When a woman asks you what your job is even before you get familiar

[Who Dares Win]

This is probably the only question that pisses me off enough that I instantly lose any attraction and any desire for that women...I want nothing to do with her.

When a man asks what do you do for a living, he wants to know how close you are to him for possible collaborations or if you can match his life style in case you become friends or at most if you are a threat when it comes of competing for women.

When a woman in the initial stages like after a cold approach or being introduced from common friends ask that, she is basically asking what is your rank in the macro dominance hierarchy and if you're important enough for her to bother to talk to you.

She is basically showing that she considers you attractive enough to be worth a test but not attractive enough for her unless there is a further bonus or worse if you can be useful for perks or free meals.

This is probably the biggest test a man can make to gauge the genuine interest of a woman and her level of raw attraction.

Of all the girls I either dated or banged that found me genuinely attractive, the work talking came after hours or even the morning after.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

This can not only denote mild or low interest, it can also be indicative of her dating approach. Many women behaving like this are "processors" who are trying to tire-kick as many men as humanly possible. If she's not even concerned about creating a relational interaction at the start (i.e., a positive interaction for the both of you as opposed to her solely trying to weed out information), then it's a super-huge red flag. And if you do decide to pursue this woman for whatever reason, you're chances of getting anywhere are about 10% of what they would be if she didn't have this approach.

 

[SW15]

Getting Laid While Unemployed And Living In Your Dad’s Basement

Back in 2011, Roosh wrote an article about getting laid when unemployed. It dealt with answering the "what do you do?" question.

When a woman in the initial stages like after a cold approach or being introduced from common friends ask that, she is basically asking what is your rank in the macro dominance hierarchy and if you're important enough for her to bother to talk to you.

She is basically showing that she considers you attractive enough to be worth a test but not attractive enough for her unless there is a further bonus or worse if you can be useful for perks or free meals.

This is probably the biggest test a man can make to gauge the genuine interest of a woman and her level of raw attraction.

Of all the girls I either dated or banged that found me genuinely attractive, the work talking came after hours or even the morning after.

I dislike talking about work or work-related topics in the early stages. I also dislike talking about it when I'm not there too. I don't want to talk about their jobs either for the most part.

When people talk about jobs too early and it's not the workplace or a business networking function, it shows a lack of imagination and a lack of strong conversational skills.

This can not only denote mild or low interest, it can also be indicative of her dating approach. Women like these are "processors" who are trying to tire-kick as many men as humanly possible. If she's not even concerned about creating a relational interaction at the start (i.e., a positive interaction for the both of you as opposed to her solely trying to weed out information), then it's a super-huge red flag. And if you do decide to pursue this woman for whatever reason, you're chances of getting anywhere are about 10% of what they would be if she didn't have this approach.

This approach is a very HR style approach. It's not surprising since a lot of women work in HR-related capacities. Even women who are not working in the HR job function sometimes take this approach.

HR does have not the power to hire you. HR does have the power to screen you out. Yes, this approach is indicative of a woman looking to screen you out.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Getting Laid While Unemployed And Living In Your Dad’s Basement

Back in 2011, Roosh wrote an article about getting laid when unemployed. It dealt with answering the "what do you do?" question.

Yes I recall that thread and I paid attention to it back then...I was in my mid 20s so not much to say about.

Now I'm simply done playing games, deflecting and avoiding tactics and so on.

I'm done walking on egg shells or burn precious energy trying to flog a dead horse.

I understand that women need to know if you have potential (wheter is progress or realized) but it has a place and time, it's not up to us to find ways to handle obstacles that were not supposed to be.

I dont see that as a sh1t test we need to pass but more like a test they do to themselves for us and fail.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

These days, she probably just wants to know you have one...that's how bad things are in terms of women's options. Simply being employed puts you head and shoulders above at least half of her options.

 

[Von]

" Wow we just meet and you want to talk boring stuff!

We dating, There's only fun talk between us. We here to have fun tonight"

"Yes, I am pretty impressive at it too; you might have seen my name in one of your fortune magazines"

 

[bat soup]

This is probably the only question that pisses me off enough that I instantly lose any attraction and any desire for that women...I want nothing to do with her.

When a man asks what do you do for a living, he wants to know how close you are to him for possible collaborations or if you can match his life style in case you become friends or at most if you are a threat when it comes of competing for women.

When a woman in the initial stages like after a cold approach or being introduced from common friends ask that, she is basically asking what is your rank in the macro dominance hierarchy and if you're important enough for her to bother to talk to you.

