Behind in life (Zeroed Out)

[KingTurbo]

Hey guys,

Need advice here.

I basically in my version of being Zeroed Out. I am divorced from my wife after a bad marriage(no kids btw), and have finally found the red pill. So I've been reading "the rational male" watching Kevin Samuels, Richard Cooper, etc. Two major things are keeping me from reaching my full potential that are not even my doing. It's not clothes, attitude, meeting women, being high value, getting in shape. It's elements out of my control.

1) My career isn't hiring full-time positions, so I am only taking part time jobs where I can. It may be like this for the next 8 months. I may be able to secure somewhere that likes me. I am still in my purpose, making an impact but not where I was or want to be.

2) The housing market is so high where I live, I cannot afford to live on my own. Even if I had a full-time job, I can't afford it. Living at home with my folks.

Completely out of my control. I was expecting to get a full-time position, find a place of my own, etc. Not happening. I feel once I am meeting women again could this definitely impact the quality women I meet? (Oh, he's not full time in his career. Oh, he's living at home?!)

However if she likes me, she will understand these are hard times and would move mountains to be with me because I am pursuing my purpose as best as I can.

What's your take.
How do you interpret this?

Thanks man

 

[pipeman84]

As long as you project the vibe of a winner and don't play the victim card, I don't see any issues. The fact that you're not at your financial best can definitely be a plus inasmuch as it helps you weed out gold-diggers.

 

[KingTurbo]

No gold diggers coming my way haha.
Victim mentality is definitely something no man should aspire to. Just gotta keep churning until something let’s loose.

 

[Plinco]

Hey guys,

Need advice here.

I basically in my version of being Zeroed Out. I am divorced from my wife after a bad marriage(no kids btw), and have finally found the red pill. So I've been reading "the rational male" watching Kevin Samuels, Richard Cooper, etc. Two major things are keeping me from reaching my full potential that are not even my doing. It's not clothes, attitude, meeting women, being high value, getting in shape. It's elements out of my control.

1) My career isn't hiring full-time positions, so I am only taking part time jobs where I can. It may be like this for the next 8 months. I may be able to secure somewhere that likes me. I am still in my purpose, making an impact but not where I was or want to be.

Good time to start your own business. If you are working part time, that gives you time to focus on another income generating stream. If you are good enough at something, work finds you. Trust me.

2) The housing market is so high where I live, I cannot afford to live on my own. Even if I had a full-time job, I can't afford it. Living at home with my folks.

Bruh I know I live in Florida too. Lucky I bought my house before the prices really went up.

Completely out of my control. I was expecting to get a full-time position, find a place of my own, etc. Not happening. I feel once I am meeting women again could this definitely impact the quality women I meet? (Oh, he's not full time in his career. Oh, he's living at home?!)

However if she likes me, she will understand these are hard times and would move mountains to be with me because I am pursuing my purpose as best as I can.

What's your take.
How do you interpret this?

Thanks man

The best thing to do is move forward with your life in such a way that you gain maximum happiness and respect for yourself. I've learned from experience that women respect and like men who love themselves and respect themselves. Instead of looking behind you, look forward. The turmoil is opportunity. You should be asking yourself what you want out of life, and go for that. You sound like you have some kind of self-esteem issue.

 

[KingTurbo]

good advice.

Yeah Florida is a mess with housing and the hurricane. I have several friends in the same boat.

I’d like to get a second weekend job, doctors order are to keep stress minimum. Making a business could be too stressful. Sales was tough when I did it, not for me.

self esteem must comes from wanting control over things I want. But life happens.

UPDATE: Someone from a job site literally called me to tell me they heard nothing but good things and they scheduled me again.

 

[Plinco]

Making a business could be too stressful. Sales was tough when I did it, not for me.

In my experience, it's a lot more fun to sell something you created then to work a sales job. It's your product, and the money goes directly into your pocket.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Reading your post the first thing that occurs to me is as follows:

You’re in a down cycle, you know what’s keeping you from being able to secure the types of women you’d like. You know EXACTLY what needs to change. Redirect your sexual energy completely to fixing yourself. This also affects your confidence, women can sniff that out like a pig digging for truffles.

