My thoughts on NYC after a weekend there

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This past month I went to NYC for my birthday for a weekend. I stayed in Midtown at a hotel near Times Square. It had been about 3 years or so since I last was there, so I had an opportunity to re-explore the city again. It is an amazing city. The energy, the culture,, the food, and yes the women. It just has this charm to it that I can’t find anywhere else. Chicago in some neighborhoods might come close but nothing compares to the overall vibe of NYC. And it is consistent too. I felt just as much of a buzz in Soho as I did in Midtown. I also felt relatively safe walking around the city, even at night. And of course the women are gorgeous, more than Chicago IMO. I got lunch in Soho and saw tons of hot tall girls walking around. I am seriously considering moving there after college, maybe I’ll stay there next summer before my last year of school!
 

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This past month I went to NYC for my birthday for a weekend. I stayed in Midtown at a hotel near Times Square. It had been about 3 years or so since I last was there, so I had an opportunity to re-explore the city again. It is an amazing city. The energy, the culture,, the food, and yes the women. It just has this charm to it that I can’t find anywhere else. Chicago in some neighborhoods might come close but nothing compares to the overall vibe of NYC. And it is consistent too. I felt just as much of a buzz in Soho as I did in Midtown. I also felt relatively safe walking around the city, even at night. And of course the women are gorgeous, more than Chicago IMO. I got lunch in Soho and saw tons of hot tall girls walking around. I am seriously considering moving there after college, maybe I’ll stay there next summer before my last year of school!
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Chicago is getting really dangerous and NYC probably is safer now. Cost of living in NYC is so bad tho. Would probably have to have several room mates, get a tiny little 100 square foot apt, or make 200k. ?
 

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This past month I went to NYC for my birthday for a weekend. I stayed in Midtown at a hotel near Times Square. It had been about 3 years or so since I last was there, so I had an opportunity to re-explore the city again. It is an amazing city. The energy, the culture,, the food, and yes the women. It just has this charm to it that I can’t find anywhere else. Chicago in some neighborhoods might come close but nothing compares to the overall vibe of NYC. And it is consistent too. I felt just as much of a buzz in Soho as I did in Midtown. I also felt relatively safe walking around the city, even at night. And of course the women are gorgeous, more than Chicago IMO. I got lunch in Soho and saw tons of hot tall girls walking around. I am seriously considering moving there after college, maybe I’ll stay there next summer before my last year of school!
Make sure you know some people unless you are rich. You'll need some roommates
 

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Chicago is getting really dangerous and NYC probably is safer now. Cost of living in NYC is so bad tho. Would probably have to have several room mates, get a tiny little 100 square foot apt, or make 200k. ?
People never factor this kinda stuff in...they just randomly think.."Hey, I liked being there for a few days, I think I'll move there!"

Then they realize they probably should have thought that through a little better.
 
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Make sure you know some people unless you are rich. You'll need some roommates
Yeah that’s what I’m thinking about for next summer. Doing a short term lease either in Manhattan or Brooklyn with a few roomates or so and saving up money until then. I have family in upstate NY as well.
 
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People never factor this kinda stuff in...they just randomly think.."Hey, I liked being there for a few days, I think I'll move there!"

Then they realize they probably should have thought that through a little better.
When I visited I tried to observe as many aspects of the city as possible. I think NYC just kinda feels like the right place for me now.

The cost of living is high but I don’t think I’m going to consider actually living there until sometime after I finish college so I’ll stay there next summer for a few months and just feel it out.
 

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You know, as a New Yorker myself, I never found NYC women all that attractive in the day-to-day sense.

When I used to travel out to the suburbs of Chicago, I found a lot of attractive girls out there. Maybe they look and act a little more natural, which appeals to me. They certainly were more friendly. Man I had some great experiences out there. This was in the 90’s, so I don’t know how much things have changed. I do know that the NY girls don’t do it for me.
 

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People never factor this kinda stuff in...they just randomly think.."Hey, I liked being there for a few days, I think I'll move there!"

Then they realize they probably should have thought that through a little better.
Let the kid have his fantasy man lol. I know how overwhelming NYC can be when you first arrive in it and I was amazed at the opportunities too when I lived there. The first 3 months in the city are unreal as you are exploring all the nightlife spots and all and the culture is unreal with all the young professionals. However, overtime it starts to kick in.

You start to notice that maybe you aren't used to having to step over rats when you walk the streets, the aggressive homeless, the god awful smells that kick in during summer time, the high taxes, the small apartments that are usually of low quality (walk ups), the constant hustle and bustle, the sketchy subways, and the annoyingly self-righteous people that take the moral high ground. You realize how everyone is trying to step on each other in the rat race and it is a city where you can make enemies just as easily as you can make friends. You start to miss seeing actual nature and not the fake one they have in Central Park.

Then you start to miss having a car and not feeling trapped between skyscraper after skyscraper.

Let the kid have his honeymoon before reality kicks in man, let him have his honeymoon.
 

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You know, as a New Yorker myself, I never found NYC women all that attractive in the day-to-day sense.