She is basically showing that she considers you attractive enough to be worth a test but not attractive enough for her unless there is a further bonus or worse if you can be useful for perks or free meals.

This is probably the biggest test a man can make to gauge the genuine interest of a woman and her level of raw attraction.

Of all the girls I either dated or banged that found me genuinely attractive, the work talking came after hours or even the morning after.

Often the questions a person asks tells you a lot about who they are. I'd certainly lose respect for a woman like this.

 

[Macadellic]

This is probably the only question that pisses me off enough that I instantly lose any attraction and any desire for that women...I want nothing to do with her.

I share the same feels with OP
but I love to answer her question and here’s why…

I have a new career with a level of high risk, status and it’s captivating. So when the gal perks up I discard her and the chase begins for her, which I then friend zone her.

She is just a friend.
“Yeah sure she wants me but I don’t want her”

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is probably the only question that pisses me off enough that I instantly lose any attraction and any desire for that women...I want nothing to do with her.

When a man asks what do you do for a living, he wants to know how close you are to him for possible collaborations or if you can match his life style in case you become friends or at most if you are a threat when it comes of competing for women.

When a woman in the initial stages like after a cold approach or being introduced from common friends ask that, she is basically asking what is your rank in the macro dominance hierarchy and if you're important enough for her to bother to talk to you.

She is basically showing that she considers you attractive enough to be worth a test but not attractive enough for her unless there is a further bonus or worse if you can be useful for perks or free meals.

This is probably the biggest test a man can make to gauge the genuine interest of a woman and her level of raw attraction.

Of all the girls I either dated or banged that found me genuinely attractive, the work talking came after hours or even the morning after.

Is that because you have a low paying job and think she is trying to weed you out?

 

[Who Dares Win]

Is that because you have a low paying job and think she is trying to weed you out?

Quite the opposite, I'm doing much better than most people around me in terms of wealth and free time.

I just dont want fabricated fake attraction and not because I work hard at the gym to have a top body but for the fact that a woman faking attraction for a man is like a man faking commitment to a woman.

If I have to put the work and the mental health, I want the premium package of genuine raw physical attraction.

Nobody wants to be the high income professional that the hot girls tolerate inside them to get the amazing life style.

That's itself a subtle form of rejection, if she needs to know what you can provide it means that she is not interested in you as a person if your place in the social hierarchy is not high enough.

 

[EyeBRollin]

It’s called the hard interview. While it is off-putting, she WILL ask sooner rather than later.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I never bring up what I do for work. In fact, one time I trolled a girl on OLD by saying I’m a surgeon and she kept bringing the topic back to it. I ended up unmatching lol.

 

[EyeBRollin]

I never bring up what I do for work. In fact, one time I trolled a girl on OLD by saying I’m a surgeon and she kept bringing the topic back to it. I ended up unmatching lol.

Of course - she was asking follow up questions to get to know more about what you do. It’s not good to lie because it requires additional lies.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Of course - she was asking follow up questions to get to know more about what you do. It’s not good to lie because it requires additional lies.

The issue was that she kept bringing it back up even after I said I wanted to talk about other things

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I always tell them hitman by day, stripper by night and see their response first then I'll usually tell them

 

[EyeBRollin]

The issue was that she kept bringing it back up even after I said I wanted to talk about other things

Because you were lying….

That always warrants further questioning.

 

[Mike32ct]

Can we please delete the whole pop psychology advice: “Ask people questions. They love to talk about themselves.”

That might be true for extroverts, but they try to make it sound likes it’s universally true.

As an introvert, I hate talking about myself in real life.

 

[Bokanovsky]

It’s funny, I was raised believing asking a man what he does for a living was a way to show interest, in him and his life given that for many men they place a lot of value on their jobs and career choice, their path, their journey.

At least that’s how it was in my neck of the woods growing up. Still is.

The problem is that this question carries a lot of ambiguity. Sometimes people ask it because they want to show interest. Sometimes they are passing judgment. I feel like, oftentimes, it's a question that gets asked because people can't think of anything else ask. I mean, you've just met someone, there's a limited number of things you can ask. Where are you from, what's your background, how old are you, what do you do...that just about covers it.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I never get asked about my job. I don’t know if that’s good or bad.
Either they don’t think this will last…so why bother. Or they’re all about themselves. Or it’s irrelevant to them as they’re into me no matter what. Or they just want the D…too many reasons. I just roll with it.

 

[Epicwinguy]

No point being upset. It’s basic human nature.