Male personal trainers at gym vs women playing online games

[Blacksheep]

So, it sound totally nonsense to me.

This woman Im dating, she wants something serious and Im evaluating to see if it will worth.

So, she said that she needs to go to the gym. And I told her it was ok, but I dont agree with her doing it with a male personal trainer. I went to gym for years and I know how it works.

She said she doesnt see any problem on that, cause she is going there to workout... And those personal trainers are professionals like doctors. Well, its her opinion but I totally disagree. Ive met some guys who were personal trainers and they told me a lot of stories of hooking up with women that were clients of. Single, married, on LTR. Obvious its not general, but I wont invest on a woman who go to a gym and have a guy as personal.

So, whats funny is that she said there is no problem at all doing it. But she feels completely jealous about me playing online games. She told me that there is a lot of horny girls on those games who wants to show their boobs LOL. Anyways, I wouldnt add or have any intimacy or friendship with women that plays those games if Im on a LTR cause I would respect the woman Im serious with.

I asked her, are you really seriously about it? Do you really think that hitting the gym with a male personal trainer is not a reason to feel jealous, and your idea about online games are really more dangerous?

And based on her answer, she said yes, she doesnt see any reason to feel that about gym, but on online games she believes theres a lot of horny girls and she feels jealous about that. Of course I would have to add those supposed women on those games so it became a problem. And its something I dont do.

On Dota 2 (that I use to play) most of people I saw playing are guys. I was intrigued on her analogy about how what she wants to do has no reason to be jealous... But yeah, virtual girls on Dota 2 are crazy chicks that desperately wants to show me their boobs and pussies.

And just to be clear, I never said it was ok to add girls and have female girls friends playing those games with me. I dont believe opposite sex friendships. In any kind of thing.

What is this? that sounded like hypocrisy and lack of empathy on her part. Something is not a problem, until it happens or until she feels threatned about that.

Idk if its a red flag or its just some sh1t test.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Idk if its a red flag or its just some sh1t test.

Doesnt matter. If having a male personal trainer is a deal breaker for you she has to comply or bye. She´s not worth exclusivity if she doesnnt comply; plate status only

 

[Cerwin Vega]

One of my best friends is a personal trainer. He has made it a rule to never f**k a client, regardless of her relationship status.

You can always befriend one (highly recommended), and tell her to train with him. They're usually cool people -- and if you're on good terms, he'll wing you like crazy. My trainer friend is training our mutual friend's GF and always sh!ts on her for dumb sh!t she's done in the relationship, and tells her she should be thankful for him even looking at her, try harder for him, etc lmao.

 

[Blacksheep]

Doesnt matter. If having a male personal trainer is a deal breaker for you she has to comply or bye. She´s not worth exclusivity if she doesnnt comply; plate status only

Thats a good point.

And thats my behavior on that. If she did that I leave or only have her as a plate.

She said she is not going to do that after I told her I didnt agree... But Im gonna keep observing her actions and ideas

It sounded weird the way she doesnt saw a problem on that but saw problems on online games.

 

[Blacksheep]

One of my best friends is a personal trainer. He has made it a rule to never f**k a client, regardless of her relationship status.

You can always befriend one (highly recommended), and tell her to train with him. They're usually cool people -- and if you're on good terms, he'll wing you like crazy. My trainer friend is training our mutual friend's GF and always sh!ts on her for dumb sh!t she's done in the relationship, and tells her she should be thankful for him even looking at her, try harder for him, etc lmao.

The thing is that not every guy will have this idea of never getting involved with client.

Here in Brazil guys seems more prone to those things. Not much respect when we talk about approaching women and trying to fck them. Most guys dont give a fck if she is single or not.

Maybe in another countries people can have more respect. Brazil, we cant trust that much on people. At least, where I live here.

 

[jimwho]

Maybe in another countries people can have more respect. Brazil, we cant trust that much on people. At least, where I live here.

No where on earth is a place full of trust and respect. Humans are cunning and duplicitous. Your girl wants a personal trainer GTFOOH! How about suggesting a class with a trainer.