When I used to travel out to the suburbs of Chicago, I found a lot of attractive girls out there. Maybe they look and act a little more natural, which appeals to me. They certainly were more friendly. Man I had some great experiences out there. This was in the 90’s, so I don’t know how much things have changed. I do know that the NY girls don’t do it for me.
The quality in NYC does not come from the locals, it comes from the transplants. Ironically, it is the midwestern, southern, and smaller town transplants that make Manhattan what it really is and make NYC a global city. If people from across the US and world stopped moving to NYC after college, it would culturally feel like as if Detroit and Kentucky had a baby (just experience Staten Island or Long Island to see what actual New York looks like, you will be forever grateful for anywhere else you go in the US).

If a young guy ever moves to NYC for game, I tell him to only live in Manhattan and in rare cases consider trendy parts of Brooklyn (which is literally Manhattan rejects with a chip on their shoulder). Your top quality girls in NYC are usually southern, midwestern, and smaller city transplant girls that have just moved to the city from their respected SEC, Big 10, ACC or Big 12 schools to enjoy their 20s and make it an extension of college. Usually these were former sorority girls and amongst the hottest in their college. Alongside them, you have the aspiring models from elsewhere in the US who moved to NYC.

Thankfully, these women are the majority in Manhattan. However, once you get outside of that, the quality drops down significantly. The Euro women that come to NYC are usually hideous, trashy, and social ladder climbers. International talent in NYC generally sucks despite it being a global city, it gets outclassed big time by London and Miami here.
 

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You know, as a New Yorker myself, I never found NYC women all that attractive in the day-to-day sense.

When I used to travel out to the suburbs of Chicago, I found a lot of attractive girls out there. Maybe they look and act a little more natural, which appeals to me. They certainly were more friendly. Man I had some great experiences out there. This was in the 90’s, so I don’t know how much things have changed. I do know that the NY girls don’t do it for me.
Yeah it’s weird, I don’t see many 8’s or 9’s around Chicago. In NYC I saw a ton, especially in Soho.
 
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Let the kid have his fantasy man lol. I know how overwhelming NYC can be when you first arrive in it and I was amazed at the opportunities too when I lived there. The first 3 months in the city are unreal as you are exploring all the nightlife spots and all and the culture is unreal with all the young professionals. However, overtime it starts to kick in.

You start to notice that maybe you aren't used to having to step over rats when you walk the streets, the aggressive homeless, the god awful smells that kick in during summer time, the high taxes, the small apartments that are usually of low quality (walk ups), the constant hustle and bustle, the sketchy subways, and the annoyingly self-righteous people that take the moral high ground. You realize how everyone is trying to step on each other in the rat race and it is a city where you can make enemies just as easily as you can make friends. You start to miss seeing actual nature and not the fake one they have in Central Park.

Then you start to miss having a car and not feeling trapped between skyscraper after skyscraper.

Let the kid have his honeymoon before reality kicks in man, let him have his honeymoon.
I'm pretty used to city life at this point tbh, having lived in downtown Chicago for almost 2 years. I live in a much quieter and relaxed neighborhood of Chicago now but still commute downtown via the CTA for work and school, so I still get the "big city" feel on a regular basis. I don't really get tired of it honestly and in fact it kinda gives me life seeing the hustle and bustle of the streets and being surrounded by tall buildings.
 
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The quality in NYC does not come from the locals, it comes from the transplants. Ironically, it is the midwestern, southern, and smaller town transplants that make Manhattan what it really is and make NYC a global city. If people from across the US and world stopped moving to NYC after college, it would culturally feel like as if Detroit and Kentucky had a baby (just experience Staten Island or Long Island to see what actual New York looks like, you will be forever grateful for anywhere else you go in the US).

If a young guy ever moves to NYC for game, I tell him to only live in Manhattan and in rare cases consider trendy parts of Brooklyn (which is literally Manhattan rejects with a chip on their shoulder). Your top quality girls in NYC are usually southern, midwestern, and smaller city transplant girls that have just moved to the city from their respected SEC, Big 10, ACC or Big 12 schools to enjoy their 20s and make it an extension of college. Usually these were former sorority girls and amongst the hottest in their college. Alongside them, you have the aspiring models from elsewhere in the US who moved to NYC.

Thankfully, these women are the majority in Manhattan. However, once you get outside of that, the quality drops down significantly. The Euro women that come to NYC are usually hideous, trashy, and social ladder climbers. International talent in NYC generally sucks despite it being a global city, it gets outclassed big time by London and Miami here.
There's other aspects of NYC that I am considering besides women and game. Building a music career, being 2 hours away from my family who lives in Albany, the excitement, the endless opportunities for performing music. Eventually I might get tired of all of it and move back to Chicago, but for now NYC seems like the right place.

I also just got an internship opportunity from a prestigious company based in NYC, so gives me even more reason to consider living there after school.
 

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There's other aspects of NYC that I am considering besides women and game. Building a music career, being 2 hours away from my family who lives in Albany, the excitement, the endless opportunities for performing music. Eventually I might get tired of all of it and move back to Chicago, but for now NYC seems like the right place.

I also just got an internship opportunity from a prestigious company based in NYC, so gives me even more reason to consider living there after school.
Godspeed.... NYC is not for me.
 

