My experience with a single mom

[_sideways_]

They don't hug you as much as a girl with no kids.

Women with no kids will cuddle and hold you like a teddy bear.
Not this one ...one kid.... barely anything contact related, besides sex.

I know the child will always be her first priority....but...it is nice knowing you can live your life and come see her when she has time...and do your dirt.

But it's not the same when a girl wants to hug you because you're the love of her life.

I'm sure married guys in here have felt that. Once that first kid is born...you are in second place.

And maybe I'm butthurt...and there is pros and cons to it.
A girl with no kid has time to waste your time. And one with a child has no time.

Maybe that's how married life is . You used to be into each other...then the baby came and now...it's all about the baby

 

[bat soup]

You can't draw all of these conclusions from a sample size of 1. That's like saying I dated a blonde and she didn't like holding hands in public and concluding that this means that blond women don't like holding hands.

 

[_sideways_]

True.
Each women has her style.

I'm just saying....
It's my first time dating a single mom...and it feels like I'm always in second place.

Maybe other guys can chime in.
But.... obviously her kid will always be first.

That's why when married guys have kids....the kid takes priority....

 

[MatureDJ]

I have always thought single mommies look at their supportive stepdaddies in a similar way that a professional gal looks at her johns - the deed needs to be done (and is done in a professional manner), but it is one of financial necessity, not true desire.

 

[MatureDJ]

It's my first time dating a single mom...and it feels like I'm always in second place.

If you're sharing her bed, she has the opportunity to at least deliver starfish sex before going to sleep.

 

[SW15]

Once that first kid is born...you are in second place.

I can't deal with being in second place to a child that isn't my own. It's difficult enough to be in second place to a child that is your own.

Maybe that's how married life is . You used to be into each other...then the baby came and now...it's all about the baby

That's how married life is to some extent. However, in childless marriages and LTRs of 5+ years with cohabitation and no babies, the passion eventually dissipates. The bigger enemy of relationships is duration of time. However, duration of time often leads to cohabitation, marriage, and babies.

A girl with no kid has time to waste your time. And one with a child has no time.

Time wasters and those with no time are both bad choices.

 

[RangerMIke]

You can't draw all of these conclusions from a sample size of 1. That's like saying I dated a blonde and she didn't like holding hands in public and concluding that this means that blond women don't like holding hands.

Biggest problem with dating is that too many men draw too many general conclusions. I blame this on on-line relationship and dating videos delivered as FACT to a broad audience.

Everyone is different, everyone shows affection different. Some people they show they like you with gifts... some think gift giving is needy. Some are big time huggers: some hate PDA... you just don't know what you have until you see how a person behaves with others. There are really only four 'general' conclusions when it comes to women.

(1) Women make decisions about you quick... and if you don't pick up on her attraction and take action you've missed your window of opportunity.

(2) Women that like you will put in effort.

(3) If she starts making things hard and getting b1tchy, your turn on the ride is almost over.

(4) How a woman behaves in any given moment can change from day to day. Her behavior is reflected based on her feelings and mood AT THAT MOMENT.

Things like HOW she lets you know she is interested, WHAT is effort to her, and her individual behavior will change from chick to chick.

 

[derby1]

They don't hug you as much as a girl with no kids.

thats because they dont know whats it like to be loved by a man, or to love a man.

they are from dysfunctional households.

 

[derby1]

Everyone is different, everyone shows affection different.

this is true, for instance current plate, I can validate her and she still blows my phone up pays for things, and she gives me loads of compliments.

she doesnt go all weird after shes took a bit of my non sexual attention.

its a nice feeling, I just take every day as it comes,

 

[Xenom0rph]

But why would any man settle for a woman that treats him, at best, as a 2nd priority? I can understand if that's your kid. But it's not your kid.

This is not a relationship that any man should be in for the long term.

 

[mrskinnypantz]

Single moms can be weird .
I remember jokingly saying " I'll be waiting for that plate" after a woman offered me some food she cooked she went on a small rant saying she'll bring it after her baby's are sleep , never heard from her or got my plate ,she saw me today walking with another woman and she told me to text her , fvck no.
B1tch tweeked on me for no reason. She's out