Observations from several hours at a huge festival with tens of thousands of people. It's never been easier to get a hot chick if you are a 5 or lower

[BackInTheGame78]

I have been going to this festival for many years. One of the largest festivals of it's kind in the country. Hundreds of Thousands of people attend it every year.

I was there about 3-4 hours and probably saw 20-30K people.

My observations? I have never in my life seen more 7-8+ women dating dudes who by all appearances are straight up losers with little to offer.

Skinny dudes covered in tattoos with missing teeth. Dudes shorter than they are that are at BEST a 5 with man boobs. Weird looking dudes that look like they are strung out.

From what I have seen there is really no excuse for a regular guy to complain he can't get a good looking woman these days. If those dudes can do it, literally ANYONE can.

You know why they have them while many on this board complain about no being able to attract them? Because regardless of what others may think or what they look like, they believe they are worth it and go after women who look good, and eventually convince one that they are worth it.

That's literally it. Because there is no way in the world you are going to convince me some dude with tattoos all over his neck and one on his face that looks like a crack baby is "so hot" that all these women are going to be swooning over him. The dude is at best a 4 and he had a banging chick with a smoking hot body and pretty face.

Guys...stop buying into this nonsense about it being so hard. It's never been easier to get a hot chick if you don't have a lot to offer. If you actually HAVE something to offer then you should have no issue simply by talking to enough of them.

I am literally stunned that it has gotten so ridiculous in terms of dudes that look like they are dead end job factory workers or unemployed dudes with hot chicks.

I don't want to hear another post hearing about "how bad it is" out there.

Stop complaining and go talk to some hot chicks, you'll likely be surprised at what they will settle for these days.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It’s because women select based on a guy’s communication abilities, over and above guys that “look hot”.

Sorry to say dude, you’re projecting male standards onto women.

Women literally DNGAF what you look like if you’ve got Game (ability to communicate).

Here’s the hierarchy for female gina tingles:

Game
Looks
Money/status

That's pretty much what I am saying...confidence in yourself will take you a lot farther than most people think.

Instead of thinking "that women would never be interested in someone like me" why not think to yourself "that woman is dying to get to know an amazing guy like me" And then go talk to her and see how something as simple as doing that before approaching can change things in subtle ways that aren't always apparent.

People who don't know you will always believe what you believe about yourself. How are you projecting yourself to them?

Most likely many of the people struggling are projecting that she is far too good for you and there is no way you think you deserve someone like her. If that's what YOU believe, she will also believe it. And you don't have to verbalize it, she will pick that up through all the other signals you are giving off...93% of the communication with another person is nonverbal.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

These couples could have met through their social circles...

 

[BackInTheGame78]

These couples could have met through their social circles...

Possibly, or from work(although we say not to date coworkers, it's a way that many people have met their SO).

The longer a woman knows you and the longer she spends time around you, the more attracted she becomes to other traits and the less looks matter. This has been shown over and over again through various studies.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It goes beyond confidence. I think most guys read “be confident” and think “ok I just gotta act confident. Derp”

Unfortunately it’s not that simple. To actually be confident you have to deeply love yourself. To actually love yourself you have to have a life that you’re proud of, and an internal warrior code like steel. Most guys fail in this area and so they will see “average looking dude with hot women” and thinks “why can’t I have that?” - and feel bitter

Yes, this is true. However, a person with internal confidence almost has to love themselves. This is what people who argue that you need to have success to be confident don't understand. True confidence is an internal thing. Fake confidence is externally based

While external factors happen, and it's nice to get someone to validate your beliefs, it's completely unnecessary. Some of the most confident people I have ever met failed over and over again while working their ass off in pursuit of their passions before eventually succeeding bigger than anyone thought possible.

They had an unwavering belief in themselves and simply saw failure as obstacles that needed to be overcome and they fully believed they would overcome them. And they did.

Simply believe you are good enough and you will be. I am not talking about convincing yourself you are but not really believing it. I am talking about deep down in your soul believing it so strongly that nobody can shake that belief from you. That takes a lot of work to get to that place if you are on the opposite end of the spectrum. But it can be done. You just have to be willing to work on your mindset and put the work in. Your work there will pay much greater dividends in all aspects of your life, far more than any amount of work in the gym could.