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Glad you enjoyed the city of greatness.

IMO, Covid-19 really hit NYC hard. All the spots I used to frequent went under. The homelessness and crime both escalated significantly compared to 3-5 years ago. Overall foot traffic is way down, though it is improving.

NYC Manhattan specifically even in this new post-Covid era is still extremely safe relative to most big cities in the USA.
 

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Glad you enjoyed the city of greatness.

IMO, Covid-19 really hit NYC hard. All the spots I used to frequent went under. The homelessness and crime both escalated significantly compared to 3-5 years ago. Overall foot traffic is way down, though it is improving.

NYC Manhattan specifically even in this new post-Covid era is still extremely safe relative to most big cities in the USA.
Thanks man! It was a lot of fun! I don’t think covid hit NYC that hard IMO, I saw a ton of tourists in and around Times Square and even a ton of people in Soho. I think it’s back to tourism levels around pre-covid. I felt much safer in Manhattan than downtown Chicago, in fact almost weirdly safer. The MTA is much safer than the CTA IMO. And it was nice taking trains that didn’t have crackheads for once lol.
 

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Thanks man! It was a lot of fun! I don’t think covid hit NYC that hard IMO, I saw a ton of tourists in and around Times Square and even a ton of people in Soho. I think it’s back to tourism levels around pre-covid.
Trust me bro, it hit the city hard. The after work scene pre-Covid-19 was incredible. Bars were always packed between 5 pm-8 pm. Chicks ready to be taken home on a Tuesday night. The city is improving from 2 years ago but I don’t see that lifestyle happening anymore. Most New Yorkers in office jobs now work from home.
 
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Trust me bro, it hit the city hard. The after work scene pre-Covid-19 was incredible. Bars were always packed between 5 pm-8 pm. Chicks ready to be taken home on a Tuesday night. The city is improving from 2 years ago but I don’t see that lifestyle happening anymore. Most New Yorkers in office jobs now work from home.
Oh, well I guess in the nightlife regard it might be kinda dead. I didn’t check out any bars or clubs when I was there as I was just shy of turning 21.
 

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Let the kid have his fantasy man lol. I know how overwhelming NYC can be when you first arrive in it and I was amazed at the opportunities too when I lived there. The first 3 months in the city are unreal as you are exploring all the nightlife spots and all and the culture is unreal with all the young professionals. However, overtime it starts to kick in.

You start to notice that maybe you aren't used to having to step over rats when you walk the streets, the aggressive homeless, the god awful smells that kick in during summer time, the high taxes, the small apartments that are usually of low quality (walk ups), the constant hustle and bustle, the sketchy subways, and the annoyingly self-righteous people that take the moral high ground. You realize how everyone is trying to step on each other in the rat race and it is a city where you can make enemies just as easily as you can make friends. You start to miss seeing actual nature and not the fake one they have in Central Park.

Then you start to miss having a car and not feeling trapped between skyscraper after skyscraper.

Let the kid have his honeymoon before reality kicks in man, let him have his honeymoon.
I went to NY and never liked it. I was really disappointed the first time and the second time is was slightly better than I expected, but still basically just an expensive overcrowded sh1thole.

I also noticed that most of the people there are arrseholes.
 

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Overall foot traffic is way down, though it is improving.
Foot traffic is what makes New York City special for non-bar approaching.

If you go to a Sun Belt city that came of age in the automotive era (think Dallas or Phoenix), the level of foot traffic is a joke compared to Manhattan. Random street approaching is possible in NYC. In Dallas and Phoenix, there's not enough foot traffic to reliably do street approaching. You're dependent upon walking/hiking paths or city parks for game and the city parks in those cities don't resemble Central Park.

Trust me bro, it hit the city hard. The after work scene pre-Covid-19 was incredible. Bars were always packed between 5 pm-8 pm. Chicks ready to be taken home on a Tuesday night.
Happy Hour game from 5-8 PM has always been a bit underrated as compared to the late night Friday and Saturday night game most guys try to run.

The quality in NYC does not come from the locals, it comes from the transplants. Ironically, it is the midwestern, southern, and smaller town transplants that make Manhattan what it really is and make NYC a global city. If people from across the US and world stopped moving to NYC after college, it would culturally feel like as if Detroit and Kentucky had a baby (just experience Staten Island or Long Island to see what actual New York looks like, you will be forever grateful for anywhere else you go in the US).
True.

If a young guy ever moves to NYC for game, I tell him to only live in Manhattan and in rare cases consider trendy parts of Brooklyn (which is literally Manhattan rejects with a chip on their shoulder). Your top quality girls in NYC are usually southern, midwestern, and smaller city transplant girls that have just moved to the city from their respected SEC, Big 10, ACC or Big 12 schools to enjoy their 20s and make it an extension of college. Usually these were former sorority girls and amongst the hottest in their college. Alongside them, you have the aspiring models from elsewhere in the US who moved to NYC.
Also true. It's easier to slam that Auburn or South Carolina ex-sorority sister pusssy when she's a 22-24 year old newbie in Manhattan as compared to when she's an 18-21 year old sorority sister on campus in the SEC.
 

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