Do you think Chads that want to take it easy in life decide to marry up a lower-tier chick?

[MatureDJ]

I was reading this, and it got me interested:

Dear Care and Feeding: We’ve Been Telling Our Kids That Mom and Dad Earn “About the Same.” We Don’t.

Why are you living this way? Who’s making you?

slate.com

My husband and I have been happily married for 15 years, and I am confident that we will remain so. Our children are 12 and 14, both girls.

When they ask questions about money, we’ve always said that we make “about the same” or that perhaps Mom makes “a bit more, but money isn’t everything.” But the reality is that my husband has a fun, engaging, and low-paying job as a busy local musician—work he loves—while I have a stressful, demanding, and much (much) better-paying job in corporate management, which is tolerable on a good day and allows us to live a nice life but isn’t “fun” in any way no matter how we spin it.

The advice column author decided to use stock photos of a Chad and a woman that is most definitely not a Stacy - and perhaps had unconsciously internalized the idea that any man that is loafing in life by being a low-earning musician, but that is married to a high-earning corporate woman, must have other Sexual Market Value attributes (i.e., physical attractiveness, JBW, etc.).

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Yeah, it’s actually pretty common tbh. The life of Chad/Tyrone is pretty stressful tbh, they either settle at the right time or end up falling on their own shvt.

 

[Gamisch]

First of all she is not that bad looking imo. Maybe Chad has a thing for exotic looking women?

Secondly in this situation it seems like she is the one demanding a fancy lifestyle. I can imagine if they break up, Chad just decides to live life on a lower standard, less fancy but still being able to do the things he likes. He might also not be able to transition from this job to a job like she has.

But yeah , its not that much different from a man who decides to have a woman with high(er) smv while she brings less to the table ( beta buxx, she does the household). There's a price for everything.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

He then knocked a girl up - this was his main plate in a sea of plates. The sensitive side of him took over and he decided to keep the kid and be a dad. He moved in with the girl. The transformation was incredible. He got fat. Started gaming. Slowed right down. He’s only 29. I send him money sometimes. For his daughter. She’s a real cutey.

yeah exactly! Think of Chad as similar to a hot young girl. Eventually the cycle will end and the smart ones cash out before the decline. The other ones are either forced out by kids out of wedlock, jail or depressing life for spending their whole life chasing tail, or death.

 

[Zimbabwe]

You’re not a Chad if you settle. When a Chad settles he ceases to be a Chad.

I take my younger brother as a prime example. Monster of a Chad. He was such a Chad he even used to try and push me around, and sometimes succeeded because he was bigger and stronger and angrier. I was intimidated by him. I once farted on his head while he was watching TV. He leaped on top of me, disarmed me of a butter knife I had in my hand, sliced my forearm open (requiring 7 stitches), pinned me to the ground and head butted me several times in my face. I had to go to hospital. We laughed about it later but I still remember in those brief seconds during the fight thinking “oh sh1t. He’s actually fvcking owned me”

He was also a natural. Women immediately were drawn to him. It used to really annoy the hell out of guys because they’d bring their girlfriends to parties and their girlfriends would be all over him. He had this incredible combination of danger, strength but charm, sensitivity and stylishness. He dressed very well.

He then knocked a girl up - this was his main plate in a sea of plates. The sensitive side of him took over and he decided to keep the kid and be a dad. He moved in with the girl. The transformation was incredible. He got fat. Started gaming. Slowed right down. He’s only 29. I send him money sometimes. For his daughter. She’s a real cutey.

You have a very good talent for writing, really know how to keep the reader engaged. You should definitely consider writing a book on game.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Settling down with a woman, getting fat, having a kid and getting divorce raped 5 years later isn’t “winning” or “cashing out”

compared to the alternative it is winning. My friend looks like John Snow from GOT, and he decided to keep plowing through women and he has two kids out of wedlock, a DUI from a girl, a pending court case from a girl which keeps him from leaving the state, going from one dead end job to another because again prioritized Chasing tail over development, countless STDs, and he’s fat now. His quality of girls has definitely decreased

VS

My Chad friend that settled for a girl slightly below his looks, but still good. They own a house in a popular US city, make decent money, has a decent job, and has hobbies of his own. Yes things could go south for him, but I’d much rather be him than my first friend.

Being a Chad isn’t easy whatsoever.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

The best option for a man is to be strong alone and to love yourself intensely, but realistically. Treat women like friends you have sex with. Enjoy their femininity. Don’t get addicted to it.

I fully agree with you. I’m just trying to point out the usual path of Chad if he doesn’t fold at the right time. Being Chad, isn’t a sustainable lifestyle whatsoever.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I was reading this, and it got me interested:

Dear Care and Feeding: We’ve Been Telling Our Kids That Mom and Dad Earn “About the Same.” We Don’t.

Why are you living this way? Who’s making you?

slate.com

The advice column author decided to use stock photos of a Chad and a woman that is most definitely not a Stacy - and perhaps had unconsciously internalized the idea that any man that is loafing in life by being a low-earning musician, but that is married to a high-earning corporate woman, must have other Sexual Market Value attributes (i.e., physical attractiveness, JBW, etc.).

9s and 10s are recreational use only. It's why average girls and 6s get the ring. Usually poached before the CC pulled young and acquisitions to resources based upon loyalty.

Aaron clarey is a curmudgeon but has the most accurate diagnosis of women and the smp. Women really don't like men. They are opportunistic vultures pursuing the best deal. Will jump ship and are encouraged to behave poorly.

No rush of the following warrants marriage nor a commitment. More accurately dumbass deserves divorce rape for being an idiot and playing house. Play stupid game. Win stupid prizes.

Clarey spoke about women from the 90s. A 6 was hotter than then today's hottest 10. Cannot comment on this but I will say it's intolerable.

The reality is that the men marry average or barely above. They exercise options. I've never seen a 10. I saw a 9.5 once. She kept staring at herself in the mirror and playing with her hair. Valueless outside pump and dump. Recreational use only. Sent back to the streets.

 

[MatureDJ]

You’re not a Chad if you settle. When a Chad settles he ceases to be a Chad.

I take my younger brother as a prime example. Monster of a Chad. He was such a Chad he even used to try and push me around, and sometimes succeeded because he was bigger and stronger and angrier. I was intimidated by him. I once farted on his head while he was watching TV. He leaped on top of me, disarmed me of a butter knife I had in my hand, sliced my forearm open (requiring 7 stitches), pinned me to the ground and head butted me several times in my face. I had to go to hospital. We laughed about it later but I still remember in those brief seconds during the fight thinking “oh sh1t. He’s actually fvcking owned me”

He was also a natural. Women immediately were drawn to him. It used to really annoy the hell out of guys because they’d bring their girlfriends to parties and their girlfriends would be all over him. He had this incredible combination of danger, strength but charm, sensitivity and stylishness. He dressed very well.

He then knocked a girl up - this was his main plate in a sea of plates. The sensitive side of him took over and he decided to keep the kid and be a dad. He moved in with the girl. The transformation was incredible. He got fat. Started gaming. Slowed right down. He’s only 29. I send him money sometimes. For his daughter. She’s a real cutey.

You sound like you came from a dysfunctional family.