Nightclubs and online dating don't excite me. Is anyone else like this? Bored with how ordinary the world is?

[Parallelophone]

One of the first things they tell you to do in the seduction game is go to a place and look for women you wanna ****. But what happens if you can't find any anywhere? What happens if you find yourself surrounded by mediocrity? What if your life has been this boring, ordinary thing that for years now you've been trying to escape, for there is nothing in it that excites you? Except for brief windows into other lives that you think probably will excite you?

For instance, I go to a nightclub. I look around. I'm not interested in anyone. On the other hand, I think I'd like to escape this boring, ordinary life of mine and be a nightlife industry insider. Which is itself pretty boring most of the time, I know. But what would be fun is being part of this "scene." This "community." And hopefully getting to meet, like, models and **** and hook up with them. Because models also tend to be part of this community/industry.

But if that fantasy is even possible, no one will tell me how to pursue it. I can find advice on how to start up or invest in a nightclub or something, and lots of warning about how risky and taxing it is, but no advice on "How do I become the kind of guy who kicks it with other cool nightlife people in the nightlife industry?"

This is where I'm stuck now. Bored with the ordinary, no idea how to escape the ordinary and become extraordinary. Have you ever felt like this? Did you ever find anything to fulfill yourself?

 

[devilkingx2]

For instance, I go to a nightclub. I look around. I'm not interested in anyone. On the other hand, I think I'd like to escape this boring, ordinary life of mine and be a nightlife industry insider. Which is itself pretty boring most of the time, I know. But what would be fun is being part of this "scene." This "community." And hopefully getting to meet, like, models and **** and hook up with them. Because models also tend to be part of this community/industry.

Then go to the places where the women who interest you will be, whether that's at the gym or at Comic Con.

But if that fantasy is even possible, no one will tell me how to pursue it. I can find advice on how to start up or invest in a nightclub or something, and lots of warning about how risky and taxing it is, but no advice on "How do I become the kind of guy who kicks it with other cool nightlife people in the nightlife industry?"

Becoming a nightclub promoter is easy, lots of people do it. I've seen job ass online for it

Owning a night club is basically impossible, you'd need to be a multi-millionaire. There's no online guide for that.

This is where I'm stuck now. Bored with the ordinary, no idea how to escape the ordinary and become extraordinary. Have you ever felt like this? Did you ever find anything to fulfill yourself?

I feel like that too. It is at this time that I want to tell you there's a Japanese anime called



I always loved how relatable that title and premise is.

Anyway, most normal people just work and sleep/watch TV/browse social media most of the time. If you've got a life more interesting and exciting than that, you've got the average beat.

 

[Parallelophone]

Then go to the places where the women who interest you will be, whether that's at the gym or at Comic Con.

That's nowhere. I go to the gym and I see no one that I even wanna talk to, be they male or female. Because they all seem so boring. And everyone I talk to ends up being boring.

But would becoming a promoter put me in with the nightlife industry? Am I likely to meet women in the industry that way?

 

[Dean Gladwyn]

Mentally, you could just be shutting yourself down for any possibility or potential when you already think everything is 'boring'. You could meet someone anywhere, so as long you're open to it. Being a promoter, specific to nightlife should put you in the industry. From then on it would be up to you how you conduct yourself.

 

[Parallelophone]

Mentally, you could just be shutting yourself down for any possibility or potential when you already think everything is 'boring'. You could meet someone anywhere, so as long you're open to it. Being a promoter, specific to nightlife should put you in the industry. From then on it would be up to you how you conduct yourself.

Being a promoter is easier said than done. Otherwise we'd all be promoters.

Also, I think it's a matter of location? Where's the best nightlife if I'm looking to go to afterparties with sex workers?

 

[SW15]

@Parallelophone -- The problem is more you than online dating and night life venues. Have you seen a psychologist or a psychiatrist? It isn't normal to be bored by everyone and everything.

It would be a reasonable viewpoint to not like BOTH online dating and night life venues. Someone in that position would have the options of non-bar approaching and social circle introductions. With non-bar approaching and social circles, it's possible to arrange enough dates to find a girlfriend, though the path won't be easy.

 

[Parallelophone]

@Parallelophone -- The problem is more you than online dating and night life venues. Have you seen a psychologist or a psychiatrist? It isn't normal to be bored by everyone and everything.

It would be a reasonable viewpoint to not like BOTH online dating and night life venues. Someone in that position would have the options of non-bar approaching and social circle introductions. With non-bar approaching and social circles, it's possible to arrange enough dates to find a girlfriend, though the path won't be easy.

I don't want a girlfriend.

But also, what's to like about online dating and nightlife venues? The women there aren't special.

 

[kavi]

I am trying to figure out a way to develop a kind of social group/community/system that I can get women (and men) to come to.

I had this idea cos I come across a lot of girls day to day and out and about, but just asking for their number in a romantic scenario is difficult cos then there is also the problem of where to take them.

I went out the other day and saw lots and lots of attractive women walking home after work but in the pubs and bars nearby it was dead and had alot of older ppl and lots of men.

