How Often Do You Text Between Dates?

[soulforge]

Simple question.. What are the pros & cons of texting between dates, especially when the date has already been arranged & set up.

The chick I am currently seeing, I last texted her two days ago, I generally leave 2-3 days between texting her, more often 2 days. However I tend to get the date arranged beforehand.

Is it essential to text eachother every day?

I personally think 2-3 day break from texting is healthy, however recently I have become to wonder if this could backfire, if the girl begins to feel she isn't getting enough attention & finds that attention elsewhere.

 

[Canadian_Man]

I'm far from an expert in this.

I try to follow what Corey Wayne teaches:
- the phone is for setting definitive dates
- if her interest level is relatively high at the moment, respond ~1 time/day (if she's initiating the contact), and generally not right away
- be sweet, and with a good reason to not be on the phone (e.g., "I'm about to go do X, cannot wait to see you on Y date")
- if she does not initiate texting that day, and you already have a date, then don't initiate it either

I haven't done that super well with the past few women, but a lot better than I used to.

The logic is to keep her wondering, show that you're legit busy, and to avoid putting your foot in your mouth by saying something to turn her off.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

whenever I feel like it

 

[Jor-El]

Its a tough one isnt it...the people who advocate iron clad,immovable "rules" on this ie "wait 8 hours" "dont text 1st" etc are missing the point a bit I think b/c every girl is different....what turns one on turns another off...iv often wondered this to,not sure there is an answer!

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Its a tough one isnt it...the people who advocate iron clad,immovable "rules" on this ie "wait 8 hours" "dont text 1st" etc are missing the point a bit I think b/c every girl is different....what turns one on turns another off...iv often wondered this to,not sure there is an answer!

It's definitely old school game that needs to retire. You pull that bs on younger millennials and lower then you will set yourself up for flakes.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Most women I date text daily and we usually send 2 or 3 texts back and forth from roughly 9am to 11pm.

Always has been like that for me and what works.

Both plates I have now almost always initiate the first text. Like 95% of the time.

Will sometimes call and talk to them here and there if they are into it as a reward to let them hear my voice.

I have zero fear of losing a woman from texting or saying the wrong thing. I've gotten to a point where that is basically never happening.

 

[Murk]

Depends on your ability to build rapport with text/calls.

I keep comms high, it's how I get first date lays, you build the rapport beforehand, lay the groundwork. The first date is more like 3rd date with me, we already know each other and have banter.

I do understand the logic of what the coaches teach, but they preach to the average man who will fvck things up if given the chance. Most people can't navigate interractions and build attraction over the phone with a stranger. I'm in sales, I've been speaking to people, hosting events, client meetings and public speaking for 15 years.

It depends on your abilities as an individual honestly. I voice note and call women whenever I want, not all the time, I run a business, I have employees, I have extremely high monthly outgoings so chatting all day is never viable. 7:30am-6:30pm is grind time, I can still shoot a text though. I tell all women I'm very busy and set expectations from the jump that I can't respond quickly. Just don;t be needy/desperate and let them engage/open 60% of the time.

 

[soulforge]

Depends on your ability to build rapport with text/calls.

I keep comms high, it's how I get first date lays, you build the rapport beforehand, lay the groundwork. The first date is more like 3rd date with me, we already know each other and have banter.

I do understand the logic of what the coaches teach, but they preach to the average man who will fvck things up if given the chance. Most people can't navigate interractions and build attraction over the phone with a stranger. I'm in sales, I've been speaking to people, hosting events, client meetings and public speaking for 15 years.

It depends on your abilities as an individual honestly. I voice note and call women whenever I want, not all the time, I run a business, I have employees, I have extremely high monthly outgoings so chatting all day is never viable. 7:30am-6:30pm is grind time, I can still shoot a text though. I tell all women I'm very busy and set expectations from the jump that I can't respond quickly. Just don;t be needy/desperate and let them engage/open 60% of the time.

Are you making most of the effort on reaching out to the girls?

I believe in making rapport with a girl, only under the condition that she is making an effort to reach out.

 

[Murk]

Are you making most of the effort on reaching out to the girls?

I believe in making rapport with a girl, only under the condition that she is making an effort to reach out.

Bro if she's not made it clear she's interested I'm not even engaging, low effort females are not even on my radar, the juice isn't worth the squeeze.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Just more or less mirror her response time and keep it simple, no long texts, and no double texting-

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Bro if she's not made it clear she's interested I'm not even engaging, low effort females are not even on my radar, the juice isn't worth the squeeze.

Yeah, typically in my cases the women do 95% of the initiating on a daily basis. The only time I do is if I didn't respond to a text the prior night, and sometimes they even beat me to the lunch and text before I can send a response.

Which is always a good sign...you being one of the first things they think about when they wake up.