Update on fight with plate at her house - ran into her, games playing? wants to hurt me?

TheGambino

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And again drama.... Caption this...

She is abused by her ex boyfriend 4 years ago, he hit her regurly for 8 years, she told me.

Met her 4 months ago. Started dating. Never flaking. We had plenty of cex, she wanted children with me (she says that). Calls me daddy to her puppies (dogs). Tries to lock me down. We date every week, she initiates 100%, all seems great. Then we run into eachother in a random bar after I dont open her text, asking me where Im at. She sees me talking to another girl, nothing much. Shes all over me, dancing, grinding, but she yells at me at some point. I explained in earlier threads and I manplain her that I dont want to be yelled at. I also confront her about flirting a little bit around, dancing with a dude for a couple of seconds in front of me. She is testing the waters that night. Anyway everything went south from there on. Arguments, her wanting me to pursue but she keeps getting toxic, mad because I dont text her first. I walk away for a week twice then we agree to meet at her house. I already felt her being cold and distant for weeks prior!!!! But she wanted to make it work. She keeps saying if you are walking away every time in stead of working it out just stay away so she could move on then.

I parked my car at a private spot in the parking garage I am not supposed to do that. She demands me on a demanding getting all mad again to move my car. I say there are plenty of spots and tell her to calm and relax, in the end I suggest to do it together. Then she goes complete rage maniac, super sayin on me in a demanding way to get out of her house for good and never contact her again. Thats the second time after in the car she did it once.

Then no contact for almost 3 weeks until tonight look what happens.

I ran into her today, wtf. What does this behavior mean?

So we are in no contact after the heated argument in her house and her kicking me out for almost 3 weeks. I found out she blocked me on whatsapp or deleted my number, cant see her profile pic. I unfriended her from all social medias.

I went to the bar we first met 4 months ago. We dated for 3 months. Like I said after 2 months she wanted children with me and all that but when she yelled at me all went south when I manplained her.

A guy I know from a birthday party earlier came to me and we talked. I know he knows the OP girl and I know he dated her friend for a while. So I ask him do you still see her ? (friend of my girl) He says yes, your girl and my girl are actually on their way here right now.

So he says please wingman me and he stays around me. I tell him I don't talk to her too much anymore and that we didnt get along anymore and we dont talk. Anyway she comes in with 2 (girl) friends and she spots me and I spot her. She then walks in front of me with her best friend. Both of her best friends that all know every detail of what happened between us pass me and smile cute, kind and nice to me. They both greeted me niceley. My OP girl walks past me, if looks could kill. All with her nose in the sky, all mad asfck not looking in my eyes. I just ignore it, smile, dance and have a good time.

Later on she passes me and I say ''hey'' and touch her, she ignores me. Her best friend walked in front of her and smiles to me. Then 20 minutes later she passes again and I say ''hey, we dont have to be fighting'' I see her saying to her friend what I said and she ignores me again. I thought Ill make a little bridge by breaking NC in real life, it was effortless she walked pass me in front of me 3 times that evening, I only had to say something and I wanted to be a gentleman have small talk but she clearly is still MAD as f*ck.

I think f8ck it and I seduce a girl with her friend who dances with me all night. Her friend saw us, OP girl maybe saw us too but im not sure. Anyway I dont see her anymore that evening.

Then! I walk outside the bar and bump into her again with all her friends (the whole group, 3 girls and the guy I know from the party). A little akward but look what happens. By chance!

OP girl and her friend talk to a guy and 2 girls right in front of me and the girl I was dancing with all evening passed me, hugged me and we kiss eachother 5/6 times on the cheek and once on mouth right in front of OP girl. I see her looking disgusted in my direction. My luck is dancing kiss hugg girl is a HB9, young, tall and hot. Way better then OP girl.

Se keeps checking me out and I bail with my friend.

How did I handle the evening? What are chances that she will come back? What do you think of her behavior? Has she lost interest or still playing games?

Whats going on? She lost interest or is she just still so mad?
 

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I'm assuming you're all young. No disrespect, but the whole ordeal has a prom night vibe. Treat her with respect if she's being good natured, either way I would suggest backing out completely. Too much nastiness has gone on to be all kissy kissy again. One more thing. She was giving you knobbers and you told her you're not going down on her. R. U. Nutz?
 

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The walking away is pretty hard to get back from unless they're the ones who got you up first and you know what you're doing.

You're right in the sense that she should treat you with respect, but she's also right about you walking away twice, and saying don't come back and let me move on... Weeks is a very long time for an LTR.

The question is what do you want from her. She's not gonna change her behavior, and now that she's seen you with someone else, the water is muddy. She'll get a "free pass" to do the same thing to you and can't say ****..

Why not go with HB9
 

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The walking away is pretty hard to get back from unless they're the ones who got you up first and you know what you're doing.

You're right in the sense that she should treat you with respect, but she's also right about you walking away twice, and saying don't come back and let me move on... Weeks is a very long time for an LTR.

The question is what do you want from her. She's not gonna change her behavior, and now that she's seen you with someone else, the water is muddy. She'll get a "free pass" to do the same thing to you and can't say ****..

Why not go with HB9
I like her as fwb, plate, casual dating. Well what do u think of her ignoring me in the club?
 

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I like her as fwb, plate, casual dating. Well what do u think of her ignoring me in the club?
As one of my friends said, women's brains are pure entropy, and you can't make sense of entropy.

This one girl I was dating and offering the best I could started flaking on me, and eventually I saw her randomly at a nightclub. She gave me a very awkward hi and ignored me for the rest of the night. Obviously, it was over after that.

The best explanation is that there is no explanation to their behavior :/
 

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Why do you seem to enjoy drama OP? I would have no time in my life for any of this and would run away as fast as I could from it.
 

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Why do you seem to enjoy drama OP? I would have no time in my life for any of this and would run away as fast as I could from it.
@BackInTheGame78 i just decided to talk to her. I don’t know, I need to move on. I just want answers to learn. Obv I want her to commit and fvck her again. But yes this will bring more drama…
 

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@BackInTheGame78 i just decided to talk to her. I don’t know, I need to move on. I just want answers to learn. Obv I want her to commit and fvck her again. But yes this will bring more drama…
Personally I would walk away, nothing good comes from having this sort of energy in your life. Just my opinion tho, do as you wish
 

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I've known plenty of women like her, and as when you dated her previously, her behavior struck me as another way to provoke you and garner an emotional reaction.

It was very much intentional. She is all about getting attention and DRAMA in big bold letters.

And ignoring you in the way she did, which was not really ignoring but just another shyt test to elicit a reaction, it seems to be working.

Obviously there is still something "there" @Gambino but it's toxic and dysfunctional.

But perhaps that's part of the attraction for you? The toxicity of it? The dysfunction?

It's certainly not boring, it stirs your emotions and reading how much you're drawn to it, still after 4 months, perhaps women aren't the only ones who can become emotional and somewhat delusional, no disrespect, just calling it like I see it.

I would suggest spending some time trying to understand your intense attraction to this girl who remember remained with her ex in a what I would guess to be a mutually-abusive and utterly toxic relationship for 8 years.

Which if you don't get a hold of yourself here, is the same path you're heading down with her..
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No, I didn’t have cex with her for 7 weeks. Thats No relationship.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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@TheGambino You used to be cool, man. Before you met this girl you keep going on about.
 

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Huh?

Nevermind, glad you've decided to next her, for real, forever. There's nothing good there.
@catsmeow2 we dont have a relationship. We are in No contact for 3 weeks and there is no cex for 7 weeks. We are going nowhere down the road.
 
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