Women dont have very good social events to go to so I think that needs to be created.

I am thinking to do some work on building some kind of social group based on 'soft' political ideology. Make a website and some social media. This will give the thing some structure. And then when going out I can just hand out a card to women instead of the typical cold-approach number close.

Then get these women together in some bar or similar setting and try to develop it from there...

 

[Parallelophone]

How do I uncensor my swear words?

 

[Dr.Suave]

Try a new hobby

 

[Parallelophone]

Try a new hobby

Hobbies don't interest me.

 

[Gamisch]

I don't want a girlfriend.

But also, what's to like about online dating and nightlife venues? The women there aren't special.

Oke so what do you want then? You dont want a gf, but when you are surrounded by potential plates( OLD and nightlife) you NEVER see a hot enough body???No knock on you, but what's special about you? What's sets you apart from , let's say me or another " average " DJ? Maybe lower your expectations.

Figure out what the F you want. If you want quick lays you gotta be in those places. And yeah, there will be TONS of experienced, patient, players you gotta compete with.

Another thing. Life is boring. For everyone. That's why women wants either excitment or love. day to day life is boring and always has been this way for humanity. It's about money shelter and food.

 

[Parallelophone]

Oke so what do you want then? You dont want a gf, but when you are surrounded by potential plates( OLD and nightlife) you NEVER see a hot enough body???No knock on you, but what's special about you? What's sets you apart from , let's say me or another " average " DJ? Maybe lower your expectations.

Figure out what the F you want. If you want quick lays you gotta be in those places. And yeah, there will be TONS of experienced, patient, players you gotta compete with.

Another thing. Life is boring. For everyone. That's why women wants either excitment or love. day to day life is boring and always has been this way for humanity. It's about money shelter and food.

I want to find myself part of some kind of... community or scene where I'm surrounded by the kinds of beautiful women I wouldn't have access to if I just lived a normal, boring life. Then I would enjoy a series of hookups with the women in this community/scene.

Think of it like being a nerd in high school and wanting to go do cool kid stuff with the cool kids. As a nerd, eventually you get sick of the mediocrity of your life. I go to nightclubs, and I see the same mediocrity that I see everywhere else. I need to find the cool, sexy kids.

Edit: As for what's special about me? Nothing... yet. But that's the goal. To make myself special enough to belong in such a special place.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Where's the best nightlife if I'm looking to go to afterparties with sex workers?

Bangkok.

 

[Gamisch]

I want to find myself part of some kind of... community or scene where I'm surrounded by the kinds of beautiful women I wouldn't have access to if I just lived a normal, boring life. Then I would enjoy a series of hookups with the women in this community/scene.

Think of it like being a nerd in high school and wanting to go do cool kid stuff with the cool kids. As a nerd, eventually you get sick of the mediocrity of your life. I go to nightclubs, and I see the same mediocrity that I see everywhere else. I need to find the cool, sexy kids.

Edit: As for what's special about me? Nothing... yet. But that's the goal. To make myself special enough to belong in such a special place.

Oke I understand what you're saying.

Well. These communities do exist, but the men behind these(creator's) will be extremely reluctant to introduce new men into the group. In that case imho you gotta CREATE that community and be the leader of those people.


I read the word afterparty. If you are the afterparty dude, you'll have access to more women. Just dont mind cleaning puke, piss and shyt every now and then, and that sometimes a girl brings some thugs who try to steal stuff from your house...

 

[Parallelophone]

Bangkok.

I don't wanna pay for the sex though.

Oke I understand what you're saying.

Well. These communities do exist, but the men behind these(creator's) will be extremely reluctant to introduce new men into the group. In that case imho you gotta CREATE that community and be the leader of those people.

What communities are these? I'm not sure what communities you're talking about.

 

[Gamisch]

I don't wanna pay for the sex though.



What communities are these? I'm not sure what communities you're talking about.

Example I am throwing parties where the focus is specifically on live music, and I prefer hiphop. So I am creating a community of like minded people. These people include women but the focus is never on women specifically.


Some guys open a boxing gym(after a boxing career). Some guys get together to pick up women. You gotta search within your hobbies and favorite activities . If you like to party, you can create an after party community.

 

[Parallelophone]

Example I am throwing parties where the focus is specifically on live music, and I prefer hiphop. So I am creating a community of like minded people. These people include women but the focus is never on women specifically.


Some guys open a boxing gym(after a boxing career). Some guys get together to pick up women. You gotta search within your hobbies and favorite activities . If you like to party, you can create an after party community.

Hmmm... that doesn't really sound like it either. Because the women aren't special. Like, uh... getting to have sex with a porn star. That's special. Porn stars are "out of the ordinary."

 

[svencandy]

Are you fit?
What skills do you have that get you paid?

 

[Parallelophone]

Are you fit?
What skills do you have that get you paid?

I'm not where I need to be yet to get what I want, I know. But first I need a good goal to strive for as far as getting what I want.