My FAP Dilema

[Mjolnir21]

Good day members of the SoSuave network. I'm 21 and I am seeking advice on masturbation.

After googling, I've learnt it only becomes a problem when it affects your social or work life, on that front I'm still okay. I'm not taking breaks at work to beat one off, or running late for a party because I was rubbing one out.

How much is too much?
And how do I slow down?

I'm afraid of getting older and then getting Erectile dysfunction. I'd say i do it Max 3 times a week.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You are jacking off 3 times a week, how many times are you banging women a week?

 

[Mjolnir21]

You are jacking off 3 times a week, how many times are you banging women a week?

ZERO. I used to live in a country in southern Africa, after reading Rollo Tommassi's book and Art of Seduction, pulling women was not an issue.

BUT I just moved to a country in South East Asia to persue my studies as an Engineer in May. It is not as easy as back home and I'm trying to adjust. There is minimal hookup culture, the number of unplugged men here is terrifying. I also stay in a hostel that does not allow visitors to my room (if I sneak in I get fined $100) so all the ladies I have to pull need to have their own place or I need to AirBnB.

The advantage is I'm black and theres like less than 20 black men in this city. I'm also 6'2 so I'm taller than most, I have recently been going to the gym to get rid of my beer belly.

I managed to pull 1 girl in the 2months that i have been here.

 

[SW15]

No porn and no fap is a key part of gaming well.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Stopping the fap is the key to getting you out and finding women. If you have no release through fapping, you'll need to have it through actual sex.

If you keep fapping everytime you feel horny you'll never have any motivation to actually go out and find women.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

It's ok to fap on occasion if you need to clear your head. Everyday is a bad idea.

 

[lost_blackbird]

If you keep fapping everytime you feel horny you'll never have any motivation to actually go out and find women.

Can confirm this is true. It absolutely works a treat.
Other benefits include not wasting money on dates that aren't going to lead to anything,
no unwanted dramas and arguments, complete freedom to do whatever you please
spending all of your time doing whatever it is that makes you actually happy and best of all
(unlike using escorts) it's completely free and very time and location efficient. Recommended.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Can confirm this is true. It absolutely works a treat.
Other benefits include not wasting money on dates that aren't going to lead to anything,
no unwanted dramas and arguments, complete freedom to do whatever you please
spending all of your time doing whatever it is that makes you actually happy and best of all
(unlike using escorts) it's completely free and very time and location efficient. Recommended.

Fap your wings

 

[Murk]

I used to fap then cancel dates, that release oh man, your desire to peruse a woman is gone as soon as you nut. So stay away from porn and masturbation especially if you have no girls to bang.

Just battle yourself to go as long as possible, nut once a week to keep everything in check/regulated then challenge yourself to go another week. Once a week is enough to keep that fire in your belly still.

I used to fap multiple times a day everyday for about 15 years, no ED issues. It did make cumming from sex difficult. Now I don’t watch porn at all, porn turns me off (I think I rewired my brain), I masturbate 1-2 times a week sometimes don’t masturbate for 2-3 weeks at a time, I think it’s really the porn that does the long term damage. The ejaculation just keeps your hunger for pvssy suppressed, if you want to get laid you need to stop busting nuts alone in your bedroom.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Can confirm this is true. It absolutely works a treat.
Other benefits include not wasting money on dates that aren't going to lead to anything,
no unwanted dramas and arguments, complete freedom to do whatever you please
spending all of your time doing whatever it is that makes you actually happy and best of all
(unlike using escorts) it's completely free and very time and location efficient. Recommended.

Not everyone is a eunuch like you are apparently.

 

[f(x)]

I find that adequate sleep, proper nutrition, and weight training combined with no fap provides a natural confidence for me to approach random women in public.

If I binge on porn and jerk off too much, I find it more difficult to maintain eye contact and present a confident, masculine frame. I also tend to stay home more often during these periods.

You have to nut to keep your prostate healthy. Once a week, without porn is okay.

Don’t use any weird toys like vr or fleshlights. I can’t imagine a first time experience with a woman after months or years of hi tech wanking. In my opinion it’s another branch of sexual identity “technosexual?”

 

[lost_blackbird]

Not everyone is a eunuch like you are apparently.

It's over for Eunuchcels.... Oh wait, hang on....

Now you're just being rude and impolite.

 

[DonJuanjr]

Don’t use any weird toys like vr or fleshlights. I can’t imagine a first time experience with a woman after months or years of hi tech wanking. In my opinion it’s another branch of sexual identity “technosexual?”

Fleshlights or torsos have their place. It's actually a better way ween one's self off of masturbating. First off you can't deathgrip, which affects dopamine, second, it kills the visual dopamine aspect of looking at porn, if you do it with mental imagery instead. Using a fleshlight or torso is like eating a bland meal.

 

[Bible_Belt]

It's OK if you're in San Diego

 

[Barrister]

Can confirm this is true. It absolutely works a treat.
Other benefits include not wasting money on dates that aren't going to lead to anything,
no unwanted dramas and arguments, complete freedom to do whatever you please
spending all of your time doing whatever it is that makes you actually happy and best of all
(unlike using escorts) it's completely free and very time and location efficient. Recommended.

We get it already. You don't like women and supposedly have no interest in sex. What is the point of still being on a pickup site? I am genuinely curious.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

We get it already. You don't like women and supposedly have no interest in sex. What is the point of still being on a pickup site? I am genuinely curious.

I have no clue...trying to make this seem normal maybe?

 

[Murk]

Man said hi-tech wanking haha