Jesse Pinkman
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So this may come off as a bit analogous because it involves something completely unrelated to dating and meeting women but it speaks to how both guys operate. I have two friends, let's call one Friend A and another Friend B, for the sake of making this thread A and B. Friend A is your prototypical Chad who has had his fair share of success with women. Friend B, even though there is a lot to respect about him because he is a good dude, has a lot of struggles with women.
Now a year ago, both friends wanted to get a dog. Let's face it, when getting a dog, deep down inside most of us want a pretty dog.
Friend A wanted an Australian Shepherd, you can google them up, they are a pretty dog. Friend B wanted a Golden Retriever, once again, cute dogs.
Friend B went around talking about how he was getting a dog and before you know it, people and friends were badgering him into the whole "adopt don't shop" mentality. Eventually, Friend B went to a local shelter because he wanted to be a good person. Poor guy had to get references in order to get a dog, fill out a ton of paper work, have someone visit his place to see if he was providing a good home for the dog, and then ended up getting a half Pitbull and half Greyhound mix. For anyone who has gotten a dog from a shelter or rescue before, you know what it can be like. What's funny is I got drunk with a few girls months later who said that the dog looks ugly. I tell them "but he adopted it from a shelter", at which point they say he could have at least adopted a pretty dog. One of the girls were the ones that badgered him into adopting.
Friend A only tells me and a couple of his other close friends about getting a dog, he told no one else. Before we know it, a couple months later, he gets the breed he desired. Now here is the dirty secret he tells me many months later, he got the dog from a Pet Store. You don't ever want to tell someone you get a dog from a pet store because it is seen as unethical and associated with the whole Puppy Mills thing. I asked him why, he said he went the shelter and rescue route but they put him through a bunch of BS he refused to deal with. After that, he went the reputable breeder route but they wanted him to fill out a ton of papers and inspect his home. Finally, he said screw it and got the puppy from a pet store.
Here's where things get weird. Friend B's dog came out with a weird temperament and even bit him, he had to give it up. Friend A's dog, despite the world saying how all pet store puppies are undesirable, has been loyal to him and worked out well. Friend B had to return his dog to the shelter and is now without a dog.
Now this is where it become relevant to game. Friend A's dog has helped him actually meet women and he met his girlfriend because of his dog, she approached him because of it. He told her initially he "rescued" it but then months down the road when she kept probing, he said he told her he "rescued it from a pet store", she never held it against him in the end.
Due to how this whole thing worked out, I noticed an underlying difference in approach to life between Chads and guys that struggle:
1. Friend A never revealed his intentions to other people about getting a dog, he told me he knew how preachy people can get here so rather keep quiet about it. Friend B had to tell everyone and ask for help, in which case people got on their moral bandwagon.
2. Friend A was unapologetic to himself about the kind of dog he wanted and explored all the avenues to get it. Friend B let others make the decision for him due to their own morals.
3. Friend A would not anyone convince him into altering his decision because of moral reasons (aka "adopt don't shop"). Friend B went from wanting a Golden Retriever to letting others convince him that he needs a shelter dog.
4. When ethical avenues proved to be tough, Friend A went the socially frowned upon route (getting a dog from a pet store). Once again, playing around the rules instead of strictly by them, knowing he will be judged but not caring. Friend B stuck to playing by the rules and winning social approval, even if it meant he had to get a dog he didn't truly like.
It also showed me how emotional people get about how you get your dog and how they try to make you feel guilty for wanting a Golden Retriever over a dog from a shelter that you don't even know the breed of.
Now a year ago, both friends wanted to get a dog. Let's face it, when getting a dog, deep down inside most of us want a pretty dog.
Friend A wanted an Australian Shepherd, you can google them up, they are a pretty dog. Friend B wanted a Golden Retriever, once again, cute dogs.
Friend B went around talking about how he was getting a dog and before you know it, people and friends were badgering him into the whole "adopt don't shop" mentality. Eventually, Friend B went to a local shelter because he wanted to be a good person. Poor guy had to get references in order to get a dog, fill out a ton of paper work, have someone visit his place to see if he was providing a good home for the dog, and then ended up getting a half Pitbull and half Greyhound mix. For anyone who has gotten a dog from a shelter or rescue before, you know what it can be like. What's funny is I got drunk with a few girls months later who said that the dog looks ugly. I tell them "but he adopted it from a shelter", at which point they say he could have at least adopted a pretty dog. One of the girls were the ones that badgered him into adopting.
Friend A only tells me and a couple of his other close friends about getting a dog, he told no one else. Before we know it, a couple months later, he gets the breed he desired. Now here is the dirty secret he tells me many months later, he got the dog from a Pet Store. You don't ever want to tell someone you get a dog from a pet store because it is seen as unethical and associated with the whole Puppy Mills thing. I asked him why, he said he went the shelter and rescue route but they put him through a bunch of BS he refused to deal with. After that, he went the reputable breeder route but they wanted him to fill out a ton of papers and inspect his home. Finally, he said screw it and got the puppy from a pet store.
Here's where things get weird. Friend B's dog came out with a weird temperament and even bit him, he had to give it up. Friend A's dog, despite the world saying how all pet store puppies are undesirable, has been loyal to him and worked out well. Friend B had to return his dog to the shelter and is now without a dog.
Now this is where it become relevant to game. Friend A's dog has helped him actually meet women and he met his girlfriend because of his dog, she approached him because of it. He told her initially he "rescued" it but then months down the road when she kept probing, he said he told her he "rescued it from a pet store", she never held it against him in the end.
Due to how this whole thing worked out, I noticed an underlying difference in approach to life between Chads and guys that struggle:
1. Friend A never revealed his intentions to other people about getting a dog, he told me he knew how preachy people can get here so rather keep quiet about it. Friend B had to tell everyone and ask for help, in which case people got on their moral bandwagon.
2. Friend A was unapologetic to himself about the kind of dog he wanted and explored all the avenues to get it. Friend B let others make the decision for him due to their own morals.
3. Friend A would not anyone convince him into altering his decision because of moral reasons (aka "adopt don't shop"). Friend B went from wanting a Golden Retriever to letting others convince him that he needs a shelter dog.
4. When ethical avenues proved to be tough, Friend A went the socially frowned upon route (getting a dog from a pet store). Once again, playing around the rules instead of strictly by them, knowing he will be judged but not caring. Friend B stuck to playing by the rules and winning social approval, even if it meant he had to get a dog he didn't truly like.
It also showed me how emotional people get about how you get your dog and how they try to make you feel guilty for wanting a Golden Retriever over a dog from a shelter that you don't even know the breed of.
