FR: Solo daygame, some hesitations.

[Jesse Pinkman]

So I've been borderline out of it, on and off, and not sticking to my daygame schedule as usual. I used to do it every weekend but then come to find that life sort of went sideways for me in the past few weeks. Lots going on, sleeping poorly, sick more than I'd like to be, and so I had to take a bit of a break. Wing texts me in the morning saying he pulled last night and the girl has nothing going on Saturday so he is going to go for a round 2. Decided, after doing some chores, to go out and do some daygame.

In recent months, I have decided to change the way I daygame. I have told myself that if I do 5 approaches, then no need to worry about doing anymore approaches (can be choosy). However, if I ask for 3 closes or get a close, I am free to excuse myself during the day. It sort of forces me to advance from just approaching to instead doing quality approaches.

I arrive and I wander around a bit, not too many opportunities at the start. However, as I am crossing the street, I see this one woman in a black dress walking slowly in the other direction. I go and walk a few steps ahead of her. Soon after that, I begin my approach by telling her how I was about to go to a Starbucks but thought she was cute and had to come say hey.

"Aww thank you!" she said, with a smile. She was blushing a bit and so I introduce myself and ask for her name. She tells me her name and apparently she said she is actually Lebanese but visiting. I tell her it must be from somewhere in Europe like Norway instead of just Lebanon, she said it was. We chat for a bit but she says she has to go. I don't get to built that much rapport but do ask her out for coffee. Says she leaves in a couple of days, dang it! Surprisingly she gives me her Instagram and then like five minutes later, asks to follow me back.

Fulfilling to get a close but obviously, doesn't turn into anything. Then I walk around a bit more and go to a nearby mall. I am on the escalator and approach a Latina who doesn't speak English (likely she wasn't interested).

I mean technically at this point, I can go home because I technically got a close but nah. I keep at it and somehow, I am finding myself hesitating a bit.

The way I do daygame and some hesitations.

I don't immediately chase after a girl. My wing will occasionally run across the road if he sees a girl he thinks is cute but I don't do that. I usually just take it slower and try to make it smooth. I think this is honestly costing me some chances at a few approaches because I care too much about being perceived as a pickup guy.

At one point I was outside about to go in a certain direction at a crosswalk. There is this hot blonde with aviators on and now this is where it gets tricky. I didn't want to make it that obvious that I was going to approach her but approaching at a crosswalk is tough. Maybe I wait for her to cross and then open? No that would be tricky. I way overthought it and missed an approach opportunity.

It happened to me three times today where I was done with a spot and right when I was about to head out, a super hot girl comes in but is walking past me into a crowd so I overthink it. Definitely something with my game I need to workout here.

I am about to go cross a street but notice a hot blonde milf walk behind me and in the other direction. I think for a bit, follow, and then open only to be turned down.

Moving on.

I tell myself I have done 3 approaches, lets do either 2 more approaches or ask for two more closes and then call it a day. I walk around the area and see this really hot Latin girl ahead of me who I had seen before. I go up to her, talk to her, and compliment her. She is receptive and all but tells me she is tired from a workout. I tell her that I am exhausted a bit from walking around all day with friends who want to jump around so much. She wonders if I am a tourist and I tell her I live in the area. A few moments later, I try to close her and she is cool with it but then tells me she has a boyfriend too. I get the IG but I should have backed out.

Definitely more of a day of decent momentum for daygame but need to work on so much more stuff. Need to screen better. Just glad to get back at it with some consistency starting in the weekends moving forward.

Now I am going to go to a friend's place to watch the UFC event!

 

[corrector]

However, as I am crossing the street, I see this one woman in a black dress walking slowly in the other direction. I go and walk a few steps ahead of her. Soon after that, I begin my approach by telling her how I was about to go to a Starbucks but thought she was cute and had to come say hey.

