My cue to ask her out?

Sgthaytham

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This might be pretty obvious...

Met a girl a couple nights ago through some work colleagues of mine.

Pretty damn cute. Didn't do much talking at the start, but we eventually played darts together and she gave me the rest of her sandwich.

Accidentally threw a dart at her finger.

Sent her a message this evening asking her if her finger was in a sling and she responds "ahahaha it's recovered"

Didn't see any point in responding, so I let it be.

An hour or so later and she's sent me "So what are you plans this weekend?"
 

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It is obvious. Stop doubting yourself.
 

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It is obvious. Stop doubting yourself.
Sometimes I do, especially in the initial steps... What makes it obvious in this case, though? The fact that she asked what I was up to?
 

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She is clearly expressing interest. Your response should be something like “I’m going to (something definite and exciting) would you like to join me”.
 

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She is clearly expressing interest. Your response should be something like “I’m going to (something definite and exciting) would you like to join me”.
Expressing interest in person, the other night, or by text?
 

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Her: What are your plans this weekend?

You: I havent decided yet. How about you join me for (something you would actually enjoy regardless of company).
 

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This might be pretty obvious...

Met a girl a couple nights ago through some work colleagues of mine.

Pretty damn cute. Didn't do much talking at the start, but we eventually played darts together and she gave me the rest of her sandwich.

Accidentally threw a dart at her finger.

Sent her a message this evening asking her if her finger was in a sling and she responds "ahahaha it's recovered"

Didn't see any point in responding, so I let it be.

An hour or so later and she's sent me "So what are you plans this weekend?"
Tell her what you are doing. Tell her to come through. /thread
 

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Expressing interest in person, the other night, or by text?
Stop thinking about this. She has indicated interest. Make your move NOW!

If she is really interested in you then you only have a short window to act. If you wait too long she will think you lack the balls to ask and she will move on.
 

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It is, but don't ask her out...just say what you have going on and if you don't have anything on one day, give her a green light...

Say something like "going out with some Friends for dinner Saturday and just probably relaxing Sunday and getting some things done around the house. What about you?"

If she is interested she will probably say something like "Oh that sounds like fun...I am meeting up with some girlfriends tomorrow but don't have any plans for Sunday either...did you want to do something?"

Being too eager in these situations and asking her out when she asks that question usually backfires.

Play it a little aloof and cool. Drives them crazy.
 
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