 

[Blacksheep]

No where on earth is a place full of trust and respect. Humans are cunning and duplicitous. Your girl wants a personal trainer GTFOOH! How about suggesting a class with a trainer.

Good point.

Im thinking if I should leave or just start seeing her as plate to enjoy sex.

Maybe I should just left her in the time she told me she wanted it. She said she wont do that, cause she know I wouldnt like. But I cant trust a woman who says its okay to have a male personal trainer at gym.

 

[jimwho]

Even if her intensions are good, it's still a slap in the face for her to have a personal trainer if you two have agreed to exclusivity. Maybe not today but she will always be looking for something better, especially when the newness rubs off. She's a woman, it's to be expected. Either way she's a keeper for now.

 

[Blacksheep]

Even if her intensions are good, it's still a slap in the face for her to have a personal trainer if you two have agreed to exclusivity. Maybe not today but she will always be looking for something better, especially when the newness rubs off. She's a woman, it's to be expected. Either way she's a keeper for now.

True!

So I know I have to trust my gut on that. Gonna keep her for a while and enjoy, but I dont think she is a good woman for long term.

Idk if someday I will find a woman that have decency to understand how such a thing was not ok to do. They always plays like foolish.

But yeah, if Im doing something that make then jealous, they became the lawyers of their reasons and conversation is completely different haha.

 

[HaleyBaron]

I wouldn't be bothered by it cause women are still insecure and male trainers have better poon availability to want to **** your gf. And if your gf is the one who needs a personal trainer, she's not a looker to begin with. He has way better tail to chase. If you're worrying it means you arent as confident in your value as you should be. Stop worrying.

 

[Blacksheep]

I wouldn't be bothered by it cause women are still insecure and male trainers have better poon availability to want to **** your gf. And if your gf is the one who needs a personal trainer, she's not a looker to begin with. He has way better tail to chase. If you're worrying it means you arent as confident in your value as you should be. Stop worrying.

Good point!

My only worrying right now is to invest my time and effort on a woman that doesnt deserve it. Thats why I try to analyze those behaviors and stuffs she said.

I dont deny I feel jealous, cause I would really feel insecure if she starts gym with a male personal. But I love myself, so I wouldnt stay with a woman who do that or who could potentially hurt my feelings.

Sometimes I caught myself with some confident problems. It its slowly getting better the more Im losing weight and improving my body with calisthenics and street workout.

And about value, youre right. Taking a time to think about my value and what I have to offer, I shouldnt mind so much if she didnt respect me in some situation. Im not the one losing.

When the subject is having decency of thinking about my partner's feelings before taking a decision or saying something, Im doing my part well. Now for her, she is not showing/doing it.

Like that quote: "Don't do to others what you wouldn't want them to do to you."

 

[corrector]

How would she feel if you had a hot 9/10 female personal trainer you were paying money for? That trainer guides a woman into the right positions to do certain exercises, and in the process he can touch her up, including her a$$ and say that's to put her in the correct posture for the exercise and is necessary to do. Even if nothing happens then she is still spending time with another man, no matter what the excuse is. She might like that or look forward to the time with this trainer and that's a type of emotional cheating.

 

[member160761]

Idk if its a red flag or its just some sh1t test.

She is projecting. She already cheats on you or is at least contemplating doing so. Move on.

 

[Blacksheep]

How would she feel if you had a hot 9/10 female personal trainer you were paying money for? That trainer guides a woman into the right positions to do certain exercises, and in the process he can touch her up, including her a$$ and say that's to put her in the correct posture for the exercise and is necessary to do. Even if nothing happens then she is still spending time with another man, no matter what the excuse is. She might like that or look forward to the time with this trainer and that's a type of emotional cheating.

She said she wouldnt bother if I did that. Cause they are professionals like doctors.

Im sure she said that because she knows Im quite assertive on those topics. I dont do that and I dont tolerate that.

Im at one step of nexting her. There was some yellow flags, and now this one seems to be a red flag in the future. Even she agreeing of not doing it anymore.

 

[Blacksheep]

She is projecting. She already cheats on you or is at least contemplating doing so. Move on.

Can you give me more details on that.

