milf change of heart

[espanish]

one of the weirdest things. if you thought you have seen it all, think again.

I was talking to this milf at a department store. we chatted for about 15 minutes. then they announced in the speaker store closing. I said you want to exchange numbers so we can keep in touch? she said yes. gave me her real name and real number. I headed for the escalators and was going down. milf was behind me, maybe 6 steps behind me. from up there, she says out of the blue, without calling my name first (as if i am somehow supposed to know she is behind me) "can you double check, I want to make sure you saved my number correctly" I said "ok" and took out my phone and repeated the number back to her. she says 2, not 3. I edited the contact in my phone. meanwhile I am thinking "i am pretty damn sure she said 3" (I don't mishear things).
i get home and check her number. the second number doesn't exist. the first number resolves to her first name and last name.
I am not here to ask why? because I dont care (I stopped trying to make sense of women's actions) but wanted to see if you have also encountered such experiences or if this is really weird.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

It doesn't seem that weird given that you left the future interaction open-ended. I suspect if you'd asked her out for something specific (a drink, coffee, local event, etc) she wouldn't have been to flighty.

With the attention they get from young guys these days and the way society is heading, I think we will see an increase in weird behavior from Milfs going forward. Honking, dog parent inquisitions, and real number regret will seem like the good old days.

Maybe a good phucking is all the milforcism these women need, but they are sh1tting that bed before it's even made.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Her interest was weak in the first place. Then she observed you from behind for several seconds. There is an odd phenomenon that exists when viewing people from behind. Most of us don’t look flattering from behind, and the observer tends to assess a person much more harshly from behind.
On the escalator she probably thought “Wtf did I just do” and needed to do what she did in order to bail out.

Next time you follow a person you know from behind, take note of how you find yourself assessing them more harshly than from the front. It’s an odd aspect of human nature.

 

[SW15]

It is a bit of a strange interaction but you didn't close her well. You needed to make a specific date plan at the 10-15 minute mark of the conversation. It's also plausible that her interest level was weak to begin with but asking her for a specific plan would have determined that.

She's a dead prospect right now anyway.

 

[Atom Smasher]

“Would you like to give you my number so we can keep in touch” is on the weak side. Better is, “Id like to continue this conversation at another time. Give me your number and I’ll arrange it.”
The actual words don’t matter… it’s all about giving her the command and telling her what YOU want.
Women want to be be commanded by a take-charge guy.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

one of the weirdest things. if you thought you have seen it all, think again.

I was talking to this milf at a department store. we chatted for about 15 minutes. then they announced in the speaker store closing. I said you want to exchange numbers so we can keep in touch? she said yes. gave me her real name and real number. I headed for the escalators and was going down. milf was behind me, maybe 6 steps behind me. from up there, she says out of the blue, without calling my name first (as if i am somehow supposed to know she is behind me) "can you double check, I want to make sure you saved my number correctly" I said "ok" and took out my phone and repeated the number back to her. she says 2, not 3. I edited the contact in my phone. meanwhile I am thinking "i am pretty damn sure she said 3" (I don't mishear things).
i get home and check her number. the second number doesn't exist. the first number resolves to her first name and last name.
I am not here to ask why? because I dont care (I stopped trying to make sense of women's actions) but wanted to see if you have also encountered such experiences or if this is really weird.

Nothing really weird. She wasn't interested. Women sometimes give you their number to get rid of you because it's safer for them. They have had bad experiences with guys who they told no to either verbally or physically abusing them, or begging and trying to get the number after being told no. All in all, they can reject or block you safely from a distance if they aren't interested.

She thought she would make it easier on herself by leaving you with a fake number so she didn't even have to block you

 

[bat soup]

one of the weirdest things. if you thought you have seen it all, think again.

I was talking to this milf at a department store. we chatted for about 15 minutes. then they announced in the speaker store closing. I said you want to exchange numbers so we can keep in touch? she said yes. gave me her real name and real number. I headed for the escalators and was going down. milf was behind me, maybe 6 steps behind me. from up there, she says out of the blue, without calling my name first (as if i am somehow supposed to know she is behind me) "can you double check, I want to make sure you saved my number correctly" I said "ok" and took out my phone and repeated the number back to her. she says 2, not 3. I edited the contact in my phone. meanwhile I am thinking "i am pretty damn sure she said 3" (I don't mishear things).
i get home and check her number. the second number doesn't exist. the first number resolves to her first name and last name.
I am not here to ask why? because I dont care (I stopped trying to make sense of women's actions) but wanted to see if you have also encountered such experiences or if this is really weird.

Women change their minds every 5 minutes based on their emotional state. Maybe going down the escalator she suddenly remembered that she was married and signed a cast-iron prenup.

 

[Mike32ct]

Older women can be fickle too.

They toggle between “I don’t do THAT anymore” and “I need to show I still got it.”

 

[espanish]

Her interest was weak in the first place. Then she observed you from behind for several seconds. There is an odd phenomenon that exists when viewing people from behind. Most of us don’t look flattering from behind, and the observer tends to assess a person much more harshly from behind.
On the escalator she probably thought “Wtf did I just do” and needed to do what she did in order to bail out.

Next time you follow a person you know from behind, take note of how you find yourself assessing them more harshly than from the front. It’s an odd aspect of human nature.

then how do you explain this: when I see a girl from behind I am like "wow" but then when I see her face i am disappointed.

 

[The Duke]

Women never know what they want. They are all prisoners to their emotions to some degree. And those emotions can change quickly.

Yes I have experienced weird situations like this. It comes with the territory with those who use their emotions to reason.

Another example as to why you take what they say with a grain of salt.

