Hi fellas.
I want to spit some new facts I learned from my last dating experience (3 months with her) which were on no contact now for almost 2 weeks. We argued, she went on an emotional rage and told me to leave her house in the end. She wasn't what I was looking for in looks, and personality anyway. That's part of the reason didn't work out anyway. It's good I move on and we'll see what happens when I run into her since we both like to go out, we will meet. I will be short, sweet and distant. Maybe I can turn it in fwb. Maybe we never speak again.
After the experience I got a lot of confirmations I already knew from studying women and field experience in dating. But I learned something new also.
Women will test you when you act needy, jealous and weak. That is for certain. When they can walk all over you they gonna back off and test to see what you are really made off. If you pass the tests in a good way, she will become affectionate again if her interest level is high enough to begin with. If you chase, smother her and panic and reflect that on her, she will lose complete interest. Everyone knows this.
When you come off too stiff, hard to catch, and play with her emotions too much she will think that you are uncontrollable. This means she will have her guard up against you, because you are playing with her emotions. Making her feel good about you and then very bad. She will become distant, and b1tchy and test you because she doesn't trust you with her feelings anymore.
You have to somewhat have some beta traits if you want her to see you as a potential bf material. If you want to string her along, this is important. She will move on eventually when she thinks your only out to use her for cex. She will think he is wasting my time, I need to move on, this is going nowhere.
When you also try to enforce boundaries on a harsh dominant way without being exclusive she will block on that too. If she is a good girl or completley broken, women are women. I think they will react the same. Ofcourse a normal easy going woman will go silent, distant, embrace her feelings and look for a new guy. A insane, broken woman, will yell, cry, show bad behavior and look for new d1cks to jump on.
What I learned from this girl is something new:
When women are still attracted to you, have high interest in you, still want to rip your clothes off and fvck you they will test you if you don't do what they want or go in the direction they want.
Don't come up with, would she move on from Bradd Pitt, Leonardo Dicaprio or Chris Brown. Yes, the heck they will. Women that deal with these guys have high SMVs also (and can fvck other celibrities, millionaires and high value men) and will also be turned off by a high SMV guy like them. If they act jealous, needy or on the other side never do what the woman wants.
If she feels caged, doesn't have control over your actions at all, she will feel so empowered that it's feels hopeless for her to keep chasing you to change you in something that she wants. So she will become distant, because why would she chase someone she doesnt have control over at all or who doesnt want to commit/comply to her needs.
This will also result in testing, bad behavior and mirroring you to either get what she wants or to push you away.
Conclusion: Women test when her interest drops in attraction but also when she feels the relationship is going nowhere and she has no control over you. She will only accept enforced healthy boundaries when she also gets what she wants and that's exclusivity for example. Some guys told me this in earlier threads but I had to really rethink the situation and understand it to come to this conclusion.
It doesn't mean that she doesn't want to fvck you, it means she thinks it's not going in the direction she wants it to go. So she will break and look for a guy that will go in the direction she wants to go. Testing is not all about losing attraction, they also test when they feel unheared, bad communication or no purpose/direction in the ''relationship''.