So instead of chasing tail right now, why not focus SOLELY on fixing those problems? Forsake dating for 6 months and fix your fundamentals, do it like a madman, like your life depends on it, like it’s basic training.

Withdraw, regroup, retool, redeploy.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Some guys take one of those 6 month courses to become a programmer and get a high paying job.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Some guys take one of those 6 month courses to become a programmer and get a high paying job.

The brogrammer thing is done guys.
There are like 20k Developers walking around Silicon Valley right now wondering how they’re going to make a rent in six months, Much less find employment that will sponsor them for a visa.

This means people are going to accept positions for less than they used to and therefore drive down the price that programmers can demand because let’s face it, if you’re here from India and you just got fired and you’re on a sponsored visa and you own a house and a Tesla you’re screwed.

They’re gonna hang on with anything they got. Guys with Masters degrees and 10 years experience are going to take lower paying desktop, sysadmin, devops and csr positions to try to keep afloat. This makes it worse for recent grads and you get folks that typically fill those positions. The result is a fluster cluck of epic proportions.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

if she’s into you she won’t care. But ultimately, it’s not ideal.

 

[Whydomyeyeshurt]

Hey guys,

Need advice here.

I basically in my version of being Zeroed Out. I am divorced from my wife after a bad marriage(no kids btw), and have finally found the red pill. So I've been reading "the rational male" watching Kevin Samuels, Richard Cooper, etc. Two major things are keeping me from reaching my full potential that are not even my doing. It's not clothes, attitude, meeting women, being high value, getting in shape. It's elements out of my control.

1) My career isn't hiring full-time positions, so I am only taking part time jobs where I can. It may be like this for the next 8 months. I may be able to secure somewhere that likes me. I am still in my purpose, making an impact but not where I was or want to be.

2) The housing market is so high where I live, I cannot afford to live on my own. Even if I had a full-time job, I can't afford it. Living at home with my folks.

Completely out of my control. I was expecting to get a full-time position, find a place of my own, etc. Not happening. I feel once I am meeting women again could this definitely impact the quality women I meet? (Oh, he's not full time in his career. Oh, he's living at home?!)

However if she likes me, she will understand these are hard times and would move mountains to be with me because I am pursuing my purpose as best as I can.

What's your take.
How do you interpret this?

Thanks man

I'm divorced with two children and I'm 45. I rent a room from close friends. My income is also not where I would like it to be right now. Oh, and I drive a 2000 Honda.

And yet...

I have never felt like such a powerful man in all of my life.

My suggestions: Look around in your current situation; I'm sure there's a number of things right within your reach that you can dramatically improve and make better. LOOK FOR THEM. Any upgrade you can make right now will add more meaning to your life and help you build that confidence you need.

Don't jerk off, and don't watch porn. You need that testosterone to help you build your confidence, your focus, and your strength. Controlling sexual appetite takes control and discipline which will build your character and make you feel more powerful.

What are some things you can do to spruce up your living situation? In my case, I realized I needed some plants and a few posters. That little touch gave me a sense of home and identity.

Prayer/Meditation. If you are religious, pray daily, if not, meditate. I am religious, but I do both.

Find social clubs in your area and singles events, and go to them. Go for no other reason other than to mingle in a crowd with a smile on your face because you are an man that creates abundance.

Avoid dating apps. In my view they trick you into thinking there's more out there for you than there is. Stick to real life whenever possible. If you have to use dating apps, fair enough, there are other guys here who can help you with that.

Reading - Pace yourself with red pill content. The red pill is bitter to swallow and it can be a painful transition, so pace yourself. Take breaks on it and then just observe the world with the tools that you're gathering. Conduct your own little mini field tests. I've become interested in stoic philosophy and I recommend it to anyone here.

I know what it's like to be zeroed out, man. And the choices seem bleak. Live or die. So I want you to choose to live and exploit every possible crook and cranny of your life that can inject you with power. Trust me brother, it's all around you. Once you start to get a taste of self-mastery you will begin to understand why you are, in fact, the prize. It won't matter what your situation is because you are an alpha male moving through life.