You are exhibiting beta male behavior. This is likely problematic for you in all female interactions.
She said something like you just got home from work? it was 8pm. And I said yeah I’m very busy, full booked which was the answer the gave me when I asked her out. Lol
What should I do then ? I need to close the gap between us
find another job
Everyone in here told you how your best chances are to get with her, your father told you how to, it would have worked out. You went the other way.
your obsession with this woman is scary. I haven't read the whole thread but I am sure you have certain ideas about her in your head which are not true. you probably think she is this perfect angel and would make you so happy. she could be a horrible human being outside work. her boobs are probably fake. she could be a whiner. she might suck in bed, no pun intended. I am not judging and I just letting you know what you are doing wrong. I have also made the mistake of getting obsessed with one woman, not a good place to be. waste of time, waste of energy. you need to figure out why you are not talking to other women and solve that problem. there are millions of women out there. millions. if you have approach anxiety just go out and hang around women. don't talk to them, just be in their vicinity and then leave. then next time say hi, then next time say how is it going, slowly overcome your approach anxiety.
What’s done is done. I didn’t hear my father lol. What now? How do I act around her and there will be a party I’m going soon where she will be. Plan of action around her? Ignore her for the most part and be cordial when she comes to me or just keep flirting and seduce her?
I suggest that you don't go to the party because you will act like a weirdo and make the situation worse. but at this point I am starting to think this is a troll because nobody can be this thick headed.
It was already said to keep your distance in a respectful way. Ignoring and flirting would both overstep her boundaries she clearly stated to you ( "Hey. It was nice you are interested in me, but now it is getting very uncomfortable. I decided for someone else and that worked out, and I have no further interest in you whatsoever. I hope this doesn't effect our work relationship in a bad way though.").
That msg you quoted wasn’t really the msg he sent. But I get you. She said she was in happy relationship which I think it’s a lie maybe a fack buddy at best and she appreciates my courage I guess because she is my boss and I cold approached. And finally she said no hard feelings because I had stated before if she felt uncomfortable I wouldnt have any hard feelings.
