having fun and you'll get plenty of attention from single women most likely.

 

[pipeman84]

I went to a wedding a couple months ago. I was informed by the mother of the groom of 3 girls that were single. I didn't fancy 2 of them at all, the 3rd one I was like...well, maybe I'll chat with her, see what she's all about. I didn't notice any IOIs from her, when I took her hand during a dance, didn't like how it felt, it felt more masculine than mine (and I weight-lift without gloves).
So basically my advice is just scan the room, if you find any girl attractive and notice IOIs, approach her.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Wedding Crashers is definitely unrealistic. But they do have one major point, be that fun guy that is truly enjoying himself.

That is true in any type of social environment. People are attracted to charismatic, fun, cool, and unhinged vibes.


Modern Man Advice

 

[MatureDJ]

I can remember a time when weddings were a prime territory for success in meeting women; I think I had a swing when I had 2 1NSs in a period of 4 weddings . As I have aged into going to weddings of folks a generation after my own, I've noticed that there are a lot fewer non-fat women around (what else is new? ), so this has eroded.

 

[MatureDJ]

... when I took her hand during a dance, didn't like how it felt, it felt more masculine than mine (and I weight-lift without gloves).

Did you think she was a tranny?

 

[pipeman84]

Did you think she was a tranny?

No man, she just had rough, manly palms and that combined with the lack of IOIs stopped me from chatting her up.

That is true in any type of social environment. People are attracted to charismatic, fun, cool, and unhinged vibes.

How about the strong, silent type, someone like James Bond?

 

[SW15]

Wedding game seems more like a Boomer or Gen X'er thing. It hasn't been much of a thing in the Millennial generation.

I can remember a time when weddings were a prime territory for success in meeting women; I think I had a swing when I had 2 1NSs in a period of 4 weddings . As I have aged into going to weddings of folks a generation after my own, I've noticed that there are a lot fewer non-fat women around (what else is new? ), so this has eroded.

Your story seems to be anecdotal evidence of a larger trend.

Gen Z is starting to get married now, so that'd be 2 generations past yours. The oldest members of Gen Z were born in 1997, so that means they turn 25 during 2022. The younger the bride, the better than chances for unattached female attendees. 27-28+ brides just don't have social circles that are good for wedding hookups.

Late 2022 and 2023 1st weddings are going to be mostly the tail end of the Millennial generation and early Gen Z.

The first half of the Millennial generation (1981-1988 births) is more focused on squeezing out their "Last Call" babies right now than getting married, though some laggards from that group might get married in late 2022 and 2023. I wrote about this in a thread recently.

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The earliest Millennials (1981-1985) might even have 2nd weddings in 2022-2023. I don't personally know any Millennials like this, though they exist. Early Millennial Charissa Thompson (born 1982) already has 2 failed marriages, as her December 2020 marriage resulted in a divorce filing in April 2022. Charissa Thompson is childless.

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[SW15]

he’ll likely have a couple of eligible maidens for the occasion.

Most bridesmaids have boyfriends right now.

It's a bit unusual that a social circle of mostly 30 somethings would have eligible maidens at a wedding.

How was that wedding?

I skipped the "couples fest" weddings I skipped not just because they were couples fests. There were instances of "couple fest" weddings I skipped because they were going to be all couples AND required me to travel to them. That's so not worth it.

As a never married person, I have never found weddings enjoyable. It's also true that the weddings I got invited to were mostly subpar weddings with a bad guest list. I know one wedding I skipped had a grand total of zero unattached female attendees.

I have one last friend having a 1st marriage in 2023.

This ended up as a total crap show.

 

[Cowboy-Cheems]

Most weddings I get invited to are for family members, so I have to be cautious about who I get flirty with. Don't be that guy that unknowingly bags his 3rd cousin.

 

[SW15]

Skipping weddings is not a bad thing.