 

[2Rocky]

then how do you explain this: when I see a girl from behind I am like "wow" but then when I see her face i am disappointed.

She is "Good from a far but far from good". Your imagination is an optimist...

 

[Rainman4707]

Her interest was weak in the first place. Then she observed you from behind for several seconds. There is an odd phenomenon that exists when viewing people from behind. Most of us don’t look flattering from behind, and the observer tends to assess a person much more harshly from behind.
On the escalator she probably thought “Wtf did I just do” and needed to do what she did in order to bail out.

Next time you follow a person you know from behind, take note of how you find yourself assessing them more harshly than from the front. It’s an odd aspect of human nature.

I cam see where you're coming from about the "behind view" very good point. I do however enjo

Her interest was weak in the first place. Then she observed you from behind for several seconds. There is an odd phenomenon that exists when viewing people from behind. Most of us don’t look flattering from behind, and the observer tends to assess a person much more harshly from behind.
On the escalator she probably thought “Wtf did I just do” and needed to do what she did in order to bail out.

Next time you follow a person you know from behind, take note of how you find yourself assessing them more harshly than from the front. It’s an odd aspect of human nature.

Good point about people not looking as good "from behind" i can see where you're coming from with that. However, i work as a door supervisor and do admire a glance at a good booty or two. "Juicy" from doja cat comes to mind.......

I keep it juicy juicy, I eat that lunch (yeah)
She keep that booty booty, she keep that plump (yeah yeah)
That natural beauty beauty, yeah, yeah
If you could see it from the front, wait 'til you see it from the
Back, back, back, back, back (wait 'til you see it from the)
Back, back, yeah, back, back, back (wait 'til you see it from the)
Back, back, back, back, back (wait 'til you see it from the)
If you could see it from the front, wait 'til you see it from the back

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I cam see where you're coming from about the "behind view" very good point. I do however enjo

Good point about people not looking as good "from behind" i can see where you're coming from with that. However, i work as a door supervisor and do admire a glance at a good booty or two. "Juicy" from doja cat comes to mind.......

I keep it juicy juicy, I eat that lunch (yeah)
She keep that booty booty, she keep that plump (yeah yeah)
That natural beauty beauty, yeah, yeah
If you could see it from the front, wait 'til you see it from the
Back, back, back, back, back (wait 'til you see it from the)
Back, back, yeah, back, back, back (wait 'til you see it from the)
Back, back, back, back, back (wait 'til you see it from the)
If you could see it from the front, wait 'til you see it from the back

Kudos good sir if you can think of lyrics involving eating lunch and juicy asses, and still prefer the view from behind.

 

[Rainman4707]

Kudos good sir if you can think of lyrics involving eating lunch and juicy asses, and still prefer the view from behind.

Definatley. Oh yes. I'm not shy.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

It is common but not too common.

We've discussed this in the past but women are very situational and dictated by the moment. You got her in a good moment, then she might have felt different 5 secs later. This is probably more prone to happen with single mothers, they prob would second guess everything all the time and who can blame them?

One test that I do, is that when I am getting the number I intentionally type one of the numbers wrong. Then I repeat back the number, if she corrects me then she gave me not only the right number but she is genuinely interested and less likely to change her mind. However, who knows how she is feeling the next day or the next. You control what you can control, you approached, got a conversation, and got the number. That you can control and you did, the outcome is what it is.

Modern Man Advice

 

[ManlyMan]

one of the weirdest things. if you thought you have seen it all, think again.

I was talking to this milf at a department store. we chatted for about 15 minutes. then they announced in the speaker store closing. I said you want to exchange numbers so we can keep in touch? she said yes. gave me her real name and real number. I headed for the escalators and was going down. milf was behind me, maybe 6 steps behind me. from up there, she says out of the blue, without calling my name first (as if i am somehow supposed to know she is behind me) "can you double check, I want to make sure you saved my number correctly" I said "ok" and took out my phone and repeated the number back to her. she says 2, not 3. I edited the contact in my phone. meanwhile I am thinking "i am pretty damn sure she said 3" (I don't mishear things).
i get home and check her number. the second number doesn't exist. the first number resolves to her first name and last name.
I am not here to ask why? because I dont care (I stopped trying to make sense of women's actions) but wanted to see if you have also encountered such experiences or if this is really weird.

It is because she thought it was awkward that you took the escalator with her and didn't say a word to her (Even though you did not know she was behind you). Next time just try to stay calibrated.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

It is because she thought it was awkward that you took the escalator with her and didn't say a word to her (Even though you did not know she was behind you). Next time just try to stay calibrated.

This is where not giving a F can hurt you. OP is burned out and checked out as soon as the convo was over and objective accomplished. If you were into the milf and into the game you'd be more thorough. As @Pan87 says, the female has to think there's some chance of a meaningful relationship. If you're not "high" from the interaction, it's going to show as you're leaving and she's going to pick up on it. Seems like OP didn't even bother faking it lol.

 

[SW15]

Women are naturally flakey and can change their minds rapidly when it comes to Men and writing Men off - symptom of female abundance when they are in their prime. If a girl is low interest you just gotta move on because she’ll be too abundant to ever re-consider or re-visit a guy who she’s written off.

Yes, this is perfect. I have been flaked on a ridiculous amount. Female abundance is the flip side of the coin of male thirst.

In this situation, the woman wasn't even in her prime. She was some 30 something post prime woman. It's actually quite shocking how much demand there is for 30 something pusssy there is these days. A 34 year old on a swipe app gets as much attention as when she was 20 and not using any online dating technology. It bends the aging curve immensely. Women in their 30s now get approached less in real life than 10 years earlier in their lives. A woman's real life approaches after 30 are dependent on multiple factors.