how to stop needing to be liked?

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how to stop needing to be accepted?
 

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It's a waste of energy. Realize that any thoughts from other people don't matter. Most people are too consumed with themselves to care about anything you do. If you do something embarrassing, it will be forgotten about in a day. Most people are more worried about what you think about them than they care about you. Practice being a goof ball. Say and do risky things. You'll quickly realize that it's not a big deal, and at the end of they day no one really cares. Any negative energy or attention you get is just jealousy, because people truly envy people who can relax and just be themselves, because most people can't.
 

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how to stop needing to be accepted?
The need to be liked / accepted starts at a young age by low self esteem. The ‘need’ is to fill that existing internal void, and most people as they age evolve beyond that need with their life accomplishments …
 

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By realizing that the average person is a retard. Why would you care about the opinions of retards - the very same people who thought getting vaccinated was a good idea?
 
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By realizing that the average person is a retard. Why would you care about the opinions of retards - the very same people who thought getting vaccinated was a good idea?
I can't completely blame others or make fun of them for getting experimental gene therapy. The propaganda behind it was massive. I mean when you have your own doctor telling you "100% effective, 0 side effects" and "you are going to die if you don't get it" it's hard to not cave into the pressure.
But anyway, I still don't know how to stop trying to be accepted. My worst fear is looking weird. I try everything I can to look normal.
 

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Stop expecting anything in return for things that you do.

Stop being ashamed of who you are.
 

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Get some good herb and start laughing at everything.
 

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Like yourself & love yourself. Be your own best friend.

Once you learn to do that you will not care what others think.
 
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