How do beta guys enter a relationship?

[Travel memoir21]

A lot of them got into online relationships.

Single moms checking out their profiles, starts messaging them out of the blue and before you know it, they’re in a relationship.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I often see these guys what are whipped by their girlfreind, but I wonder, how did they even enter a relationship to begin with ? Every time I feel a girl starting to one-up me I feel like I am loosing her.

You'd be surprised that being "nice" in and of itself is actually a trait most women LIKE. However there is a difference and a HUGE difference between being "nice" and being a doormat.

Likely what happens is the girl appreciates their niceness, they act chill and cool and after a few dates they have sex and things progress and it's not until a few months in where he starts acting like a doormat when his girlfriend either starts sh!t testing him due to perceived weaknesses she senses in him that she needs to clarify, or he gets desperate or needy at some point over something minor like her not answering a text within a certain time.

Then she starts losing respect for him...she doesn't break up with him but starts seeing his flaws more until it becomes normal that he acts like a doormat. Then she enjoys the power for a while until ultimately her respect level goes to zero and she dumps him, but not before trying many things to get him to dump her, of course unsuccessfully.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Just because a beta male is with a women in a relationship doesn't mean it's a good relationship.

She most likely does not respect him, walks all over him, and cheats or at least has a ton of backup options at the ready.

A lot of women like the security and validation a beta provides them even if the attraction/respect is lacking.

 

[member160761]

I often see these guys what are whipped by their girlfreind, but I wonder, how did they even enter a relationship to begin with ? Every time I feel a girl starting to one-up me I feel like I am loosing her.

I managed to recover from the one-upping only by being persistent and keeping my emotions in check. Then the girl started respecting me again. If you act flamboyant, emotional, arrogant or angry a girl will see you as the brother she competes with.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

From what I have seen they got girls by doing nice things, being patient, providing lots of free validation, being tolerant of her flakeyness. And they were the next guy in line after the bad boy hurt her.

Sorry, can't do it. I have more respect for myself.

Absolutely. It just doesn't feel natural for us woken men to act like a weak simp and why would I do all that sh!t for the leftovers of another bad boy/s. Hell nah

 

[SW15]

Just because a beta male is with a women in a relationship doesn't mean it's a good relationship.

People in relationships are excellent at hiding their problems from outsiders. A lot of friends won't know how mediocre/unfulfilling/subpar their relationships are.

Mostly everyone whose relationship has lasted 5 years or longer is now is some state of mediocrity/drudgery in their relationship. If you had any friends who married during the 2010s, like I did, their relationships have gone downhill since the wedding day. All of them are passed the 5 year point. I have known people who got married during the 2010s who are already divorced.

She most likely does not respect him, walks all over him, and cheats or at least has a ton of backup options at the ready.

A lot of women like the security and validation a beta provides them even if the attraction/respect is lacking.

Yes. This happens all the time. Plenty of married women and women in relationships don't actually cheat but can quietly survey the market and evaluate options. These aren't women who are getting cold approached much if they are married (rings tend to reduce random approaches) but these are women who are evaluating the cold DM's they get on social media and also quietly having some real life conversations. Women in longer relationships that have settled into mediocrity (think 5 years +) often do have real life means of figuring out how they can escape their monotonous relationship when they think the time is right to do that.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Men are dying of thirst in the desert and women are dying of thirst in the ocean.

 

[thermodynamic]

Men are dying of thirst in the desert and women are dying of thirst in the ocean.

Women don't have any interest in most guys. But once, you turn the tables on them and your the one choosing them ... how they simp out.

 

[SW15]

Women don't have any interest in most guys. But once, you turn the tables on them and your the one choosing them ... how they simp out.

My sense is that most women don't care when men drop out of the mating market.