Anyone anyone gone for a rules girl whos a friend?

IamtheAlphamale

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Yeah so I've been bestfriends with this girl for 12 years. About a year into our friendship I showed her the female equivalent to pua stuff. With an emphasis on self growth.

She used it on me ever since. And she's hardcore into it. But she stopped talking about that subject like 6 years ago.

I don't know if her bf is real. She barely responds to my texts or hangs out. But when she was drunk b4 she told me she uses text game on me and that's why we chill infrequently.

She's actually really awesome. I just mass text her all the time. But I started asking her out in September and she's just been rejecting me. But we started talking on the phone a lot when I started doing that. But then I started seeing someone for a bit and she hasn't talked to me on the phone since January. I think cause she's upset and doesn't want me to hear her voice because it would b obvious.

I went online on YouTube and the way she's communicating is exactly what they say to do. I actually think she's great but we both use strategy and she blurts stuff out sometimes and then tries to cover it up etc.

Also a bunch of her friends have tried to get with me in the past. And she's tried to sleep with me 3 times when she was drunk. And she's brought me back to her house when we were drunk a maybe 50 times and I slept in her bed but not for years. She's also grabbed my junk like maybe 200 times but not for like 5 years. But originally her bf was one of my best friends so it was really awkward for me that she was pursuing me and feeling me up etc because I'm a super loyal person.

Anyways there's no doubt she's obsessed with me. But I don't know what her game is and I've called her out a bunch. I started asking her out a few days ago. But the next morning she said her uncle died that night. And now she's saying not to ask her out cause it's weird for her. Cause she's tried to play like she's not interested for the last ten years but continued to feel Me up etc till she tightened her game.

I'm just wondering if anyone knows advanced girl game. She always used to say men want what they can't have.

I know it might sound like she's not interested. But she had in her words anxiety coughs when we were talking on the phone a bunch and she was extremelyextremelyhappy. It's possible I recently messed things up. But I doubt it. I taught her the game. So we're both using strategy. Anyone have ideas? And being a **** to her is off the table.

Also I didn't do anything weak. My fear of rejection is negative. It makes me feel amazing when I get rejected.

Thanks for reading this and any ideas
 

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Nice try OP

Someone will fall for it though.
What do you mean? Also she's got a masters degree in psychology. And she probably knows I'm on this site so may be checking to learn my profile

If u mean I'm a spy... I've been a member here for like 20 years
 

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BFF forever... :love:




This is exactly why men and women never truly can be friends. One of the other party will at some point want more and guys will hang around in that friend zone for years, while that girl is getting railed by all other guys..

Meanwhile you're just her emotional tampon and she receives the benefits from that. The guy however not so much I would argue, unless, you want to talk feelings all day.

@IamtheAlphamale isn't it time to move on?
If she really wanted you then it would have happened long time ago.
 
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BFF forever... :love:




This is exactly why men and women never truly can be friends. One of the other party will at some point want more and guys will hang around in that friend zone for years, while that girl is getting railed by all other guys..

Meanwhile you're just her emotional tampon and she receives the benefits from that. The guy however not so much I would argue, unless, you want to talk feelings all day.

@IamtheAlphamale isn't it time to move on?
If she really wanted you then it would have happened long time ago.
She doesn't cry to me about stuff at all actually.

Like I said she's hardcore obsessed with me. But I wanna break through her strategy and need some advice.
 

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BFF forever... :love:




This is exactly why men and women never truly can be friends. One of the other party will at some point want more and guys will hang around in that friend zone for years, while that girl is getting railed by all other guys..

Meanwhile you're just her emotional tampon and she receives the benefits from that. The guy however not so much I would argue, unless, you want to talk feelings all day.

@IamtheAlphamale isn't it time to move on?
If she really wanted you then it would have happened long time ago.
Are none of u guys familiar with female dating strategy? I know a bunch about it actually
 

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Are none of u guys familiar with female dating strategy? I know a bunch about it actually
I've seen advice that says if you're both trying to game each other it causes a standstill/stalemate where no progress can be made.
 

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Just block her. She’ll find a way to communicate if she’s attached if not, next.

She doesn't cry to me about stuff at all actually.

Like I said she's hardcore obsessed with me. But I wanna break through her strategy and need some advice.
 

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Yeah so I've been bestfriends with this girl for 12 years.
She barely responds to my texts or hangs out. But when she was drunk b4 she told me she uses text game on me and that's why we chill infrequently.
She's actually really awesome.
To me it sounds like she lost interest in you about 5 years ago because you didn't make a move.
 

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It doesn’t matter what you think each of you are trying to do at this point. She clearly has no interest in dating you but she’s living in your head rent free. I know you think this is a two way street but I can just about guarantee she isn’t at some women’s site writing long posts about you. She doesn’t care and you aren’t keeping her up at night.

Start focusing your energy on other women. This one is not worth the time and effort at this juncture.
 

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"The Rules" is a book written for women to get the man that they want. It was published in 1995.

Because the book was published in 1995, very few women under 35-40 have even heard of it or read it. It likely also has references to outdated technology at this point, such as landline telephones. Doc Love's "The System", which came out around the same time, also had references to landline telephones in it.

Some have claimed that the rise in interest in PUA stuff in the late 1990s/early 2000s was in part a response to women who followed the advice of "The Rules" book. The late 1990s/early 2000s is when PUAs like Mystery, David DeAngelo, etc. started getting more popular. All these PUAs and their strategies/tactics were profiled in Neil Strauss' 2005 book, "The Game". When "The Game" was published in 2005, it mainstreamed PUA stuff a little bit more, but there was a strong internet presence of PUA stuff before 2005. Even SoSuave was around and popular prior to 2005.
 
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