OK WHEN DOES a Woman DESERVE a Dinner Date?

[BackInTheGame78]

If that’s the case, why does she have to put out first?

I'm a really good cook, so I prefer inviting them to my place to cook dinner with me over going out to a restaurant. Works much more in your favor...women find men who know how to cook really sexy usually and it's another way to separate yourself from most guys she knows.

Fun, flirty and food with some wine or drinks never fails

 

[EyeBRollin]

I'm a really good cook, so I prefer inviting them to my place to cook dinner with me over going out to a restaurant. Works much more in your favor...women find men who know how to cook really sexy usually and it's another way to separate yourself from most guys she knows.

That part is fair I just tactically disagree with going that route before taking her on a “real” date. Reason being is you are limiting the pool of women to just sloots. Yes, if she comes to your house before going on an actual date she is a sloot.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That part is fair I just tactically disagree with going that route before taking her on a “real” date. Reason being is you are limiting the pool of women to just sloots. Yes, if she comes to your house before going on an actual date she is a sloot.

That's usually not until the 3rd date...

Exception was during COVID lockdowns when nothing was open and I was having great success with simply asking them over to cook dinner with me after talking to them on the phone once or twice...did it 6 times and banged 4 of them that way.

 

[2Rocky]

I'm a really good cook, so I prefer inviting them to my place to cook dinner with me over going out to a restaurant. Works much more in your favor...women find men who know how to cook really sexy usually and it's another way to separate yourself from most guys she knows.

Fun, flirty and food with some wine or drinks never fails

I still remember the girl in college who invited me over to bring a couple of deer steaks and she cooked me dinner. I was WAAAAY too nice of a guy and never made a move on her there....in her apartment.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I still remember the girl in college who invited me over to bring a couple of deer steaks and she cooked me dinner. I was WAAAAY too nice of a guy and never made a move on her there....in her apartment.

Oh man...that was the greenest of green lights for you.

In her mind she is thinking "I set him up with a slow pitch right down the middle of the plate, what do I have to do, go get the bat and hit a home run too??"

 

[BeExcellent]

I selected the last choice answer. If it’s something you enjoy, are going to do anyway and some company to enjoy would be nice? Why the hell not?

But that’s a different vibe than someone trying to get laid. Most of the places I go start around $100 per person with tip. And if we are feeling fancy it might be over $300. I like high end steakhouses, great wine or drinks and oysters. That’s not cheap. Eating out has gone WAY up. A 10 oz steak many places that used to cost $45 now will set you back $60. Add a glass of wine for $20 and you are at $80, and that’s before you have a second drink or get an app or a side. But this is what I do anyway so why not do with company?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Well I don’t think it’s worth monetary investment - if money makes it wet someone willing to stuff Benjamin’s in it can have it. That’s not attraction.

Her vagina ain’t worth anything if she giving it away for free.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I think every guy over the age of 21 should have ONE woman in his life he is happy to spend money on to share dinner with once a week. It doesn't have to be a love/sex interest... Could be your mom, sister, daughter or someone else that's not a woman...

if a woman is a prospect I'd invite her along on something I'm going to do anyway. The Newspaper is full of free events like music in the park, Gallery shows, happy hour specials, Farmers markets, etc.

My "date nights" ended up being Wednesdays and Sundays after training runs believe it or not. We'd grab beers after 3 miles on Wednesday, and Sunday's long runs we'd go watch football at the sportsbar. I'd literally meet a woman right after a run and make plans for a date that night. I'd shower, then meet her in the early afternoon. Too early for dinner, maybe a picnic in the park. Post run excuse to go for a hot tub would have been perfect in this case since it was technically a second date.

'nother date idea... go to the Horse racing track, bet $2 per race, pay 5 bucks for grandstand seats. Lots of movement as you go to the saddling paddock to look at the horses, she's always looking over your shoulder at the racing form, great kino...

Summertime - County fairs. Food is gonna be Muey Expensive this year. Eat before you go. Meet in late afternoon near a grocery store with a deli. Share a 12 inch sandwich for a late lunch/early dinner. grab wine in a can. Picnic.

