Jesse Pinkman
Master Don Juan
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So I have received a lot of PMs asking me to share more about what has worked for me and what hasn't when it comes to women and even social life. I actually wanted to post this because in almost all male spaces whether it is red pill, manosphere, or whatever, I see very few men who are able to do this. In fact, I'd wager to say that 90% of men in these spaces will never experience dating success because they are unable to do this very thing successfully. While I don't consider myself a slayer or anything, this is what took me from borderline incel to having success with women and with social life.
Be okay and even happy with not having success with women and dating.
It's that simple.
Think about it, whenever someone tries to press you or aggressively sell you something, you want to get away from them because they are coming off as needy.
Most incels, dudes in the red pill spaces, and pickup guys come off as needy without even realizing it. Even if you are trying not to be needy, people usually sniff out your thirst and desperation. I mean these guys are claiming to be red pilled but then a week later, ask about how to approach a relationship with one girl in particular. Then you have hordes of guys crying about how miserable they are due to not having a life partner or not being married at their age because of the way society is going.
Deep down inside, all of these dudes are needy even if they outwardly claim to reject women and not need them. The amount of time and energy these guys are taking to debate gender politics and talk about how crazy women are, that's energy they are investing into hoping women want them. Deep down inside, they want female attention but are just masking it over some fake alpha persona.
However, when I stopped caring that much about women, saw everything as a game, and didn't care much for female attention; it came to me. With social life, this was even more evident. As soon as I stopped wanting to fit in and be a part of any in crowd, people came and wanted to be friends with me.
People are more likely to want you and to want to be around you when they sense that you do not want them or need their approval.
Women are more likely to go for men that aren't crazy about the idea of wanting a woman in their life.
"But Jesse you daygame bro WTF!"
Lately, I have been daygaming and to be honest, it's because it is freaking fun and freeing. It feels good and almost rebellious to go out, talk to hot women, and get the steps in. I've lost 15 lbs by all of the walking I have done and noticed that some of my wings are also cool guys I can get drinks with afterwards. If I get rejected from a woman, I laugh it off because it's just fun. I find daygame a far better use of my time than playing golf on weekends or doing boring dad hobbies. I am not attached to the outcome, it is just fun and I love sharing stories with you all when I can.
I've met amazing women through daygame and been okay with the idea of the relationship not being more than a fling. Learning daygame has also made me bolder and more confident in a lot of social interactions. If you can walk up to an attractive woman and be confident then you can be bold in most social interactions.
Be okay and even happy with not having success with women and dating.
It's that simple.
Think about it, whenever someone tries to press you or aggressively sell you something, you want to get away from them because they are coming off as needy.
Most incels, dudes in the red pill spaces, and pickup guys come off as needy without even realizing it. Even if you are trying not to be needy, people usually sniff out your thirst and desperation. I mean these guys are claiming to be red pilled but then a week later, ask about how to approach a relationship with one girl in particular. Then you have hordes of guys crying about how miserable they are due to not having a life partner or not being married at their age because of the way society is going.
Deep down inside, all of these dudes are needy even if they outwardly claim to reject women and not need them. The amount of time and energy these guys are taking to debate gender politics and talk about how crazy women are, that's energy they are investing into hoping women want them. Deep down inside, they want female attention but are just masking it over some fake alpha persona.
However, when I stopped caring that much about women, saw everything as a game, and didn't care much for female attention; it came to me. With social life, this was even more evident. As soon as I stopped wanting to fit in and be a part of any in crowd, people came and wanted to be friends with me.
People are more likely to want you and to want to be around you when they sense that you do not want them or need their approval.
Women are more likely to go for men that aren't crazy about the idea of wanting a woman in their life.
"But Jesse you daygame bro WTF!"
Lately, I have been daygaming and to be honest, it's because it is freaking fun and freeing. It feels good and almost rebellious to go out, talk to hot women, and get the steps in. I've lost 15 lbs by all of the walking I have done and noticed that some of my wings are also cool guys I can get drinks with afterwards. If I get rejected from a woman, I laugh it off because it's just fun. I find daygame a far better use of my time than playing golf on weekends or doing boring dad hobbies. I am not attached to the outcome, it is just fun and I love sharing stories with you all when I can.
I've met amazing women through daygame and been okay with the idea of the relationship not being more than a fling. Learning daygame has also made me bolder and more confident in a lot of social interactions. If you can walk up to an attractive woman and be confident then you can be bold in most social interactions.