Also when we started dating, she had a party that she planned to go before she met me. But one day before thar party she said that she wants something serious with me.

I asked her of she would like if I went to a party alone. She said no.

I asked her why cant you just give up that party so we can stay together. She said: Im going for my friend not for the party. It would be bad to her if I gave up right now. And she went, even knowing she wouldnt want the from me, if I was the one going to a party in the same situation as her.

 

[member160761]

Can you give me more details on that.

Also when we started dating, she had a party that she planned to go before she met me. But one day before thar party she said that she wants something serious with me.

I asked her of she would like if I went to a party alone. She said no.

I asked her why cant you just give up that party so we can stay together. She said: Im going for my friend not for the party. It would be bad to her if I gave up right now. And she went, even knowing she wouldnt want the from me, if I was the one going to a party in the same situation as her.

She does not respect your boundaries. More often than not women accuse you of the thing they are doing out of guilt. Everytime I was with a girl who did this it was exactly like that. One ex-girlfriend accused me that I would cheat on her while this could not be further from my mind, but she cheated on her boyfriend with me and then we got together. Another time a girl accused me that I'd fail in my goals and not like her country (I moved to her country but not because of her), but masked it with being concerned; when I succeeded her hatred for me increased because she was failing in the things she wanted to have (me, a family man and children).

 

[LTG71]

How would she feel if you had a hot 9/10 female personal trainer you were paying money for? That trainer guides a woman into the right positions to do certain exercises, and in the process he can touch her up, including her a$$ and say that's to put her in the correct posture for the exercise and is necessary to do. Even if nothing happens then she is still spending time with another man, no matter what the excuse is. She might like that or look forward to the time with this trainer and that's a type of emotional cheating.

On the money 100%. Why can’t she find a female personal trainer? Hanging out with a guy at the gym, helping her improve her physique and confidence is a recipe for trouble. If I told my wife I hired a supermodel personal trainer, she’d sh!t her pants. The fact that you are hanging out with someone of the opposite sex, especially a hottie with a smoking physique, would not fly at all. If you are going to your female doctor for a colonoscopy, that’s an entirely different situation.

And if these online gamer chics want to show you their boobs, their is a physical barrier. Can’t touch these women through the internet. You can see boobs 24/7 on Goggle If you want. If that same chic sees you in person a few hours a week, then yeah, she’d have something to worry about. Just shows female logic and hypocrisy.

 

[Gamisch]

Hookers, strippers and breast-aurant girls are also " professionals ". The male equivalent of these occupations are (indeed) personal trainers, drug dealers, and (I kid you not!!) social workers .

Submissive =submissive. She will voluntary be submissive to a dude. Lord knows how many boxes he'll tick off for her. You will be completely at HiS mercy. Besides that, there was a thread recently about a woman who lost an extreme amount of weight and boom, supportive bf got dropped . She will be a COMPLETELY different person once she has a new body.

Women have a great talent to "don't look further " . Like they are completely oblivious to what you actually mean.She ain't stupid.

Still , most important thing I wanna say is, the key to a successful ltr will always be INDIFFERENCE. I can sum up the entire she's not yours it's just your turn cliche bible because it's true.

The only way to nip this in the bud is by demoting her status to just a plate. This PT thing will grow like a bad tumor. Its extremely disrespectful to continue this when she knows your anxious about it. And the fact she knows makes it a lost case already imo.

 

[member160761]

The male equivalent of these occupations are (indeed) personal trainers, drug dealers, and (I kid you not!!) social workers .

Spot-on. Both sexes have their poison from a similar background but in different expressions (occupations).

 

[dark god]

I've worked at a few gym over the years.. yea I would 86 this girl. Alot of the trainers do bang sum of the female clients.. ring or no ring on the finger. Like someone already stated why cant she get a female personal trainer or take a group class. Hes pretty much guiding his hands all over her body and shes paying HIM to do it lol. Think of it this way how: how many comedy movies did you see over the years where the cheating wife was banging the personal trainer, pool guy, yoga intstructor etc.. this had to happen at somepoint to someone.. and dont get me started on porn movies lol