Bar Trivia nights. Especially midweek.

This just sounds like too much effort to put into a girl you haven't even met yet lol. It's easier for me to just say let's go here or there tonight at 8. There are a lot of restaurants that do happy hour specials at certain times. If 100 dollars is going to break your bank account, then you shouldn't be dating lol. Women can tell the difference between a poor man vs a frugal man lol.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Yes, if she comes to your house before going on an actual date she is a sloot.

Yes in many cases, if sex is on the table. If you w chatted a while and you play your cards right as a non-thirsty/pushy guy you can do it. It does tend to lead to sex in many cases but not always. I’ve had situations where it just made sense chronologically and it may have led to hottubbing and a make out session but not sex, it eventually does though.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Well I don’t think it’s worth monetary investment - if money makes it wet someone willing to stuff Benjamin’s in it can have it. That’s not attraction.

Then all you will get are sloots.

This forum really is a hotbed for catch-22s.

We say we can’t find it quality woman, yet drop women that won’t put out on the first date, which also can’t cost any money. Good luck with that.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Then all you will get are sloots.

This forum really is a hotbed for catch-22s.

We say we can’t find it quality woman, yet drop women that won’t put out on the first date, which also can’t cost any money. Good luck with that.

Most guys on the internet are pumping and dumping 9s and 10s on first dates at their place with a cheap bottle of wine. In addition, to them making a 30 mile one way drive to their moms house in the sticks because they have mouth game Yo!

 

[member160292]

Nothing dries up the vag more than cheap/frugal men

I'm glad the last option is making a comeback

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Can you accept the fact that your experience may be different than other folks?

This isn’t about saying that anyone is better or worse at the game, it’s just that one’s personal experience isn’t always the same as the next person’s.

I don’t decry the state of women here for the most part, i accept it as reality; although I certainly think that these days it is harder to find a quality woman, but quality is not synonymous with dropping money on a chick, in fact that’s transactional sex and resource extraction if you want to mince words aka p4p.

I too have dropped cash on quality dinner dates, and outings we all have.

Then all you will get are sloots.

This forum really is a hotbed for catch-22s.

We say we can’t find it quality woman, yet drop women that won’t put out on the first date, which also can’t cost any money. Good luck with that.

 

[thermodynamic]

I take girls out for food, but it is always something cheaper. I like to go out for food, and I am okay with the occasional expensive place, so I would do a dinner date with a girlfreind.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

In a big city it’s usually trendy to go to “dives” for food. They’re typically lower cost until they’re “discovered”, the. They become unbearably expensive and impossible to get into b/c of the brogrammers and instahoes.

A good way to find out about them is to get hooked into the food scene via a young aspiring chef, they usually know where these places are etc.

Its cheaper and being “in the know” makes you of higher value to your target.

 

[SW15]

Most of the places I go start around $100 per person with tip.

That's ridiculous. So overpriced. I can feed myself with non-processed ingredients from the grocery store for a week or more with $100.

I'm a really good cook, so I prefer inviting them to my place to cook dinner with me over going out to a restaurant. Works much more in your favor...women find men who know how to cook really sexy usually and it's another way to separate yourself from most guys she knows.

Fun, flirty and food with some wine or drinks never fails

This is how I do things. I like the short walk from my dining room to my bedroom.

 

[EyeBRollin]

That's ridiculous. So overpriced. I can feed myself with non-processed ingredients from the grocery store for a week or more with $100.

You’re missing the point of going out to dinner…

 

[SW15]

if she comes to your house before going on an actual date she is a sloot.

It is quite difficult to get a woman to come over to your place after a 5-15 minute conversation in a public place (non-bar approaching) or swipe app interaction. Many men are able to get the same night lay from a bar interaction and sometimes those same night lays lead to something. Sometimes the same night lays are only one time lays. I think same night lays from nightlife venues tend to be more of one time lays than multiple time lays.

You’re missing the point of going out to dinner…

Perhaps there's not much of a point to it. I haven't liked it since I've upgraded my cooking skill as a result of living on my own for a while. I've been on enough dinner dates and enough dinners/drinks with male friends too.