So you altered your walk path and went infront of her? If she was walking faster/more purposeful would you have gone for the approach anyway? Did you make eye contact with her, or did she first notice you before you approached? Just trying to picture this. This was all on a crosswalk in the middle of the road? I'd worry about looking like a crazy person with that type of approach.

"Aww thank you!" she said, with a smile. She was blushing a bit and so I introduce myself and ask for her name. She tells me her name and apparently she said she is actually Lebanese but visiting. I tell her it must be from somewhere in Europe like Norway instead of just Lebanon, she said it was. We chat for a bit but she says she has to go. I don't get to built that much rapport but do ask her out for coffee. Says she leaves in a couple of days, dang it! Surprisingly she gives me her Instagram and then like five minutes later, asks to follow me back.

How long did you chat for? Follow you on instagram (ie not follow you home?)...okay.

Fulfilling to get a close but obviously, doesn't turn into anything. Then I walk around a bit more and go to a nearby mall. I am on the escalator and approach a Latina who doesn't speak English (likely she wasn't interested).

You approach people on crosswalks and escalators? Is that part of your strategy? Are you walking backwards on the escalator while approaching to stay in pace? You think she lied about not speaking English?

I mean technically at this point, I can go home because I technically got a close but nah. I keep at it and somehow, I am finding myself hesitating a bit.

The instagram close!

At one point I was outside about to go in a certain direction at a crosswalk. There is this hot blonde with aviators on and now this is where it gets tricky. I didn't want to make it that obvious that I was going to approach her but approaching at a crosswalk is tough. Maybe I wait for her to cross and then open? No that would be tricky. I way overthought it and missed an approach opportunity.

What is the obsession with crosswalks and elevators?

I tell myself I have done 3 approaches, lets do either 2 more approaches or ask for two more closes and then call it a day. I walk around the area and see this really hot Latin girl ahead of me who I had seen before. I go up to her, talk to her, and compliment her. She is receptive and all but tells me she is tired from a workout. I tell her that I am exhausted a bit from walking around all day with friends who want to jump around so much. She wonders if I am a tourist and I tell her I live in the area. A few moments later, I try to close her and she is cool with it but then tells me she has a boyfriend too. I get the IG but I should have backed out.

The women you approached sounded like they were decent with you. There is nothing that sounds discouraging about the approaches despite the fact there was no closes.

Definitely more of a day of decent momentum for daygame but need to work on so much more stuff. Need to screen better. Just glad to get back at it with some consistency starting in the weekends moving forward.

Now I am going to go to a friend's place to watch the UFC event!

How can you screen? If the woman is alone and not with a guy, you don't really know who you are approaching until you chat with them a bit. It sounded like no screening would have changed anything. Maybe try to stay away from approaching at cross-walks and elevators so you don't look crazy? These girls think you have a screw-loose and are worried about getting involved.

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

yoooooo

USMAN GOT KNOCKED OUT BRO!

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Don't take half measures, Jesse.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

yoooooo

USMAN GOT KNOCKED OUT BRO!

That is what happens when you take half measures, Jesse.

 

[SW15]

The way I do daygame and some hesitations.

I don't immediately chase after a girl. My wing will occasionally run across the road if he sees a girl he thinks is cute but I don't do that. I usually just take it slower and try to make it smooth. I think this is honestly costing me some chances at a few approaches because I care too much about being perceived as a pickup guy.

It sort of forces me to advance from just approaching to instead doing quality approaches.

I get the idea that you're trying to do better approaches in non-bar approaching that result in arranging dates. It sometimes doesn't work out that way. There is something to be said for spam approaching if you can handle the massive amounts of rejection. Even when screening for quality for sniper approaches, there's still rejection. Sniper approaching might improve percentage of approaches that result in an arranged date by a few percentage points. I'm not sure what the actual percentage outcome is with spam vs. sniper. I'm not sure if those few percentage points are worth lower volume.

Also, I've never daygamed with a wing. To me, non-bar approaching seems more like a solo venture.