Not sexually interested in current LTR

[EyeBRollin]

@catsmeow @EyeBRollin
We are going to trial her moving in with me for this year, with a view to purchasing a property together next year. I do love this woman, I don’t think it will be easy to find another best friend, my friends and family all agree with my decision.

Is marriage in the long term cards or just LTR?

 

[Murk]

Is marriage in the long term cards or just LTR?

Yes marriage too, I told her some prenup might be in place and she is not bothered by that (green flag).

 

[EyeBRollin]

Yes marriage too, I told her some prenup might be in place and she is not bothered by that (green flag).

Just an FYI-divorce rate is significantly higher among couples that cohabitate prior to marriage.

 

[Murk]

Just an FYI-divorce rate is significantly higher among couples that cohabitate prior to marriage.

Hmm that’s interesting. I feel we need the cohabitation to see if this can work, I’ve never lived with a gf before. I might get sick of her and not want this after 6 months.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Hmm that’s interesting. I feel we need the cohabitation to see if this can work, I’ve never lived with a gf before. I might get sick of her and not want this after 6 months.

Are you looking to make things work or looking to get rid of her? Sounds like the latter…

 

[Murk]

Are you looking to make things work or looking to get rid of her? Sounds like the latter…

I’m looking to see if my fear of commitment is pushing a good woman away, someone who I know I love.

Isn’t moving in like a litmus test of a relationship? Maybe deep down I’m just buying some extra time, I’m definitely open to going all the way with this though.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Isn’t moving in like a litmus test of a relationship?

No. It is not. Usually it is the planned death of a relationship.

 

[Bokanovsky]

If we were each others firsts and had a kid, would be different, but knowing where shes been and how much of a slut she used to be, makes me apathetic towards the relationship.

Sign of the times I guess...

Peace and live to all

Not a difficult choice.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I was in the same position as you, and I’m the same age. However we were having sex and it was good I just found my ex facially not great sometimes, gorgeous others. I felt I could do better as a good looking 6’2 entrepreneur making good money, why settle for my 30+ year old LTR.

I had the tough convo where I said there’s no spark and “you’re not my happily ever after”. Hardest thing I’ve done, maybe I was too harsh. Anyway we kept seeing each other through covid lockdowns last year and ended up semi together without the title.

We broke up again in January mutually but kept in contact and having sex. Now she’s moving on I kind of feel I made a mistake and maybe should stop being so shallow as we have a great connection she’s my best friend and very feminine/loyal/submissive/traditional.

Its very confusing to always feel you can do better, my previously relationship was the same, didn’t really find my gf attractive, cheated on her, toxic and ended horribly.

It’s okay to settle with not a super model right?

She doesn't have to be a supermodel but you shouldn't feel like you could do much better either.

 

[Bokanovsky]

No. It is not. Usually it is the planned death of a relationship.

Agreed. No point in living together unless you have kids.

 

[svencandy]

Thanks for the replies, good advice in here.
It's officially over. Guess I'll try to upload some field reports.

New relationship experience, it's a natural thing, for natural purposes.

Her negative attitude and treating those lower than her has always been there, but gets worse as she moves up the ladder.

Blinded by her looks I guess.

 

[svencandy]

No. It is not. Usually it is the planned death of a relationship.

Unfortunately this is the case.

Would be fine at 21 though